Need advice: Want to move to close distance between us.

[djshurkey]

Sorry that the Thread Description does not fully explain the problem.

 

Here is my situation, please bear with me.

 

6 years ago, I met this lovely person in a chat room. After about a week or so, we hit it off. We started talking to each other on a daily basis. About 3-4 weeks after hitting it off, we planned on me going over to visit her. I live in Michigan and she lives in Edmonton Albertia (We'll call her Edmonton)

 

We ended up meeting at her home town. Once again, we hit it off very good. Her parents liked me, as well as her sisters. Everything was going great, until I had to fly back home. That is when the distance between us finally hit me, and hard. At the time, I felt that nothing could ever come of this relationship cause of the distance. I ended up leaving her to be with someone that lived in my area.

 

The person that I left her for, turned out to be the begining of a very bad series of relationships. Every relationship that I was in ended by someone cheating on me. I thought it wasnt that bad,. but recently found out that everyone in fact DID cheat on me. I was in 4 relationships after the relationship in Edmonton. 2 of those relationships, the females made me believe that I was going to be a father. Now some of you may think that would scare a person away, but they both knew that I wanted nothing more than to be a father. Both females lied about the fact. One was not even pregnant, and the other was, but after testing turned out it was not mine.

 

So, 4 bad relations, and 6 years later, I saw that "Edmonton" signed my guest book. Well we started to talk again. Like last time, we fell in love with each other all over again. After about 2 weeks of talking again, we planned on visiting each other again. Like last time, I am going to go there on August 20th 2004. We started talking in April.

 

Here is the problem. The distance is being felt again, but this time I am trying to change that. I have been looking into move there to be with her. This is not just my idea, but both of ours. We both feel, that if the relationship is going to work, we need to live closer. I have been doing searches on the laws of immigration. It will be easier for her to move here, but I told her that I wouldnt ask her to do that. She is very very close with her family there. I am asking if any one would be able to help me find the information that I will need to move there legally. The hard part is obtaining a work visa there. I have looked into just moving there and trying for a work visa. The problem with that is the needing a job offer to be able to move there. I also looked into going to school there to get a student visa and a temp work visa. The problem with that is, I can not find any place that will give a US citizen a student loan for an "International School".

 

Could someone please help me in any way possible?

[kizmet74]

I know we're supposed to be "nice" on the forum. But I just have to know... if you're so into this girl, why you still bangin your ex-fiancee??

 

My advice.... start with a little honesty.

[devyna]

Kiz,

Your advice falls on deaf ears. DJS wants nothing more than to lie his way through life. Hell, he can't even be honest enough to give the full story here asking for advice from strangers. The fact that he hasn't found out if that baby is his yet...but claims he has, ****!. I also find funny that he claims he wants to be a father, but that baby he speaks of, he was willing to ignore her existence because he doesn't love the mother. DJS doesn't love anyone, he never has and he never will. I know, I'm the ex-fiancee he's banging. Asking him to be honest is like asking the Titanic to come back up to the surface.

 

So, DJS? Are you going to supply the whole truth? I find it funny that you make yourself out to be such the sweet innocent guy that everyone cheats on. I never cheated on you. Hell GF 1 and 3 were the same girl...she didn't cheat on you either. Only GF 4 actually cheated on you, and GF 2 & 5 sure as hell didn't cheat on you, seeing as how I am her. Oh, and the entry in his Guest book happened while he was still engaged to me. He broke up with me to go back out with 1&3 (same girl) and then to got back with me after 4 then broke up again to go back with Edmonton (0 for this story). See a pattern? He even broke up with me for 2 weeks after we first got together so he could have sex with someone else without it counting as cheating.

 

So, now he has some advice...wanna know what he did with it?