My height prevents me from getting a girl

[Sun Devil]

For the past year, I have been wondering why I never had a girlfriend. I had asked this question on this forum recently, and people are saying that it is because I am only 5 feet tall. I even looked on online dating profiles and their height requirements were much higher than what I had. This is becoming extremely frustrating since this is the one characteristic I cannot change. It seemes as though tthat this is a problem that will be very difficult if not impossible to overcome. I try being happy being single by doing the things I like, but nothing really works. I dont want to be single any longer.

[CarrieT]

I would look at the celebrities and famous people who are similarly challenged (Danny DeVito = 4'11", Prince = 5'2", Dudley Moore = 5'2", Wallace Shawn = 5'2").

 

All of these guys worked beyond their height and were able to get women.

 

There are also short-person dating sites, shortpassions.com and shortpeopledating.com

[somedude81]

It might be a good idea to move to a different country.

 

What is your ethnicity?

[WesternWoman]

I feel your pain as I am 6' tall female who still likes heels... though I have dated men that were 5'7". It just takes the right combination of people and a confident partner to have a height difference.

 

Random thought but some of the shorter men I know have found great success in dating international women (Asians and Latinas who tend to really like how American men treat them and are often shorter themselves)

 

Finding a partner takes time anyway, and when things like our height, physical state or other things are out of our control it can seem really limiting. Hang in there, just keep loving you and the right woman will come along for you.

 

One of the best couples I know is a 5'3" man and a 5'7" curvy woman. They are great together and have a loving tease about the height (she says it's just easier to kiss the top of his head this way

[CptObvious]

You could just try to Tom Cruise your way to 5"3

 

Isn't Joseph Benavidez only 5"4? You're only 1 inch shorter than him. Look at his girlfriend, not bad right?

[jobaba]

For the past year, I have been wondering why I never had a girlfriend. I had asked this question on this forum recently, and people are saying that it is because I am only 5 feet tall. I even looked on online dating profiles and their height requirements were much higher than what I had. This is becoming extremely frustrating since this is the one characteristic I cannot change. It seemes as though tthat this is a problem that will be very difficult if not impossible to overcome. I try being happy being single by doing the things I like, but nothing really works. I dont want to be single any longer.

 

Dating at 5 foot even will present obstacles. Won't lie to you about that. I'm about 5'5" and it's really tough for me.

 

The important thing for you to remember is you have to go for the less shallow women. Though rare, there are women out there who don't care that much about height/looks/etc.

 

But it's kind of like finding a needle in a haystack. You just have to keep looking until one gives you a chance and then pounce on her with your best game. And don't just hit on short gals. At your height, you are just as likely to find a 5'6" non-shallow woman to date as a 4'11" woman likes you.

 

Don't spend a lot of investment in women, and you can reduce your heartbreak. Because you are going to get rejected A LOT. I repeat that ... A LOT.

 

Hang in there buddy.

[backonthemarket]

I'm sorry you're having so much trouble. Gosh, that's a toughie. I'm a very short/petite woman (5'2), and even I end up with guys at least 6 feet and usually substantially taller than that. Maybe I have a Napoleonic complex, but being with super tall guys often makes me feel taller myself. (I have recently broken the cycle of Gumby boyfriends though...) However, the opposite could be true of many shorter women; being a with a guy closer to their height might make them feel less insignificant or babyish.

 

Seems unfair, doesn't it? I agree that you might want to try women who aren't American or North European.

[Sun Devil]

I have no plans to leave the U.S. I will not be the guy who has not have a relationship by age 30. I do not have the patience to wait that long. Where will I find these women who are not shallow.

[Titanwolf]

Napoleonic complex

Myth. (Ten char)

[runner]

I have no plans to leave the U.S. I will not be the guy who has not have a relationship by age 30. I do not have the patience to wait that long. Where will I find these women who are not shallow.

 

even if you met a woman who would date you regardless of height, she will probably reject you for your desperation. fix that first and own your height.

[SmileFace]

It might be a good idea to move to a different country.

 

What is your ethnicity?

I have to hear this... where exactly should he move?

[yongyong]

It has nothing to do with being shallow. every time I hear this I laugh at it.

eg) I am a fat woman. I want a guy who's not shallow and can appreciate my personality. Of course I don't want a fat guy like me. how many times have you seen this here? :laugh:

 

In general, guys have to be taller than a woman. (there is an exception when you are really rich and famous. you seem like an average person like us)

Chances are low to find a woman who's 4'8" since they can still date a guy 5'8" or over 6' no problem.

 

I am not going to say dumb sxits like 'hey man be confident' because I don't know how it feels like 5 feet. It would be better to accept the reality though since it can't be changed no matter what you do. (you can try to wear invisible heels though)

 

I have no plans to leave the U.S. I will not be the guy who has not have a relationship by age 30. I do not have the patience to wait that long. Where will I find these women who are not shallow.

