wanting more Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 Bailey......I meant to mention this to you before but I didn't want to take the time to go back and find the post. Anyway.........you quoted the line from the movie Steel Magnolia's, "I'd rather have thirty minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special". I used to have that quote as one of my all time favorites, even had it on my facebook page as memorable quotes. My 30 min of wonderful wasn't worth it, it cost me too much and it not only cost me plenty, other's paid the price too, including my xmm. If you had asked me back then, I'm sure I would have said, that whatever happens, it was worth it. I was so wrong. I hope you don't find someday that you were wrong too. I agree LadyGrey. My 30 mins wasn't worth it either!! Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 AnotherRound: Hey now, that stings! I am not judgmental (except for this one person I won't mention cause he just gets under my keyboard...startswithanS...) but aside from that. I happen to be a much less creepy BS. Okay, okay, I'm going back now... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AnotherRound Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 AnotherRound: Hey now, that stings! I am not judgmental (except for this one person I won't mention cause he just gets under my keyboard...startswithanS...) but aside from that. I happen to be a much less creepy BS. Okay, okay, I'm going back now... Oh, you know I'm not talking about you! There are several BSs that come here and post and offer intelligent and insightful and thoughtful responses and posts. Then, there are the others... lol. And yes, we all have those people that can get under our skin (well, not me really, cuz I'm pretty much immune to it), and I understand that... just use the Ignore button. I was ecstatic when I found it, bc it sure did quiet down the noise for me on here! And, you take my posts at face value, and aren't always demanding that I explain, or see it your way. That's how it's supposed to be - not telling others how to think and feel, but accepting that they have truths to share, and taking what you will from that. That's the whole point, imo, of forums like these. Not to come and feel superior or to take out your hurt and anger on strangers in some twisted effort to comfort yourself. Hence, the reason you don't see me on the Marriage and/or Infidelity boards poking people. If I don't have anything to offer, then I just don't post. I certainly don't feel the need to chastise grown adults for living their lives the way that they see fit. Anyway, not you! Just know when I mention stuff like that, you aren't included... Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 oh my gosh no way w/the superior stuff. I'd be a total hypcrite as I have made an error or two in my day*** Anyway, I was just razzin' a bit. I'm looking for the ignore button unless your joking about that. Now back to the thread.... ( which honestly & no dis respect to the thread starter, I haven't read through all the way, cause it wouldn't do me or op much good right now*) God bless! Out... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AnotherRound Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 oh my gosh no way w/the superior stuff. I'd be a total hypcrite as I have made an error or two in my day*** Anyway, I was just razzin' a bit. I'm looking for the ignore button unless your joking about that. Now back to the thread.... ( which honestly & no dis respect to the thread starter, I haven't read through all the way, cause it wouldn't do me or op much good right now*) God bless! Out... Nope, there really is an IGNORE button - and it's GLORIOUS! Quiets it down a LOT in here! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AnotherRound Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 I haven't put anyone on ignore. I probably should. That just made me wonder how many have me on. Lol... I know that nobody on my list has me on theirs, as you can still see if they post, just not what they post. And, since they respond to my threads, I have to assume they haven't put me on - but whatevs, I really couldn't care less about it. I liken it to turning up my headphones when I have to walk past the street preacher every day, lol. What he has to say is only to incite (he can't help it, he's not wired quite right), and so I just turn up the music and then I can't hear him. It makes that part of my day SO much more pleasant! lol I encourage you to use the Ignore button. I LOVE it. I just block out the noisemakers - the ones that don't add anything to the discussion, bc again, they are only trying to sickly diminish their own pain. I've got a few more that are on my "probably will Ignore" list... lol... time will tell. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bailey14 Posted September 24, 2012 Author Share Posted September 24, 2012 AnotherRound: Hey now, that stings! I am not judgmental (except for this one person I won't mention cause he just gets under my keyboard...startswithanS...) but aside from that. I happen to be a much less creepy BS. Okay, okay, I'm going back now... You can come visit us anytime! I read your comment regarding this thread on the Infidelity sub forum and I was hoping you'd come over to read about the turmoil affairs cause some of us. As I mentioned in one of my posts, I struggle every day to reconcile what I am doing with who I am but, I love him and just cannot bring myself to walk away. I am a flawed human being and I do not pretend to be otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
Radagast Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 Every law that was ever created was based on someone's morals. What on earth is moral about which side of the road you drive on? And are the French more or less moral than the Brits for driving on the "wrong" side of the road? On another thread we started to talk about how an OW justifies her relationship with a MM. How do you justify it? It's a very long time since I was "the other man". At the time I really did not think much about it at all. When I was a teenager I had worked in a supermarket on weekends as a shelf packer, and my lunch breaks had largely comprised cashiers (older, married women) taking it in turns to treat me to oral sex, for which I was the envy of my peers whose Saturday jobs involved delivering newspapers or cutting lawns. So when I was approached by an older, married woman in a pub close to where I was studying, I had no immediate moral response telling me to keep away. On the contrary, I'd always been taught to take care of others and to try to make them happy, so I listened to her long tales of woe about her marriage, and when she offered me sex I accepted. It did not occur to me to assume the role of watchdog over her marriage, which I'd been told was damaging and oppressive and which she'd claimed she was seeking to escape. I assumed that as an adult, she was able to make her own decisions about what she wanted and what she did not, and it was not my role to make assumptions on her behalf. I suppose the only "justifying" I was called on to do was explaining to the other girls I'd been seeing casually why I had dropped them, when she moved in with me after her husband kicked her out, and explaining to my family why I was getting so serious so young (and, with an older woman to boot!) when they thought I ought to be sowing wild oats. But at the time I really believed I was doing her a favour, listening to her and offering her advice, offering her comfort and physical release and offering her as much support as I was able to give. Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 (edited) Stephanie has this queued for review so I'll close it pending her review. We should have it back open today sometime. Thanks. Upon further review, considering the narrow scope of the starting post and the breadth of responses and their tone, moderation has decided to leave the thread intact and closed to discussion. Thanks for your participation. Edited September 26, 2012 by William Reviewed thread. Link to post Share on other sites
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