abarrington86 Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 (edited) My husband has been so mean to me here lately well for the last year. Some times he is really nice he will tell me I'm beautiful or sexy .. but then he is always pointing out every flaw I have.. How can he call me beautiful and in the same breath make fun of me for Having a pimple on my face or telling me my face is hairy or what ever else he sees wrong with me at the time. He is a shovanistic, selfish, self centered Momma's boy. He works 3 days a week and makes decent money though he could be making more but I work 5 days a week and the 2 days he has at home without me he is usually at his mother's house! Who is a completely different story ... her baby boy can do no wrong. He talks to her about things we have problems with and then she comes to me with it like I am at fault for everything! I don't have any family or I can talk to about anything. I moved 100 miles away from my family to be with him. But his entire family is here. Including him Mother who lives literally 2 minutes away. I want my husband back i want my best friend i can't keep living like this.. I want a normal marriage with a husband that supports me instead of putting me down and some one who doesn't put me down to hid mother ... I'm tired of crying all the time...he makes me feel ashamed to be a woman... he is constatly putting me down as a woman saying things like all women are stupid men are better than women... things Luke that it gets old I love him but I can't take much more! can someone give anyinsight? Edited September 21, 2012 by abarrington86 Link to post Share on other sites
Sauron Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Does he have sex wth you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author abarrington86 Posted September 24, 2012 Author Share Posted September 24, 2012 yes he is a sexaholic Link to post Share on other sites
NotCamelot Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 Have you told him what you told us? Link to post Share on other sites
loveunlimited Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 do you have children? Are you willing to put up with being his phukkmachine and general whipping post for how much longer? tell him it either has to stop, or you walk, but if you say it mean it. and do it. really, if this is what it does to you, it really cannot be described as love, he's manipulating you and being an abusive bully, I can't stand that, I really honestly for the life of me cannot understand how women put up with such treatment. Link to post Share on other sites
NervisPervis Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 ...if you say it mean it. and do it. I was similarly abusive to my wife. I knew it, but there were never any negative consequences so I didn't stop. The day I found out she no longer loved me because of it was the most horrible day of my life. It hit me like a ton of bricks. It destroyed me. My marriage was over and it was MY FAULT! That was the negative consequence I needed. I have not said a mean thing to anyone I love, including her, since. Not one. I changed immediately. Unfortunately it's too late for me. She's checked out of the marriage emotionally, although we are still living together and married. But she's gone forever. Say it, MEAN IT, do it. Scare the crap out of him. He CAN change. I did. But you need to crush him first. And don't wait. Do it NOW! Link to post Share on other sites
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