Author roshni.agarwal Posted October 9, 2012 Author Share Posted October 9, 2012 As some of you hav advised for my benefit that i shouldn't call him so I didn't called and its completely NC till now Yesterday my best friend called and she told that she talked with my ex Bf through her friend and she told me my ex is having typhoid and he is not well, he was continuously coughing while talking.. After hearing that I am feeling really very bad and I am thinking to call him just once to ask about him.. He is really not well, he got admitted in hospital also.. Should i call him?? Please guide me Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 Same as before honey, same as before. It's not fatal. Nasty, yes. Fatal - No. By all means ask for updates, but quit thinking of excuses to contact him... really, leave it be. Link to post Share on other sites
Author roshni.agarwal Posted October 9, 2012 Author Share Posted October 9, 2012 Same as before honey, same as before. It's not fatal. Nasty, yes. Fatal - No. By all means ask for updates, but quit thinking of excuses to contact him... really, leave it be. thanks! Actually I was just wondering and asking question to myself whole night that do I hate him that much that i can't even ask about a health of a person with who I have lots of memories, I know some are really worse but its just about his health., what if something bad happens to him then I would regret whole life that i could have talked with him.. But nothing will happen to him, i prayed for him.. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 It really isn't a question of either 'love' or 'hate'. Both are emotions, and they're very closely tied; but they both drain us equally of control and power, because when you hold them in your heart, you're giving your energy to an outside source; every time you think of him and wonder, you're depriving yourself of thinking about you, and making you happy. You should reach a stage of Benign indifference. You don't think badly of him - but then, you really don't care either way, because his existence doesn't affect you, just as mine doesn't.... You need to think about him, as much as you think about me. See? Not at all. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 do I hate him that much that i can't even ask about a health of a person with who I have lots of memories, I know some are really worse but its just about his health., what if something bad happens to him then I would regret whole life that i could have talked with him.. See, that kind of thinking would be OK if you left him, aka broke up with him. But as far as I understood "he left you" (so you said, and "several times"). He didn't want you in his life anymore. Let the thought sink in for good. That's what you haven't digested yet. He got rid of you. If he wanted you in his life, even as a friend, you would have been one of the first persons he would have addressed. Link to post Share on other sites
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