El Brujo Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 Lets look at the opposite end of the spectrum. I'm 6'4, 280 and I work out regularly. I'm not blown out like Ah-nuld....but I'm bigger than the average male. I've been turned down because I have "too intimidating of a presence." I'm 6'6", and yesterday when I went to the store to buy a snack, the high school boy who rang me up said "you look intimidating, man". What a tactful guy! Maybe I should stop messing around in publishing and get a job as a high-class rent-a-cop to some Hollywood movie star? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted September 20, 2012 Author Share Posted September 20, 2012 I cant just forget about women. Having a girfriend is something I dont want to live without. Being single really sucks and I refuse to accept it any longer. If I dont get a girl soon, I may have to use drastic measures. Link to post Share on other sites
mesmerized Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 I have no plans to leave the U.S. I will not be the guy who has not have a relationship by age 30. I do not have the patience to wait that long. Where will I find these women who are not shallow. Whereever you can find men that are not shallow. Oh wait, they don't exist. Would you date a girl you're not attracted to? Link to post Share on other sites
jobaba Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 This is very true. The height thing for women is nothing like men who prefer curvy or skinny or brunette or blonde, because of the fact that no women actually prefer men who are shorter than average. I think in the eyes of most American women, being under 5'10 (maybe 5'11) is like having bad acne, the shorter you are , the more extreme and deforming the acne is in their eyes. I think if you are close to average height, like 5'8, you can sort of wing it with a minority of girls if you have a lot of other things going for you, but if you are 5 feet tall only you're going to have to get platform shoes, period. Then, after getting those 5 inch tom cruise shoes, only then can you begin your uphill battle. There are a minority of women who do prefer shorter men, but shorter as in 5'7" to 5'9". And again, that is a small minority. 5'8" isn't that short. That shouldn't present too many problems in terms of getting women. There's many pro athletes that height. 5'6" or shorter is pretty much the line of demarcation, or close to that. That's where your options really do down. Link to post Share on other sites
CptObvious Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 I've been turned down because I have "too intimidating of a presence." LOLWUT!? LOLQUE?! Whatever man, I guess you were unlucky enough to run into girls that just seem to prefer little limp dck chicken legged hipsters over a real man. Link to post Share on other sites
jobaba Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 Whereever you can find men that are not shallow. Oh wait, they don't exist. Would you date a girl you're not attracted to? Some women put more importance on a man's heart and character and THAT is attractive to them, as opposed to those who base attractiveness on the # of centimeters from the top of his head to the ground. That makes the former women deeper. Shallow is not yes or no, it's a sliding scale. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 Despite the fact that many women refuse to believe it men are not as shallow as they think we are. We really aren't. Link to post Share on other sites
PJKino Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 Despite the fact that many women refuse to believe it men are not as shallow as they think we are. We really aren't. I really think women sometimes project their own shalowness onto Men.I have plenty of good looking Male friends who have average looking partners and are happy I know its not conventional or pc to say but hanging around women in a friendly way and hearing them talk and seeing theri actions women as a whole are more shallow the nMen Most womens lives revolve around vanity and judging everyones looks including Men You usuallly hear it the other way round where women are hopeless romantics who just want true love and men are just in it for shallow things but i see it the other way around more I get preferences but you really want love yet no matter how great aa dude is becasue he fals an inch or two below your "checklist" you dotn give him a shot? Ive never seen a friend say wow shes a great girl but i cant give her a chance because she has b cups not D's 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mesmerized Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 Despite the fact that many women refuse to believe it men are not as shallow as they think we are. We really aren't. Trust me. I interact closely with men more than women and I never met a non shallow man. There were guys with different standards but they still had some. Also, I can say with men, most of them are definitely the most attracted to what media tells them is attractive. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 Trust me. I interact closely with men more than women and I never met a non shallow man. There were guys with different standards but they still had some. Also, I can say with men, most of them are definitely the most attracted to what media tells them is attractive. You probably interact with the same kind of man who all run in the same circles. I know women who go outside after just getting up in the morning for a quick walk and still get chatted up by guys. All a woman has to do is not look grotesque and since most people are not grotesque that is pretty easy. Men really are not that fussy. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 Some women put more importance on a man's heart and character and THAT is attractive to them, as opposed to those who base attractiveness on the # of centimeters from the top of his head to the ground. . Shockingly, a woman can be physically attracted to a short man....even if she isn't drawn to short men in general. He may have a fantastic body, a gorgeous face, or irresistible lips and eyes 1 Link to post Share on other sites
