Boyfriends new female friend

[Bunnehgirl]

Hi, this is my first time posting in any sort of forum =)

 

 

Was just looking for a second opinion about my boyfriends female friend.

We have been dating for about 3 years now and a few months ago we broke up for a while, this was because we both stopped communicating and took it out on each other for stresses financially and from our careers. During the break up he started confiding emotionally in this female friend (that we both just met a few months ago) who was dating on and off another friend of ours.

 

 

 

After a few weeks we both wanted to get back together and try again and it’s going really well (Even though at the moment it’s long distance). The only thing is, this female friend of his has brought up the possibility of a future with my boyfriend with him while we were separated (also while she was still dating this friend of ours). My boyfriend says that he said no, but they are still great friends with no awkwardness between them. But it is awkward for me now because I am convinced she has her own agenda. Also my boyfriend is the type that is “too nice” to tell her to completely back off.. if that makes sense.

 

 

 

I feel awkward about the whole situation, especially since she has even stayed over at his house once (and I am still interstate) by herself. I feel guilty for not trusting him but I really feel threatened. I don’t want to be overprotective, but honestly I have no way of knowing if anything was going on unless he told me.

 

 

 

I have explained how I feel to him before, and sometimes he gets frustrated that I don’t trust him. But it has been extra hard especially since the rocky patch we have been through. She was very much “there” once I was gone.

Other times he is really reassuring. It’s not like I’m the new addition to this triangle as he has known me for much longer aswell.

 

 

 

Am I worrying about nothing? How should I deal with this?

[madjac74]

I hate being negative but my ex-wife had a friend at work she was "confiding" in when we had our first separation. We made an attempt to work things out and things went good for awhile and then this is when I found out about the "friend".

 

After our divorce, guess who she started dating...yep! her friend who "was just someone to talk to and who could relate to her problems".

 

You shouldn't trust him or her intentions but like they say keep your friends close and your enemies closer.

[TheEnergizer]

If he really cared about the relationship, he would tone down his friendship or cut if off. People like to use the "why don't you trust me" line as an excuse to abuse your trust. You can't expect someone to trust you when you do things that would make one question your character.