Strongerthaniknow Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 My husband of 12 years today told me he wants out of the marriage. He said he loves me but isn't in love with me and thinks I deserve better. He's 36 and I'm 48. To be honest I knew things weren't right. He s self-employed and has been been under an enormous amount of stress this year. We haven't been having fun like we used to. My mother was here visiting this last month and I didn't have much time to talk with hubby. I was hoping to sort things out after she left which was just last week. However he's been away for work for three days so I haven't had a chance. He rang tonight with his news. I did flip out a bit and get a wee but hysterical. He says there is no one else and I believe him. I really think its MLC as he's been under so much stress and has no time for himself. He had a dysfunctional chldhood and struggles to express his feelings. I hope he will get therapy to help him sort his feelings and thoughts. He says he just doesn't want to be around anyone. I realise now I have relied on him too much as I have no friends. I probaby need to work on myself and improve myself. I don't work. We weren't able to have a family due to fertility issues. I moved to the UK from Canada to be with him after a two year long distance relationship. I do go to uni part time but am thinking of packing it in now due to the distance and lack of direction on my part. He says he will continue to provide for me. I just want my hubby back!!!!!! Please if anyone has any advice I would very much appreciate it. Link to post Share on other sites
riverratt Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 It doesn't sound like it is "you". He has things on his plate and your are caught up in it. You may want to talk to a therapist about him, with out him knowing, and see if they can give some advise as well. Just a thought. Link to post Share on other sites
Ami1uwant Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 It sounds to me it could be the stress of work..... It could be the demands you put n him...where he doesn't feel he lives up to your high expectations... Another part of me thinks the age difference is playing a factor here.....you are 12 years older and he can easily get someone 20 yrs younger than you. Link to post Share on other sites
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