Sunfire73 Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I'm 38 going 39, divorced with 2 teen girls and I have interests from guys ranging from 22-54 yrs old. But I look young for my age, take care of myself, fit, workout regularly, have a career and in a good place. Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 How come nobody is telling these women to STOP WHINING, it's just preference right? Very few if any women will date a man that isn't at least 3-5 inches taller than her, when men bring this up they're told to shutup and magically will a woman that will date them into existence. Well , just like women in general prefer much taller men, men in general prefer younger women. There are of course notable exceptions, I personally love an older woman very deeply, and even prefer women older than myself (I'm 23). But hey, "people have their preferences", as you broads told poor little Sundevil, so you can't fault those men for their preferences. Besides, I bet the real problem of you single women in your 30's is that you still haven't snapped out of your ridiculous and unrealistic standards. Try to date men in your actual league , not the league that was pinned on you in bars in your 20's, and you will get amazing results. Well said! Link to post Share on other sites
LittlePrince Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 Teenage girls want me even more now that I am in my 30's. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I must have missed the posts where women were whining about the fact they still had options well into their 30s and 40s. Way to let your world view make you misinterpret what people actually say and deny people's actual experiences. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 (edited) I have a sneaking suspicion that someone who works in Chicago THINKS the women he sees on the street are in their 20s when in reality, like in most major US cities, they are in their 30s and 40s because they are fashionable, well groomed and take advantage of the latest cosmetic advances to continue looking good far longer than their parents did. I've been to Chicago. Unless that person lives in the projects, where everyone looks bad. What the poster fails to realize is that if his premise is true that men are only interested in 20-somethings, it VASTLY shrinks his dating pool or dries it up altogether because of the competition. Sad. I was thrilled when I turned 30 because it meant people would take me seriously, as most adults are dismissive of 20-somethings. I didn't start dating "quality" men until I turned 40. I am currently being chased by a younger (than me by over a decade), rather well known painter whose works I had always admired. You don't think he could have his pick of "art groupies?" Edited September 25, 2012 by FitChick Link to post Share on other sites
Jane2011 Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 Uh, no - women really do get more attention when they are in their 20s than they do in their 30s because they are more attractive at that age. You need to ask a man this question and if he is honest he will tell you the same thing that I wrote. Women really are deluding themselves if they think they become more attractive with age, because it is simply isn't true. I agree with you that women don't get younger-looking as they age (unless they lost a lot of weight, or they literally went through some kind of ugly-duckling transformation or things like that). Assuming their weight has stayed the same or close to the same, they looked younger in their 20s than they do in their 30s, generally speaking. But they can become more generally attractive based on a lot of other factors. I'm a woman, and I'd choose a lot of men around 30 over those who look a lot younger than them who are 21 or 22. This doesn't mean I think looking 'old' is more attractive than looking 'young.' I don't think men look better the older they get; I just like a certain semi-weathered-but-still-young-looking-enough look that occurs in men around age 27 to 39 or so as opposed to the very youthful 24 and below, or 45 and above. I think some men probably feel the same way about some women. Not all, but some feel that way. And if they don't, they still may find a 30 something woman more generally attractive than many 20-something women. Basically, she looks older than some 20-something women and older than her own self at 20-something, but there's not enough of a drop off in looks to put her second to 20 something women, especially when one factors in the combination of her still pretty good looks, her increased maturity, more education or accomplishment, being more comfortable with herself, etc. I think I said in a previous post that I got more attention in my 30s than I did in my 20s. I really don't think it's more. It's probably about the same. But honestly, it's definitely not less. I think I was definitely prettier in my 20s. My skin was better and I was thinner. I wore a size 0 in jeans throughout my 20s, and now I wear a size 1 or 2. I got attention, but no one wanted a serious relationship with me in my 20s whereas I've gotten that in my 30s. I attract a higher caliber guy in general, too, based on some things I've accomplished since then. So I guess this all depends on what you mean by attention and attractiveness. I was hotter then, but I'm more of a catch now. In the end, being at my personal hottest (physically) accomplished nothing for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Quiet Storm Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I'm 36 w/ three kids. I am married but I still notice men checking me out. My husband still wants it with the lights on. I stay in shape & avoid the sag by doing squats, lunges, planks & arm exercises regulary. I also limit the carbs and sugar in my diet. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I would not be attracted to a woman that looked 21. 21 years old still look like teenagers to me. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I didn't start dating "quality" men until I turned 40. I am currently being chased by a younger (than me by over a decade), rather well known painter whose works I had always admired. You don't think he could have his pick of "art groupies?" What? How could that be possible?! I bet Chicago_Guy, Dr Goebbels and compagny forgot to send your artist the memo that attraction to women past the age of 30 was no longer allowed. Really, this group needs to get more organised if they really want to ruin dating and attraction for everyone. