nzleagle Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 Ive been married to my wife for 2 1/2 years now, we have been together for 5 1/2, we have two wonderful children, and have gone though quite a bit together with the kids medical conditions... Just after we first got together I started an apprenticeship, which I gave up when she got pregnant because we could not afford to live off just my apprentice wages, I went and joined the Navy, and we were barely surviving off the wages. The Navy then started cost cutting, and laying people off, as well as cutting the benefits that were helping us survive, My mum works in a mine in Australia, and rather than getting pushed, It would be an idea to look into trying to get into the mines, and tipple my wages. Wife agreed to it on a 2-3 year plan, to save some money to get behind us, and then head back to New Zealand. In September 2011, I moved over to Australia with a job in the mines, in November my wife and Kids followed. Come February my wife was already missing her family, and wanted to go home, I reminded her of our plan and goals, but then in May, she decided that she was going home, I spent a week looking at jobs in New Zealand, and I could not justify moving back and taking between 60 and 70% pay cut, when were still in the getting settled phase, so I told her that she could go, but I would stay, I came here with a goal to get my family ahead, and if I was to leave now, we would be worse off than before we left. She agreed to me staying here for 2 years, getting some savings up behind me, before coming back. Problem is, the job I am doing over here, will not get me a job paying half what I am on here, let alone a similar wage, and as I have kept on giving up my "trades" to keep us out of trouble, come November 2014 when she expects me to go back to NZ, we will be in the same situation as when we left, living pay to pay, with the difference been we will have a good amount of savings to go towards a house deposit, but I can see that just been eaten up just to live. I thought we had it going pretty good here, we never went without, were going on trips, I had plenty of time with her and the kids, and now that she has gone back, she is already complaining about the cost of living. I feel like im on a double edged sword, If I stay here, I miss out on time with my Kids, and when I do go back the time away would of been wasted because we wont be earning enough to make our end goal a reality, but then if I go back now, we will go back to living paycheck to paycheck, still not see the kids because of the hours I would have to work to making a living, and probably end up fighting all the time because of money. I know money isn't everything, but I don't want to struggle my whole life just to make ends meet. I feel like im looking out for our family, but she's just looking out for herself, HELP!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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