yongyong Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 Can I give you honest examples? Let's say you don't look like white guy and want to date a white girl. At a grocery store, white guy with average height is like honey mustard sauce. Most white girls won't have problem picking it up since they are used to it. You are a weird asian sauce that has a strange label and stinks really bad. How many white girls would pick that up? my point is, you can't just Chill like a white dude and expect to date someone. you have to go out and try to convince girls that your sauce is as good as honey mustard once they try it. You will face a lot of rejections that will make your mindset negative. (If you don't approach at all, at least it will be 0) It's something you have to swallow if you want to date someone though. I am a minority with 6'2" height. Since I am not a white in white dominant state, I don't expect to get a GF like fellow white guy. I will have to approach 10x more to find a girl who will appreciate my skin and culture. Since some people are curious about my race, I am half Asian and half white. I also should say that I cannot leave my country since my education and future career will be here Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted September 20, 2012 Author Share Posted September 20, 2012 I am on a college campus. Interracial relationships are very common. I do not think my race is a large factor. Link to post Share on other sites
ScreamingTrees Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 LOLWUT!? LOLQUE?! Whatever man, I guess you were unlucky enough to run into girls that just seem to prefer little limp dck chicken legged hipsters over a real man. For some reason, I don't like you any more than I like hipsters. I really doubt YOU are a real man, even if the guy you're quoting is. Link to post Share on other sites
insertnamehere Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 5'8" isn't that short. That shouldn't present too many problems in terms of getting women. There's many pro athletes that height. 5'6" or shorter is pretty much the line of demarcation, or close to that. That's where your options really do down. In fairness, guys who are height sensitive overstate the actual cut-off in much the same way that women who are crazy about being thin do. Studies have shown that men identify women in the 8 to 12 dress size range as most attractive. However, women think the range is closer to 4 to 8. And women with serious body issues think it's between baby clothes and size zero. So, guys overstate it by saying 5'8" is short. In truth, it's more like below 5'6". And somewhere out there is a guy with issues who thinks anything below 6'2" is problematic. The difference is that women can destroy their bodies trying to be thinner, while even the most radical procedure imaginable isn't going to buy a guy much height. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted September 20, 2012 Author Share Posted September 20, 2012 Then what must a 5 foot tall person do to get girls without moving to a 3rd world country or get extremely rich Link to post Share on other sites
insertnamehere Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 Then what must a 5 foot tall person do to get girls without moving to a 3rd world country or get extremely rich There isn't a magical paint-by-numbers solution that will allow you to bypass all biases. Humanity, quite often, just sucks. You have to focus on being the best version of you that you can possibly be. Lead your life your way. Own your accomplishments and do your damnedest to pile them up. From there, you live your life with what that yields. Whatever it may be. Failing that, my understanding is that monasteries still exist. Link to post Share on other sites
jobaba Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 Shockingly, a woman can be physically attracted to a short man....even if she isn't drawn to short men in general. He may have a fantastic body, a gorgeous face, or irresistible lips and eyes I'm aware of that. I was responding to a specific poster who somehow doesn't see how that is possible. It SHOCKS ME that so many women are turned off by short guys. I'm a short guy. When I see a tall woman who is cute or hot, she's still cute or hot. I might have reservations about asking her out because nothing would probably come of it, but that doesn't change the fact that I find her attractive. But I see so many women say men under THIS height are completely unattractive. MOST of the time it is a height taller than them. I really don't understand that. Link to post Share on other sites
