Teddi Posted July 24, 2004 Share Posted July 24, 2004 hey guys.. I was just wondering if anyone..who..is in my position now..had any ideas of bringing themselves out a bit more?? my confidence level is at about 30% most of the time and i want to seriously upt that!...ive tried throwing myeslf out there but OH GOD!..that didnt work! lol my looks dont bother me too much.....im not ugly and ive been told that im 'hot' by a few people...but im far from big headed...i am a bit self-conscious though anyone here not been too confident and now is much..much more confident?...if so...how did you approach the process? im sure this has been related in so many posts..but im making this confidence specific!..its strange with me..i can talk to any girl who is bubbly and out-going..no problem!.....its the other type ive a big prob with....im like eh...um...eh....hi? anyway...i dont need to talk about that....but really..anyone in the same predicament...how did you sort it out?...thanx Link to post Share on other sites
J.LO Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 Hey I have the same problem as you. I have a hard time talking to people and when they are shy it's worse. I think what ya gotta do is just be yourself, and try to bring up something to get a conversation going. Even say hi or just ask afew questions. It works sometimes. It's hard when you don't know what to say and you don't want that other person to think that you are weird or so. But the main thing is be yourself and try hard not to think of what the other person is thinking of you. I hope I was a help! Jen Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teddi Posted July 31, 2004 Author Share Posted July 31, 2004 thanks jen yea.....i really do try those things....im always fine with girls who are more talkative than having a two word vocabulary! i think im the type that will totally sprout in like a year or something....ive had mates which that has happenend to what about you?..... you have any questions on your mind?..... i am a great advice giver...but when it comes to myself..im hopeless..lol... Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted July 31, 2004 Share Posted July 31, 2004 if you get along better with talkative girls, just stick to them! why are you trying to get along w/ shy girls is that's not your boat? my 2c, -yes Link to post Share on other sites
Pained Posted July 31, 2004 Share Posted July 31, 2004 Yes, I WAS in your boat. And I'm sorry to say it, but confidence is hard-earned. It doesn't come from reading a book, it doesn't come from meeting people. I honestly believe it comes from accomplishment. For example, I love archery. I used to be really bad at it, but I kept practicing, and now I'm pretty decent. I once failed out of college but now I'm 10 months away from graduation and getting straight A's! With each accomplishment my confidence grew, and on those days when I didn't like myself, I reminded myself of those accomplishments. This has an added bonus: when you have goals and hobbies and things to aspire to, people want to get to know you. People are attracted to happy people with things going on in their lives. Link to post Share on other sites
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