Ugh, leave me alone!

[Nyla]

My mother has expressed sadness that we are not closer. She wishes "things could have been different" between us and she complains that I don't want her in my life.

 

I don't feel close to my mother at all. She was very emotionally and physically abusive during my childhood and when I became an adult, it changed to manipulative acts in an attempt to control me. For example, my husband and I eloped so that we wouldn't have to be around her. My mother offered to pay for our wedding, on the condition that she plan EVERYTHING. I wasn't going to allow that woman to turn our wedding into a lavish spectacle to make herself look rich. She is very materialistic.

 

After years of abuse, my mother is starting to actually say nice things about me. She even talks about what a good daughter I was. I will never understand what made my mother treat me so badly since I was well behaved and responsible. She refuses to accept any responsibility for the abuse and she says her kids "provoked" her.

 

I wish that she would stop trying to be my friend. I just don't feel emotionally safe with my mother. I feel sorry for my her because she is a damaged person who had a hard life. Now she is lonely because 3 out of 4 of her adult kids rarely visit or call. Her guilt is not my cross to bear and I will NOT reassure her that she was the great mother she thought she was. I don't blow smoke up anyone's ass.

 

My eldest bro refuses to speak to any of his siblings or our parents. The youngest is living at home at age 26 because he was the special spoiled one.

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There is thread called "narcissistic" parents try to dig it up doll and it will explain so much actually it will explain every doubt suspicion issue problem you ever had plus it will show you that you are not alone in this.

 

There are more of us on it then you would even be able to guess

HUGS