Humate Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 Gee, I'm 5'4. I guess I can kiss my chances of getting a girlfriend out the window, huh? Seriously, some people need to get a grip on reality. I've had women approach me and ask me out in my life. Yes, a 5'4 guy being asked out by girls! Amazing! You just need to find less shallow women op, that's all. And like another poster said, you aren't going to find her in nightclubs or bars. I work in a club. All I see constantly in this place, is both genuine looking and tarty women going for their tall, muscular, bad boy men. They can be classy or they can be from the dumps. No matter the class, these women will always want their tall man (I'm mainly talking about the ones that are the same height as you and want a man that is at least a foot taller then them). As a guy, I couldn't give a scrap about a girls height. It's not a huge factor when it comes to physical attraction for me. If you meet women who care about height, then you want to stick clear of them, period. Find that group of people that care about the more important things. What sort of job and hobbies do you have? This might be an important factor when it comes to digging out those rare, gems of women that might be suitable for you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LittlePrince Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 I'm aware of that. I was responding to a specific poster who somehow doesn't see how that is possible. It SHOCKS ME that so many women are turned off by short guys. I'm a short guy. When I see a tall woman who is cute or hot, she's still cute or hot. I might have reservations about asking her out because nothing would probably come of it, but that doesn't change the fact that I find her attractive. But I see so many women say men under THIS height are completely unattractive. MOST of the time it is a height taller than them. I really don't understand that. Well it is just like how any woman who is over 100 pounds is completely unattractive. 101 pounder...totally disgusting fatty. Release that whale back into her natural habitat, the sea, and hope it doesn't cause the oceans to rise. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 It has nothing to do with being shallow. every time I hear this I laugh at it. eg) I am a fat woman. I want a guy who's not shallow and can appreciate my personality. Of course I don't want a fat guy like me. how many times have you seen this here? :laugh: In general, guys have to be taller than a woman. (there is an exception when you are really rich and famous. you seem like an average person like us) Chances are low to find a woman who's 4'8" since they can still date a guy 5'8" or over 6' no problem. I am not going to say dumb sxits like 'hey man be confident' because I don't know how it feels like 5 feet. It would be better to accept the reality though since it can't be changed no matter what you do. (you can try to wear invisible heels though) There are many third countries you can go there, set up the interview with 20 women, pick one and get married next day. If you want someone who looks like you, you can go to E european countries to find one. I am sure all American girls will say 'that's not right' when you bring a model looking 20 year old. But you should ask yourself 'would they have give me a chance? no....then WTF is their problem?' you are such a charmer absolutely spotlessly charming......... Link to post Share on other sites
O'farrell Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 Height has never really been a problem for me and im 5'7. It has with women who are 5'7. But aside from this I never really understood why height was looked at as unattractive. Until I was like 17 I always thought women didn't like tall men because they were a lot shorter than them. It IS the internet though. I can say I want a 36c and a bubble but with a nice face but in reality if someone doesn't have all these qualities I don't disqualify them. I still don't get why women like tall men. They are not physically stronger, or better fighters, or tougher. The guys that always got the hottest girl that I knew were all super short (5'4-5'6) and dressed like rap music videos. They are the ones that got all the girls. I will go with my real life observation rather than the internet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted September 20, 2012 Author Share Posted September 20, 2012 Would leg lengthening surgery be worth it or is it just a waste Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 (edited) Would leg lengthening surgery be worth it or is it just a waste i have dated tall guys i always get a stiff neck from smiling up their left nostril i dont think you shoull get your legs lengthened....i could tell you a steamy little secret about having a guy who is about the same height as you what is possible and extreme fun.....sigh you are going to have to find a girl who will show you....i plan on showing someone not too much taller than me one day.....hopefully....smilin....dont be a goof with the leg thing ....my son said that to me he wanted a stretching rack i told him not to worry taught him some things that women like hwo to approach he was shy....not any more though....too much......he attracts all ages sizes and heights......its his confidence, and having a mum who built him up to believe in himself...he unfortunately went a little backwards in my guidance and has a girlfriend and two kids and has a past littered with a few broken hearts..soon to be married though hoping praying.....you believe in yourself now.......he isnt tall.......but he does have huge baby blues..and he knows hwo to rock them..deb Edited September 20, 2012 by todreaminblue Link to post Share on other sites
Autobahn Ricky Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 Try internet dating and look for women that don't have a height requirement. Link to post Share on other sites
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