BrokeninHalf Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 (edited) I don't understand after all we have been through over the years, he is still controlling and jealous! I am next to going to get councling for myself! He refuses councling! He is also very selfish. We have all week to spend time together. If my single child askes to come home for the weekend to spend a little time with us, I am super excited but my husband does nothing but complain and states "They need to find a companion and quit coming home". He wants to basicly keep me all to his self. ( I am partly flattered but these are our kids he's jealous of). I want to have a very close family and want my kids and grandkids to always feel welcome in our home! It seems that everytime I want to have family time, he just gets in a bad mood comes in and out of the house. Everyone can see his body language and they feel unwanted and unwelcome. We have all tried to get past this and chaulk it up to "well, thats just Dad". It is longer fun copeing with this. My husband is perfectly fine with his behavior and states "if they don't like it, they don't have to come around!" A couple of my kids and I share the same sport and he has let me go with out him in the past when he couldn't go, BUT because I begged him to let me finish the season out. He would get so MAD when I wanted to stay and watch them compete instead of coming home. He would want to know who I was hanging out with and what guys were talking to me....ect. My kids support me and I want to support them and could never forgive myself if they were to get hurt and I left because my husband thinks I need to be home when he is home. I have assured him, if I was going to do something with another man, I sure would not do it in the presents of my kids, no matter how old they are. I love them all, but don't want to have to choose between my husband and my kids AND, I dont think it's fair that he puts me in that possition. Edited September 24, 2012 by BrokeninHalf Had some spelling misstakes. Link to post Share on other sites
sadguy82 Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 Wow, sorry to hear your situation. Nothing worse then to be tied down by someone so irrational. Don't get me wrong, I look very forward to my 3 boys growing up and moving out. Even more so to them coming over with their families for weekend get togethers. I could never imagine being so miserable to have that "take it or leave it" attitude. Communication is key between the two of you now. You need to let him know what you want in life and listen to what he wants and come to a conclusion. If you can't see eye to eye then take it to the next level. Life is too short to be spending these years trapped in the house doing nothing, bowing down to someone who doesn't deserve it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author BrokeninHalf Posted September 25, 2012 Author Share Posted September 25, 2012 Thanks for taking the time to read my post and for the advice. I am torn and don't want to loose any of them, but have been considering a separation so he will have time to think and open his eyes. He is not the only one that matters and I am so afraid he will cause long term damage and drama to the family. I am having a hard time figuring out where to draw the line, but when it comes to my children, young or old, it puts me right on the brink! I brought them into this world and there is enough ugly and hate that goes on, they don't need to get that treatment from their parent. Thanks again for reading! Link to post Share on other sites
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