epiphone Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 the girl i like the last week i told her i liked her and she was cool with that and everytihng and she went to chicago. While she was there she called me every night at least once and i called her about just as much and we talked for a LONG time on the phone so i figured great things are looking better. so the day she gets back we had plans to do something she called and said she had to babysit now so she couldnt and i siad ok call me while you babysit if you get bored and she said she would so im with my friends but i went home early so i would be home if she got bored and talk to her, but i got no call. THe next day i have my freind over and he says he saw (my girl) at this party last night and she was really drunk and went into a room with this guy so im like no way she said she was babysitting. So i called her and I was like so you went to that kids party last night and she said yes and I asked her if she hooked up with that guy. She said I don't remember I went into rooms with alot of people. That strikes me as terribly slutty and someone I don't want to be around so Im extremely upset by that But then another side of me is saying im being controlling and we ARENT going out so i have no right to hinder what she does im confused, do i have a reason to be mad? because right now my decison is to cut off all contact as I don't want to be involved with someone who is like that because that is asking to be hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 Originally posted by epiphone THe next day i have my freind over and he says he saw (my girl) at this party last night and she was really drunk and went into a room with this guy so im like no way she said she was babysitting. So i called her and I was like so you went to that kids party last night and she said yes Did she lie and just go to a party or did she go to a party after she was done babysitting? If she just went to a party and lied to you about it, dump her. and I asked her if she hooked up with that guy. She said I don't remember I went into rooms with alot of people. That strikes me as terribly slutty and someone I don't want to be around so Im extremely upset by that It depends on why she went into rooms with different people. If she were just going to rooms with different groups of people to mingle, it doesn't mean it was sexual. On the other hand, if she is going into rooms with one other person to be alone with that person, yeah - I agree that it fits my definition of slutty behavior too. Why doesn't she remember though? Was she drunk so that she doesn't remember what SHE did, or was it as I mentioned in my first scenario? But then another side of me is saying im being controlling and we ARENT going out so i have no right to hinder what she does Well, no matter what you don't have the right to attempt to hinder what anyone does! im confused, do i have a reason to be mad? because right now my decison is to cut off all contact as I don't want to be involved with someone who is like that because that is asking to be hurt. Well, sure you can be mad if you want, but I wouldn't waste the energy. If you and she did not make any formal arrangement or commitment to each other, then she can behave any way she wants. If, during all your phone conversations, you talked about getting together and dating or being a couple when she got back, then her behavior is a bit disrespectful--in my opinion. But with today's youth, anything goes if there is no agreed upon commitment. If you start dating her and you agree to be exclusive, do you think that she would still behave this way? You need to talk directly with her before jumping to conclusions based on what someone else said. Also, why weren't you invited to the party? Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 You can't be mad but have the right to be disgusted. It depends on what your looking for.. if your looking for a girl to just boink then shes sounds like a good running candidate...if your looking for a relationship..run away. Your not even together and she lied, went to a party, got piss drunk, went into rooms with people, and doesn't remember what happened... Oh yeah forget her man. power! lol Link to post Share on other sites
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