 

I have to hear this... where exactly should he move?

 

There are many third countries you can go there, set up the interview with 20 women, pick one and get married next day.

If you want someone who looks like you, you can go to E european countries to find one.

I am sure all American girls will say 'that's not right' when you bring a model looking 20 year old. But you should ask yourself 'would they have give me a chance? no....then WTF is their problem?'

[SmileFace]

There are many third countries you can go there, set up the interview with 20 women, pick one and get married next day.

If you want someone who looks like you, you can go to E european countries to find one.

I am sure all American girls will say 'that's not right' when you bring a model looking 20 year old. But you should ask yourself 'would they have give me a chance? no....then WTF is their problem?'

I can??

 

Umm, I am not sure what you mean actually.

[MonsterMash]

Lets look at the opposite end of the spectrum. I'm 6'4, 280 and I work out regularly. I'm not blown out like Ah-nuld....but I'm bigger than the average male. I've been turned down because I have "too intimidating of a presence." Whatever that means. My point being...not everyone is everyone elses cup of tea. You just have to find the right one for you.

 

And I'm not trying to be sarcastic so please don't take this as such. But with all the different dating sites out there on the internet these days...theres GOT to be at least one that caters to shorter statued people like yourself. I mean come on...if theres sites for people who like dressing up like animals and getting beat with riding crops, surely theres one for folks in the height range of taller than midgets and shorter than average.

 

Ya just gotta look and stay positive bro.

[yongyong]

I just assumed you were a white.

 

 

I can??

 

Umm, I am not sure what you mean actually.

[SmileFace]

I just assumed you were a white.

hehe "a white"

 

Nope

[todreaminblue]

For the past year, I have been wondering why I never had a girlfriend. I had asked this question on this forum recently, and people are saying that it is because I am only 5 feet tall. I even looked on online dating profiles and their height requirements were much higher than what I had. This is becoming extremely frustrating since this is the one characteristic I cannot change. It seemes as though tthat this is a problem that will be very difficult if not impossible to overcome. I try being happy being single by doing the things I like, but nothing really works. I dont want to be single any longer.

 

 

I dated a five foot guy i am about five four.......his foster mother told my mother that i would outgrow him when she first met me and she was right.....it wasnt height she was talking about....his personality and intelligence associated with this short man syndrome(some men get it) was not something i could handle......he looked at women as a challenge to be mastered and he cheated on me one too many times he has a chip on his shoulder in regards to women he can be abusive because of this.......

 

 

abusive because he has copped rejection i would say and the fact he was abandoned by his mother.......even though he had me and i had many potentials partners i could have been with, it wasn't enough.i am still friends with this guy after twenty odd years.......i could never be with him though due to his attitude.......i am not the only woman in the world who doesnt look at height what i do look at and that makes me burn is a cool ass attitude(happy) that is respectful, a personality that mirrors mine.....that i think attracts me.....i get interested then i start to notice other things and ummm im stopping here......smilin......

 

 

dont give up hope you cant change your height but you can have that cool ass attitude that happiness that can be seen clearly.....dont ever resent women because you get knock backs it will effect how you treat a woman in a relationship that you have......never give up hope....i wish you the best.....deb:cool:.

[Titanwolf]

short man syndrome

I feel like I'm talking to shovels here. That's a myth. Is there a syndrome for being fat and insecure? no. Is there one for being "unattractive"? no. An insecurity is an insecurity, that manifests from external sources and it resides internally. It's eventually projected through actions or words in one way or another. Insecure about being fat=Insecure. Insecure about being short=/="short man syndrome". Insecure about being short=Insecure period.

[Sun Devil]

Since some people are curious about my race, I am half Asian and half white. I also should say that I cannot leave my country since my education and future career will be here

[hinatticus]

I think you should stop thinking about your height as a problem. I could care less about my height. I'm only 5'4", but all of my exes were atleast 5'7". Once in a bar this girl who was atleast 6'2" asked for my number and was holding my arm! I actually like taller girls. My problem is I'm full asian and prefer white women. Infact I've never dated an Asian. Finding tall white chicks who dig short Asians is tough, but I don't mind.

 

The thing with guys who find something to be insecure about come across as insecure. Which is not attractive from what I hear.

[LC1976]

Look Sun D, its a pain in the butt...no doubt. But it isn't a situation unless you let it be. I know this one couple: she is 5'5 Austrian (very pretty), and her husband is a little 5'3-4 tank of an Asian. But he is uber confident and she thinks he is sexy as hell.

