ColumbiaD Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 Tonight I told my husband that I think I want a divorce, and his response was "OK". That's all that was said about it. The timing is terrible; I haven't been able to sleep all night because I just keep thinking about can I even afford to leave him. I'm starting a new job tomorrow that is really different from what I used to do. In addition to finding a new place and moving, I have to come up with money for a car, get my own health insurance, and probably a whole bunch of other things. Not to mention the cost of the actual divorce. Anyways. I suggested marital counseling to my husband a few weeks ago, and he was initially all about it. However, the only reason he agreed is because he didn't understand what a counselor would actually do - he actually thought that a marriage counselor would validate everything he thinks/says, tell me that I'm crazy and put me on drugs. I have no idea what kind of drugs my husband thinks that I need to be on, but I suspect it's the "shut up, let me do what I want and don't bother me" kind. I was going to go to individual counseling (which I also found out is the only kind our insurance helps pay for), but because I have a job and can't take a day off every week or even every month for that, I can't go until next month, and then who knows when I would be able to go after that. Tonight we had dinner at his parent's house with his sister/BIL (). As we were leaving his dad said something about calling Philip, to which I naturally asked "Who is Philip?" Apparently my husband has been talking to his dad with never a word to me about having this guy come to our house to spray some kind of composite on our deck. Not only did my husband not say a word to me about having work done at OUR house, he was going to spend $1200 on it and apparently never discuss it with me. To me, that is bad enough. But when I said, "Oh you better replace the rotting wood first" (which is definitely less snotty than "You're going to pay someone $1200 to cover rotten wood in plastic?") my husband, in front of his dad, snapped at me "Just shut up, you don't know what you're talking about". I'm pretty sure that I'm furious about being dismissed like that, but it's buried really, really deep under disbelief that I'm married to someone that has so little respect for me, and something that feels like devastation. We didn't say a word to each other the rest of the night; my husband is sleeping on the couch. What the fvkc is HE angry about? So, I thought it about (been thinking about it a lot lately anyways), went downstairs, and said I want a divorce. Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 (edited) "Just shut up, you don't know what you're talking about" leave him, you will have to live like any other single woman pays to do Edited September 24, 2012 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
Author ColumbiaD Posted September 24, 2012 Author Share Posted September 24, 2012 (edited) "Just shut up, you don't know what you're talking about" leave him I see you edited after I hit the quote button. I already do pay bills, I'm not sure why you're implying my post has anything to do with me not wanting to have to spend my salary on bills. I think most people can agree that moving, purchasing a car, and paying for divorce lawyers is expensive. Edited September 24, 2012 by ColumbiaD Link to post Share on other sites
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