soccorsilly Posted July 25, 2004 Share Posted July 25, 2004 My ex and I agree on parenting issues for the most part. However, occasionally there will be something that flares up and she (IMHO) goes off the deep end. My son will be 13 in two months. Last week when he was with me, we both watched Saturday Night Live and had a good time. Well his mom found out and pitched a fit. SNL is not appropriate for a 12 yr old and how could I do that? She also has banned PG-13 movies in her house. Am I way off the mark here? Link to post Share on other sites
ringo Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 Communication is key.... rules have to be set and obeyed in both house holds or your child will get confused or worse, like one parent more than the other. Dad lets me do this and you don't, therefore I want to live with Dad.... this is inappropriate. You two are raising a child in two seperate households, yet you need to maintain the same set of rules. You and your ex should sit down alone and discussing these rules and guidelines..... agree to disagree if you may, but comprimise in the best you can.... secondly, sit down with your son and discuss these rules and get his insight on how he feels about them. You aren't living together, but are raising a child together..... so work TOGETHER - agree to disagree when needed, but comprimise.... Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 Has she watched it recently? I don't think it is as racy as it used to be in the 80s, 90s. And you were watching it with him to explain anything that got out of hand. Yes, I think she is overreacting. Banned PG-13 movies also? Way over the top (unless there are younger kids also). But of course that is just one single mother of boys' opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Author soccorsilly Posted July 26, 2004 Author Share Posted July 26, 2004 A lot of her parenting has gone off the deep end since the divorce (IMHO) so I could not say if she watched it or not. We do have two younger daughters (10 and 7) but they are not up that late. However, she is hesitant to allow the girls to watch PG much less PG 13. I was talking about this at work today and could not even remember where SNL was too racy even back in the heyday...maybe the Jane You Ignorant Slut! But, at 12 he has heard it all before! I am actually loving this age with him as we can do some "male bonding" to a degree and the relationship--while still father/son, also has an element of friend/friend as well which I love! I did watch it and there was nothing objectionable that I saw. There was probably plenty that would go over his head (politics and all) but that is to be expected. I don't let him watch South Park which I feel is a lot worse--even though "all" of his freinds are allowed. Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 I let my 7 yr old watch PG-13 movies (although I watch them with him and try to get a review from someone who has already seen the movie). Maybe she feels like she needs to be ultra-Mom now that you are divorced (a little bit of guilt there?) Although you try to maintain the same set of rules for both households, in all reality that doesn't happen - they are two different places with two different sets of people. I think if it was getting too raunchy you'd turn it off. I also think she'd be amazed by what your son learns from his peers in Jr High. If your son is smart, he'll learn there will be things he does with you that he won't share with Mom. Kinda sad but I think the problem will take care of itself that way. Link to post Share on other sites
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