Misty2004 Posted July 25, 2004 Share Posted July 25, 2004 My problem is this: Have become friends with a guy in work over the last month or 2. Recently he revealed that he liked me as more than a friend. If i'm honest, I probably like him more than a friend too. But, he's in a relationship. He says that since meeting me, it is making him re-evaluate his life. So do i remain friends with him, or do i walk away now before anyone gets hurt, before more feelings develope? Let him re-evalute his life without me in picture? I want to remain friends, but I'm not sure if it's the right thing to do. Something is telling me to walk away, but I don't know if that's common-sense or fear. Link to post Share on other sites
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 25, 2004 Share Posted July 25, 2004 Can you just remain casual friends? I don't see why you have to completely disappear from his life but just be sure not to let things become to intimate. Link to post Share on other sites
BVItortola Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 Now I must admit I'm a little biased. I essentially did the same thing as your friend, although it was she that is a relationship. I had NO expectations as she is really happy in her current relationship, I did it for my own sanity. However, if she had any similar feelings towards me, I would certainly want to know. Why would you want to end the friendship? 1) He says he likes you - wants more than just friendship? He obviously has strong feelings for you. 2) You honestly feel that you like him more than just a friend also? Life is too short. You should be honest with him and let him know how you feel. He should be honest with himself and his current girlfriend and end that relationship. If you have had the effect on his life that he say's you have then it seems to me that a relationship, assuming you are willing, would work out very well indeed. If not, then that's life - not everything works out the way we want. Whatever happens I think you both should have a conversation about your feelings about one another - for both yours and his sanity. It wouldn't hurt in resolving any whole issues that may have "popped" up as a result of what he said. Hope things work out for you. Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 He is in a relationship, yet he has informed you that he likes you as more than a friend. You also work with him, and becoming involved with persons you work with is often not a very good idea. If you were to enter into a relationship with this man, what is to say that he will not meet someone else, and express a similar interest to that person while he is in a relationship with you? If things do not go well, will you be prepared to face him at work, where you would have no choice but to see him? Link to post Share on other sites
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