Titanwolf Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Man it must be such a pain in the a**, tracking your rate of ageing. I can only think that that could easily cause someone to become neurotic and depressed trying to track and control such a thing. Brings a lot of unnecessary stress. If you treat your body well, it will repay you with kindness. All else in the realms of "fine lines", "crows feet" are just a part of life really. Once again, mum at 46 looks 25, I kid you not. To the OP, I'm more inclined towards older women (30+) because of the wisdom and maturity, more often than not, they possess. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
thatone Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 As has often been discussed on LS, being attractive, and being wanted by the opposite sex, is not all about being physically 'hot' with a perfect body. A lot of it has to do with confidence and personality. Both men and women generally develop both their confidence and their personality as they get older - and that usually makes them even more attractive than they were before the wrinkles started to show. pretty much. sure you can buy a 22 year old just like you can buy a ferrari. ride around on the weekends but it's not gonna be a feasible every day car. Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 That's an important point. Women don't have to pass for 20 to be attractive. An attractive woman at 40 is an attractive woman. The photo of Christie Brinkley is a good example. She's 59, and gorgeous, but she doesn't look 20! A 59 year old man might think he'd died and gone to heaven with her on his arm, but a 25 year old probably wouldn't be interested. I'm 23 and I think she is frigging hot..... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Man it must be such a pain in the a**, tracking your rate of ageing. I can only think that that could easily cause someone to become neurotic and depressed trying to track and control such a thing. Brings a lot of unnecessary stress. If you treat your body well, it will repay you with kindness. All else in the realms of "fine lines", "crows feet" are just a part of life really. I wish more women would listen to this, and adopt this attitude! Find a guy who thinks like this, and enjoy the best years of your life 2 Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Man it must be such a pain in the a**, tracking your rate of ageing. I can only think that that could easily cause someone to become neurotic and depressed trying to track and control such a thing. Brings a lot of unnecessary stress. If you treat your body well, it will repay you with kindness. All else in the realms of "fine lines", "crows feet" are just a part of life really. Once again, mum at 46 looks 25, I kid you not. To the OP, I'm more inclined towards older women (30+) because of the wisdom and maturity, more often than not, they possess. I bet. I just looked through my ex's facebook and noticed, how she compares now to 5 years ago. But holy man her sister on her 40th birthday didn't look a day over 30 and really hot. But the odd thing is, the 3rd sister looks her age if not worse. Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 But he's 23! Men in their 30s and 40s will have serious relationships with women in their 30s, but few 23 year olds would. Looks wise I would for SURE. Mainly the reason I wouldn't right now is because most have kids, and never want more which complicates things a lot. A single mom who can take care of herself and her kids, has a good job, house all that stuff and is comfortable is so appealing. The good parts of a older women far outweigh the bad things. I just had a bad experience that is stopping me from doing it again right now. I don't know what the future holds but i'm looking to date my age right now like 21-26 max give it a bit and see what happens. Because ideally, i'd rather be with someone really close to my age. But if I have no luck I would try older again in a second. Link to post Share on other sites
Ugh1 Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 I don't know what kind of 30 year olds you know . But I've met a lot of hot women in their 30s and 40s, and nothing sags about half of them. They know how to take care of themselves. No they haven't Can I just say that every post I have seen from has been positive. You seem like a good guy. Thank you! 6 Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Man it must be such a pain in the a**, tracking your rate of ageing. I can only think that that could easily cause someone to become neurotic and depressed trying to track and control such a thing. Brings a lot of unnecessary stress. If you treat your body well, it will repay you with kindness. All else in the realms of "fine lines", "crows feet" are just a part of life really. The cosmetics, anti-aging, cosmetic surgery, and to some extent the media and marketing agencies (for ad $ and circulation numbers) really really love to subtly create anxiety about aging. Its worth 10s of billions annually and growing at a good clip I recently saw two separate current affairs type shows, and both had reports on aging, that were pretty much tarted up promotions for the above industries. (They were somewhat interesting but it shyts me when the media cloak promotions as news). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Shaun-Dro Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Women who are older have so many advantages to dating them, im not talking about money either. Ever give a woman in her 20's a compliment? It's like water off a ducks back. They just don't care, men are nothing but "the little people" that she has to put on a plastic smile for and do that wrist-twisting Queen of England wave towards, in order to keep being popular. When women get older, get bit with baby fever, get less attention, and are more mature, they become lovable. They actually start to care about a man, and want to start a family. That's what I want to. I've already chased enough ass and it's not that great like the TV tells you. Hearth of the home, kids who are waiting to run up and hug you when you get home from work, a wife that cherishes you like you cherish her, now that's what I see as serenity. People nowadays are so afraid of what has been made artificially unfamiliar, that the most love they get at home is from their dog and their dildo. The women now in their 30s or 40s who are no longer getting attention on a regular basis, but once did back in their 20s deserve this treatment and I really don't care how much appreciative it is to them now. It seems like it has become payback time for some. Learn to appreciate any attention the man gives you, period. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 The cosmetics, anti-aging, cosmetic surgery, and to some extent the media and marketing agencies (for ad $ and circulation numbers) really really love to subtly create anxiety about aging. Its worth 10s of billions annually and growing at a good clip. Yep. I refuse to opt in. I'm 40ish. I don't look 20 anymore, but I am attractive. I work at staying healthy (working out, avoiding sun, alcohol, tobacco, stress, etc), but I'm not going to buy 100s of dollars of products to fight my emerging laugh lines. My philosophy has always been to live so that the story written on my face when I am old is a happy one. Smile lines, not frown lines 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Titanwolf Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 The cosmetics, anti-aging, cosmetic surgery, and to some extent the media and marketing agencies (for ad $ and circulation numbers) really really love to subtly create anxiety about aging. Its worth 10s of billions annually and growing at a good clip I recently saw two separate current affairs type shows, and both had reports on aging, that were pretty much tarted up promotions for the above industries. (They were somewhat interesting but it shyts me when the media cloak promotions as news). And I really do wish that women were more aware of how the media makes mountains out of molehills. They managed to make the term "Grow old gracefully" a taboo phrase and instead of promoting exercise and food from the earth (nutrient dense foods- Only recently they began doing this and only because of the obesity epidemic, not ageing.)to assist the ageing process and maintain good health, they promote creams that contain a whole host of ingredients that are damaging the skin and body. What's wrong with the good old fashioned honey, egg, lemon, oatmeal and whatever else, mask? scrub? cleanser?. All natural, cheap and very beneficial. I've been surrounded by women who grew old gracefully all of my life and you wouldn't believe me if I told you their real ages. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 The beauty industry has made billions convincing women that men are more shallow than we actually are. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 I am in my thirties, going to be 38 in a few months. And I still look like I am in my twenties (save for a few gray hairs here and there). But honestly, I have the same reactions out of guys that I did when I was in my twenties. Well, no, that's not exactly true. I'm not the same person I was when I was in my twenties, and neither are they. So yes, things are different because of that. Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 (edited) Yep. I refuse to opt in. I'm 40ish. I don't look 20 anymore, but I am attractive. I work at staying healthy (working out, avoiding sun, alcohol, tobacco, stress, etc), but I'm not going to buy 100s of dollars of products to fight my emerging laugh lines. My philosophy has always been to live so that the story written on my face when I am old is a happy one. Smile lines, not frown lines Sadly I cant see it turning back in any way. Someone like yourself xxoo is going against the tide and good on you for doing so. It would not easy as it has almost crept in the concept that aging is like disease. It does not matter so much if you are married or in LTR, but if you are single and late 30s its hard not to be conscious of it. I have a squiz at the womens magazines sometimes when I'm in the gym and it annoys me how they focus on women's looks so much (building them up and also ripping them down). I know some of the women here will find offense at some of the posts here judging them on their age, but women's mags really create age anxiety imo. Hollywood does not do older women any favors either. Industry is tapping more into men on this too, trust me. As for the original post....women still have plenty of options in their 30s (both guys who are interested in marriage and those only interested in sex). IMO the most effective (and cheapest) thing a woman over 30 can do to still have lots of options, is simply don't get fat. Edited September 22, 2012 by ascendotum 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Minka333 Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Dfinitely yes. I still get carded all the time whether buying cigs or alcohol. Younger men approach me thinking im just in my 20's haha! And im already 35. But then again im asian and genes play a big part as im still slender. I enjoy the attention tho... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lemondrops11 Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 this thread is really depressing! i'm nearly 23 but some of the comments on here about attraction make me feel like my looks are in a pressure cooker and my time's running out and making me fear that any partner i were to get now, in 10/15 years would stop finding me attractive :/ Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted September 23, 2012 Share Posted September 23, 2012 this thread is really depressing! i'm nearly 23 but some of the comments on here about attraction make me feel like my looks are in a pressure cooker and my time's running out and making me fear that any partner i were to get now, in 10/15 years would stop finding me attractive :/ By the time you hit your 30s, your world will have changed. And you will have changed. Don't start making up things to be fearful of in the future when the future hasn't even happened yet and nothing in your present suggests that you should be afraid. "They" say that youth is wasted on the young. Make the best of whatever you have at the moment. Things may be better or they may be worse. But whatever life throws at you, make the best of it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jobaba Posted September 23, 2012 Share Posted September 23, 2012 this thread is really depressing! i'm nearly 23 but some of the comments on here about attraction make me feel like my looks are in a pressure cooker and my time's running out and making me fear that any partner i were to get now, in 10/15 years would stop finding me attractive :/ I don't get that out of this thread at all. Did you even read the responses from the women in their 30s and 40s? What I get is... Attracive people, don't settle for anything less than somebody smolderingly attractive to you because you'll always have pursuers and options for decades upon decades to come. Divorced? Kids that live at home? Bad previous marriage decisions? HA! Not a problem! Let the word out that you're back on the market and watch the chumps line up at your doorstep... Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted September 23, 2012 Share Posted September 23, 2012 Yes, attractive people will always get the attention, but after a certain age, and more often than not, it's negative attention. Tons of attractive women still looking after years because every guy seems to be looking for one thing- yup, sex. That's the curse of the attractive 30 or 40-something and above...does he want me for me or because I am hot and therefore for the sex... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Negative Nancy Posted September 23, 2012 Share Posted September 23, 2012 The beauty industry has made billions convincing women that men are more shallow than we actually are. That is not very credible coming from someone who boasted about how his wife did "not look a day older than 25" when he met her when she was 40. Link to post Share on other sites
Negative Nancy Posted September 23, 2012 Share Posted September 23, 2012 (edited) I am in my thirties, going to be 38 in a few months. And I still look like I am in my twenties (save for a few gray hairs here and there). But honestly, I have the same reactions out of guys that I did when I was in my twenties. Well, no, that's not exactly true. I'm not the same person I was when I was in my twenties, and neither are they. So yes, things are different because of that. That's what women like to tell themselves, and for some reason I see alot of these wonders of nature who defy all signs of aging on loveshack in particular, but most of them are not living in reality - unless of course ALL the exceptions of the entire world coincidentally have gathered on loveshack, then I stand corrected. But I can tell you that I can guess most people's age correctly and no 38 year old is going to look like early 20s anymore. If men tell you that, it's usually white lies because they know guessing a woman younger wins them instant brownie points. Just look at Madonna who's probably had so much plastic surgery that she could not be standing next to a heater without melting. She's as wrinkle-free as it gets, yet she still doesn't look like 20 or even 30 anymore. If society and men didn't place such a high value on being young at all costs, most women would be very comfortable about getting older and not lose any sleep about it. But we are all affected by it to some extent - it shows in the simple fact of how many women on here are so eager to point out that THEY look so much younger than their real age. Since when has looking your age become bad? I think it's a sad development, this obsession with wanting to look younger than they are is over the top and just perpetuates the vicious cycle. Edited September 23, 2012 by Negative Nancy Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 23, 2012 Share Posted September 23, 2012 I don't get that out of this thread at all. Did you even read the responses from the women in their 30s and 40s? What I get is... Attracive people, don't settle for anything less than somebody smolderingly attractive to you because you'll always have pursuers and options for decades upon decades to come. Divorced? Kids that live at home? Bad previous marriage decisions? HA! Not a problem! Let the word out that you're back on the market and watch the chumps line up at your doorstep... Where did you get that in this thread? Who said anything about being wanted by "smolderingly attractive" men? Men will be attracted. There will be men interested. That's all. Women who are primarily focused on having a "smolderingly attractive" man will have trouble dating at any age. Average guys are "smolderingly attractive" to women who are in love with them. By that measure, I'd agree....don't settle for anything less than truly being in love. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted September 23, 2012 Share Posted September 23, 2012 I had no idea that so many Loveshackers lived in the Ozarks, where both men and women lose their hair and teeth by age 30 and the men are constantly tripping over their scrotum. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted September 23, 2012 Share Posted September 23, 2012 That is not very credible coming from someone who boasted about how his wife did "not look a day older than 25" when he met her when she was 40. She is a very good looking woman but I have dated plenty of hot women before that I didn't want to marry. Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted September 23, 2012 Share Posted September 23, 2012 "day oder than 25" When I met my current GF, she was 38, and when she spoke of her kids, I truly thought she meant pre-school toddlers, and was shocked to find out that they were teenagers. Twenty plus years later, she still looks like she is in her 30's. And she doesn't spend big bucks maintaining, but does goes through a routine, of hot water, body wash, peroxide and some cream she has been using all of her adult life she picks up at the drug or sometimes Walmart. The best part is she somehow has maintained her hour glass figure. No excercise, just cuts back on what she eats after the holidays. She generally wears none revealling clothes, but every once in awhile during the summer will wear a small Eeyore T-shirt she likes with a pair shorts, and I get a kick out of the looks we sometimes get, being as I am retired and look it. Link to post Share on other sites
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