 

And remember: never give them the satisfaction. If some women says she wont date you because she like's tall guys. Politely thank her and move on. There are millions of women in this world and plenty of them would date you.

[ascendotum]

Don't be calling women "shallow" just because they prefer taller men. Everyone has preferences - I guess EVERYONE is shallow, then.

 

Some men like blondes, some like brunettes, some like them curvy women, some like them skinny, and some like them overweight.

 

I guess they're all shallow for having preferences, is that it? Get a grip.

 

I agree it is way over the top to call all women shallow, but no doubt provoced by his frustration at having it really hard to find any women who show an interest in him as more than someone to chat to. Given that the avg male is taller then the avg female, its not shallow in the least for a woman or man to want/expect a partner that fits in with that dynamic. Its when it starts to become a bit extreme and people are sacrificing other great attributes that are great for a LTR that in imo anyway starts to get into shallow territory.

 

IMO a girl wanting a guy who is taller then her is not shallow. A 5' girl who is exclusively only interested in guys over 5'10 is shallow imo. Really, every single one of us can deny they are shallow and replace it with the word perferences no matter what they want. Likewise if a guy only interested in blondes and continually dismisses great girls who are not blond, and who are just as great or if not better in many other aspects, then he is shallow.

 

In some cases it gets blurry. I've been frustrated with a number of petite girls I have known who insisted only on big guys because it made then feel more feminine/girly. As a girl you might say I get that, and I do to...up to a point. Would guy's who dump their women after they put on too much weight be let off scott free by women when they claim they did it because they don't feel as masculine around her anymore. I have been accused a number of times by women of being shallow, as a thin guy wanting a thin woman.

 

OP - Leaving the country is a little extreme, but i do think you will have better luck focusing your attention on non anglo girls. I also think you need to macho up your image as best you can. I know a short guy who does pretty good with the girls. He is a handsome guy to begin with, which really helps, but he also does surfing, (is suntanned + has streaked hair), has a number of great japanese style tattoos, dresses with well fitting clothes, wears some great/stylish jewellery, rides a motor bike, does martial arts + weight lifting, took dancing lessons. I know some of that might seem a bit extreme, but what I am trying to get to is that you might need to try for an edgey image to give you an edge. I think you should forget about online dating, and focus on being really friendly to any girls you meet IRL. Someone said there should be an OLD site for shorter people, maybe there is but I would bet the M:F ratio would be horrible.

[jobaba]

Lets look at the opposite end of the spectrum. I'm 6'4, 280 and I work out regularly. I'm not blown out like Ah-nuld....but I'm bigger than the average male. I've been turned down because I have "too intimidating of a presence." Whatever that means. My point being...not everyone is everyone elses cup of tea. You just have to find the right one for you.

 

And I'm not trying to be sarcastic so please don't take this as such. But with all the different dating sites out there on the internet these days...theres GOT to be at least one that caters to shorter statued people like yourself. I mean come on...if theres sites for people who like dressing up like animals and getting beat with riding crops, surely theres one for folks in the height range of taller than midgets and shorter than average.

 

Ya just gotta look and stay positive bro.

 

Don't be calling women "shallow" just because they prefer taller men. Everyone has preferences - I guess EVERYONE is shallow, then.

 

Some men like blondes, some like brunettes, some like them curvy women, some like them skinny, and some like them overweight.

 

I guess they're all shallow for having preferences, is that it? Get a grip.

 

It doesn't work like that for short guys.

 

It's not like some gals prefer buff guys, some gals prefer slimmer guys.

 

Almost NOBODY prefers short guys, especially guys under a certain height, and OP is under that.

 

If Woman A (or Man A for that matter) is willing to overlook certain physical flaws if a guy presents a great personality, and Woman B is not, then Woman A is less shallow than Woman B. It's as simple as that.

 

Not rocket science really...

[jobaba]

I have no plans to leave the U.S. I will not be the guy who has not have a relationship by age 30. I do not have the patience to wait that long. Where will I find these women who are not shallow.

 

There is no one place. But I can tell you where not to look...

 

Bars, clubs, and premier screenings for Sex and the City sequels.

 

You'll need a special type of woman to date you. That's for sure. Put it this way. I'm a few inches taller, and I'd say we are in the same boat. All of the women who have dated me, I'd venture to guess they'd have dated me too if I were your height. That's just the kind of women they were. Not that they didn't have flaws (), but they were special in THAT way.

 

Very rare. Look hard and keep at it.

[xxoo]

Don't let your height hold you back. Men of all heights can be sexy.

 

I'm fairly short, and I've been attracted to men my own height. These individuals each had something that made me weak in the knees around them--although it wasn't their height.

 

For inspiration, watch those tv shows about little people--for example, Little People, Big World. These people--far shorter than you--find love, run businesses, have children, and live full lives.