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CptSaveAho Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I have a sneaking suspicion that someone who works in Chicago THINKS the women he sees on the street are in their 20s when in reality, like in most major US cities, they are in their 30s and 40s because they are fashionable, well groomed and take advantage of the latest cosmetic advances to continue looking good far longer than their parents did. I've been to Chicago. Unless that person lives in the projects, where everyone looks bad. What the poster fails to realize is that if his premise is true that men are only interested in 20-somethings, it VASTLY shrinks his dating pool or dries it up altogether because of the competition. Sad. I was thrilled when I turned 30 because it meant people would take me seriously, as most adults are dismissive of 20-somethings. I didn't start dating "quality" men until I turned 40. I am currently being chased by a younger (than me by over a decade), rather well known painter whose works I had always admired. You don't think he could have his pick of "art groupies?" What? How could that be possible?! I bet Chicago_Guy, Dr Goebbels and compagny forgot to send your artist the memo that attraction to women past the age of 30 was no longer allowed. Really, this group needs to get more organised if they really want to ruin dating and attraction for everyone. Yup these guys that are chasing you are for 2 reasons... #1 dont know any better #2 sex They arent chasing you for a long lasting relationship/marriage, if they are see #1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 (edited) Yup these guys that are chasing you are for 2 reasons... #1 dont know any better #2 sex They arent chasing you for a long lasting relationship/marriage, if they are see #1 My point exactly! These guys clearly aren't aware of the truths you've decided should be universal. They're misinformed and one of them might actually end up in a happy relationship with me or Fitchick if you don't get to them ASAP! Get organized CSA and spread your hateful news. Men must stop feeling attracted to women like me, who have committed the crime of aging. The faster you manage to rule me out of the dating market, the more I can dedicate time to kicking ass in my career. Plus, I certainly wouldn't want to date someone who could easily espouse your beliefs. It's win win really. Spread the news! Edited September 25, 2012 by Kamille 4 Link to post Share on other sites
LittlePrince Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 The faster you manage to rule me out of the dating market, the more I can dedicate time to kicking ass in my career. Another who has used workaholicism to address their romantic set backs. Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 What is with the older woman bashing? 6 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 Yup these guys that are chasing you are for 2 reasons... #1 dont know any better #2 sex They arent chasing you for a long lasting relationship/marriage, if they are see #1 Maybe they know something you don't know. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LittlePrince Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 What is with the older woman bashing? Predators always go after the young, the weak, and the aged plus clubs are just plain fun. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 What is with the older woman bashing? I don't get it. Only on the internet.... It is one thing to say that you, or you and your buddies, are not interested in women over 30. It is absurd and simply false to say that men in general are not interested in women over 30--especially when speaking for men over 30. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 What is with the older woman bashing? I think it's older guys trying to make women their age who wouldn't date them when they where younger feel insecure. I think the other group, is younger guys trying to make younger women feel insecure about their future. It's a strait up scare tactic, "you better date me, because a time will come when no guy will date you". 10 Link to post Share on other sites
LittlePrince Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 Maybe they know something you don't know. Like how to con sex out of an older woman by rubbing her ego just right. I'll pass on that knowledge. Not on the women. Link to post Share on other sites
LittlePrince Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I don't get it. Only on the internet.... It is one thing to say that you, or you and your buddies, are not interested in women over 30. It is absurd and simply false to say that men in general are not interested in women over 30--especially when speaking for men over 30. It exists offline as well but only through the power of the internet can you experience what exists outside of your circle. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 It's a strait up scare tactic, "you better date me, because a time will come when no guy will date you". How attractive No wonder these guys can't get dates 1 Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I don't get it. Only on the internet.... It is one thing to say that you, or you and your buddies, are not interested in women over 30. It is absurd and simply false to say that men in general are not interested in women over 30--especially when speaking for men over 30. He probably likes older women but can't get one so he's just jealous he won't get the experience. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 How attractive No wonder these guys can't get dates My ex's ex husband said that to her to try and get her back! "We might as well get back together because no one's going to want to date you". I couldn't believe it....... Link to post Share on other sites
LittlePrince Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 How attractive No wonder these guys can't get dates Are you really doing so much better that you can afford to laugh? If you are then why are you still here? Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 My ex's ex husband said that to her to try and get her back! "We might as well get back together because no one's going to want to date you". I couldn't believe it....... The irony! Are you really doing so much better that you can afford to laugh? If you are then why are you still here? Giving advice. Can't have the blind leading the blind, now! 5 Link to post Share on other sites
LittlePrince Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 Giving advice. But you aren't. Can't have the blind leading the blind, now! You are just as blind. That's what happens when success is unearned. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts