women, do men still want you in your 30s?

[Titania22]

Dont listen to what men say but what they do. In today's dating world, doing your hair and makeup is almost necessary to get a guy, no matter what age you are. Heck, they even put makeup on Kids if they're showing them off somewhere. It's all really messed up.

 

 

Thankyou Mesmerized.

[kaylan]

Since yall were talking about women in their 60s, lets not forget Helen Mirren.

 

Helen Mirren the bikini queen reigns supreme at 63 | Mail Online

 

If I saw her on the beach a few years ago looking like that, Id be up for some fun lol.

 

Shes got a fantastic body for her age and is a testament of fitness. She looks better than plenty of women decades younger than her.

Edited September 24, 2012 by kaylan

[irc333]

This post must've been started by a guy that's barely legal drinking age? LOL So it was just posted from his perspective.

 

Personally, I saw no difference in age, even physically between women in their 30's or 20's, I think changes start to happen when people in general turn 40 though.

[Bristolius]

There's an almost unacknowledged thread running through this thread: That you can affect your aging with good behavior. Aging badly is evidence of bad character.

 

On the contrary, you're stuck with your genetics. You can ruin your health. But so can your parents by providing bad nutrition when you're a child.

 

She walks like an old lady. Did she not take care of herself, or does she have arthritis or MS?

[bac]

to the women in their 30s do you still have as many men chasing after you as you did in your 20s? do you still look just as young?? be honest

 

It depends on a woman. IMO If she has changed for some reason, she might get some problems if she is in 40s. But, if you have about the same body and appearance, men will chase after you much more if you are in 30-40s.

You cannot look just as young as a teen but you can have the same weight (follow a diet), the same body (go to gym), and about the same face (botox or smth else). Also, being young means being naive, making mistakes and your attitude about sex is kind of passive. When you are older, you are confident, secure, skilled at sex.

[Renard99]

I'm a guy in my late 20s and I'm dating a woman in her early to mid 30s and personally like the maturity that she brings to the relationship.

 

As far as I’m concerned, I’m attracted to a woman for a variety of reasons other than age. I don’t look at my girlfriend and see the years between us. I look at her and see my beautiful girlfriend. She could be 10 years older for all I’m concerned but I’d still love her sense of humour, her like of geeky things, just like me, and, ultimately, loves and accepts me for.

 

I can see why OP is posting though. As I’ve approached 30 I’ve noticed the ‘pool’ of people who are single and without kids shrinks, yet the ‘pool’ of young people who are yet to settle into meaningful relationships remains fairly full. It would appear, on the surface that a man would have more chance, and inclination, to aim for the ‘pool’ where he has the greatest chance of getting results…. But not all men are like that.

 

 

I would rather date around my own age or older. Ok, so they may have a few signs of ageing (which is only natural), but, as long as I’m attracted, she’s beautiful to me

[MissJoness]

This post must've been started by a guy that's barely legal drinking age? LOL So it was just posted from his perspective.

 

Personally, I saw no difference in age, even physically between women in their 30's or 20's, I think changes start to happen when people in general turn 40 though.

Again my username is MISSjoness. I am a FEMALE.

[Negative Nancy]

Since yall were talking about women in their 60s, lets not forget Helen Mirren.

 

Helen Mirren the bikini queen reigns supreme at 63 | Mail Online

 

If I saw her on the beach a few years ago looking like that, Id be up for some fun lol.

 

Shes got a fantastic body for her age and is a testament of fitness. She looks better than plenty of women decades younger than her.

 

You can still tell she's old. Not only by her face, but also by the typical way an older woman's body changes. This bony arm appearance is so typical for older women, as is the sagging lower arm skin, and the skin around your arm pits when you have your arms straight down (I can't explain it any better). And of course the hands are the biggest give-away too.

 

 

Now, Christie on the other hand...

Edited September 24, 2012 by Negative Nancy

[kaylan]

You can still tell she's old. Not only by her face, but also by the typical way an older woman's body changes. This bony arm appearance is so typical for older women, as is the sagging lower arm skin, and the skin around your arm pits when you have your arms straight down (I can't explain it any better). And of course the hands are the biggest give-away too.

 

 

Now, Christie on the other hand...

I didnt say she wasnt old. My point was that she looks great for her age and many younger men will still find her sexually attractive because she stayed in good shape. And her arms are no more bony then plenty of girls around my age. Her body looks plenty healthy and attractive in my view.

 

Helen Mirren puts many of her peers to shame.

[FitChick]

You can still tell she's old. Not only by her face, but also by the typical way an older woman's body changes. This bony arm appearance is so typical for older women

 

Bony? Slim and toned. Besides, I doubt many men would be looking at Helen's arm in that photo.

 

I think most of Helen's mystique and perceived sexiness is due to her appearing totally nude doing risque sex scenes back in the days when it wasn't so acceptable. In my opinion, she can't compare looks wise to Hollywood stars her age or even older. I think she's a great actress, though. She wouldn't be able to play most of those great parts if she were smooth faced and line free.

[xxoo]

You can still tell she's old. Not only by her face, but also by the typical way an older woman's body changes.

 

Is it possible that old and attractive are both possible?

 

Men age, too! And a man Helen's age would see her as a sexy woman.

[utterer of lies]

As a 29 yr old, I am curious about this. Shall I expect the immediate change at midnight on my 30th birthday? Will I wake up looking different? Or will it happen right when I actually turn 30 (around 10:30am), gosh how exciting, will there be like a loud pop or a burst or something as I change?

 

The sudden realization of being a 30 year old woman will make you different.

 

And it will make you look different, because no matter what you tell everyone else, you do know inside that most men are that superficial and will find you less attractive if they find out your age.

 

I'm not trying to be mean, but I've seen this change a few times already.

Edited September 24, 2012 by utterer of lies

[Kamille]

The sudden realization of being a 30 year old woman will make you different. I've seen it a few times.

 

And it will make you look different, because no matter what you tell everyone else, you do know inside that most men are that superficial and will find you less attractive if they find out your age.

 

I'm not trying to be mean, but I've seen this change a few times already.

 

So what you're saying is that it's all a question of perception?

 

In that case, that would explain why the "30 year old curse" never affected me. I recommend other women do the same. Don't waste your time thinking about what might make you less attractive. Spend your time focusing on what does make you attractive. In my case, it's definitely personality, and so I tend to not attract the kind of superficial guys the aptly named Utterer of lies would have you believe are all guys.

 

Enjoy dating friends. Humans attraction takes all shape, forms and ages. And it's fun! Stop worrying so much and start enjoying what you have and who you are.

[Johnny85]

I prefer women in their late 20s and early 30s. I am 27! More mature, less games, independent and usually very sexy.

[utterer of lies]

So what you're saying is that it's all a question of perception?

 

In that case, that would explain why the "30 year old curse" never affected me. I recommend other women do the same. Don't waste your time thinking about what might make you less attractive. Spend your time focusing on what does make you attractive. In my case, it's definitely personality, and so I tend to not attract the kind of superficial guys the aptly named Utterer of lies would have you believe are all guys.

 

Enjoy dating friends. Humans attraction takes all shape, forms and ages. And it's fun! Stop worrying so much and start enjoying what you have and who you are.

 

No, it's not a matter of perception. It's a matter of self-perception. With the women where I've noticed the effect, it was the knowledge that they are 30 that changed them, not any outside factors. Still, it was visible.

 

Also, I didn't say all men, I said most men, and I believe that is correct. Don't you?

[Negative Nancy]

The sudden realization of being a 30 year old woman will make you different.

 

And it will make you look different, because no matter what you tell everyone else, you do know inside that most men are that superficial and will find you less attractive if they find out your age.

 

I'm not trying to be mean, but I've seen this change a few times already.

 

truer words were never spoken.

[Kamille]

 

Also, I didn't say all men, I said most men, and I believe that is correct. Don't you?

 

Nope. Men and women are as superficial as what their relationship objectives are. I tend to be relationship oriented and therefore tend to fall for guys who are also relationship-oriented. This means compatibility means at least as much to them as does looks.

 

But we're getting off-topic. The point is: we all age and people of all ages meet and fall in love. Off the top of my head, I can list off so many examples of people who fell in love when they were 40 or older.

[GirlontheLam]

The sudden realization of being a 30 year old woman will make you different.

 

And it will make you look different, because no matter what you tell everyone else, you do know inside that most men are that superficial and will find you less attractive if they find out your age.

 

I'm not trying to be mean, but I've seen this change a few times already.

 

The usual reaction I get from the under 30s is. "No way, I can't believe you are over 30." And then I pick on them about not remembering the good music.

[xxoo]

But we're getting off-topic. The point is: we all age and people of all ages meet and fall in love. Off the top of my head, I can list off so many examples of people who fell in love when they were 40 or older.

 

I know many, as well.

 

A lot of women I know experience positive changes when they turn 30. Among women, 30s are referred to as our prime. We feel great, inside and out (many of us feel better inside in our 30s than we did in our 20s, and it shows on the outside).

[Negative Nancy]

I can list off so many examples of people who fell in love when they were 40 or older.

 

Probably because the men settled.

[Kamille]

Probably because the men settled.

 

You are also aptly named!

[kaylan]

Hmmm....dunno how much water the "30 year old curse" holds.

 

Im 25, and I was at the gym the other day and finally made convo with this girl I always see there. She lifts free weights just like the guys do, and is in great shape. Im super impressed by her hard work and she looks very sexy.

 

I assumed she was 23 - 26 ish, but then during our convo she mentioned something about when she was in high school, that totally made me think shes at the cusp of 30 or already over it.

 

I found it even sexier that she made time to stay in such good shape seeing as tons of people let themselves go once they reach their late 20s. Plus Ive never really had an experience with an older woman, so if she is in her 30s, it wouldnt phase me at all. A fox is a fox.

Probably because the men settled.

We all compromise some...no matter what age. No one is completely perfect in every way for someone else. Theres always something that at one time you may wish was different about your partner, but they have other great qualities that make you not care about the little things.

 

Most people would like personality clones of themselves to date, but thats unrealistic.

Edited September 24, 2012 by kaylan

[mesmerized]

Let's not forget that fame and money along with beauty can get the ladies a hottie at any age. Madonna and Sharon stone's hot boyfriend's come to mind.

[Negative Nancy]

Ive never really had an experience with an older woman, so if she is in her 30s, it wouldnt phase me at all

 

Yes, for a hook up. For a serious relationship or marriage? I doubt it.

[kaylan]

Yes, for a hook up. For a serious relationship or marriage? I doubt it.

For a serious relationship I want a girl my age. Not much older or much younger. It works like that for plenty of guys too.

 

I relate best to girls who have the same life experience as I do. So Im favoring women near my age, and this range changes as I get older myself. I dont favor the 21 year old higher than the 29 year old.

 

Id prefer the 29 year old because the 21 year old would most likely be a kid still in college that I couldnt relate to much.