joel Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 i was watching my tv-handheld and my mom caught me, usually she doesn't mind but now she took my ac adapter away from me and i can't watch the b ball game. i can;t even follow the sports or any tv show . well i can watch on the regular tv but mom always watching it. the thing is i don't watch a lot of tv but i can;t study all day long from 10 am to 11 pm on a sat and sun, what can i do, i can buiy a new adapter but if she catches me with the new adapter she take that away or the tv. i really hate this what she does-controlling controllling women. i hate it. i am thinking of getting rechargeable batteries put em inside the tv and when i hear her come i quickly hide the tv under my shirt. how long would rechargeable batteries last on a handheld tv. . anyways if i buy the adapter considering my mom and dad they come in my room likle every 15min so i have to quicly turn the tv off and hide both the adpater and tv under my bed or somewhere, as the battery option i would leave out the wire issue. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 If I was your parent, and I took away the adapter, and if I caught you finding ways to disobey me further, you'd lose the whole thing. Maybe permanently. The rechargable batteries is probably your best bet. The new adapter would have a cord you couldn't hide as easily. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 Were you supposed to be doing something else? Not get your chores done? What was her reason for taking it away? Who bought the handheld TV? Did your parents pay for it, or you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author joel Posted July 26, 2004 Author Share Posted July 26, 2004 paid for it myself lol. nope not chores i am 23 male btw. i really hate controlling, dictatopship parents u now, if i ever marry a gal like that i would dump her straight or leave her. her reason for taking it away was b/c i was using it too often lol. i really hate ppl that do that worst is -she be like this "first get ur marks high the i give it back to u," when u do get ur marks high then she be ragging on something else then i give it back to u f**** it. i hate this blackmail bull*** pissing me off. b/c she is my mom i take it other than that wife or gf or friend i say get out of my face i don;t wanna see u. Originally posted by HokeyReligions Were you supposed to be doing something else? Not get your chores done? What was her reason for taking it away? Who bought the handheld TV? Did your parents pay for it, or you? Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 Huh? You are 23? If you don't like it, move out. It's strange that your mom is trying to control you like this, but considering that you still live there, you really have no choice. Why don't you leave? Link to post Share on other sites
Author joel Posted July 26, 2004 Author Share Posted July 26, 2004 going to college right now . don;t have a job -trying to find one got some interviews but no job yet. if i was to work i be working at mimi wage is that enough to even pay rent and live. thinking of finishing college get a great job and great money and get the f*** out. btw i'm chinese maybe its a cultural thing but if is or not it f*** sucks. QUOTE]Originally posted by HoldOn Huh? You are 23? If you don't like it, move out. It's strange that your mom is trying to control you like this, but considering that you still live there, you really have no choice. Why don't you leave? Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 Are your parents paying for your college? If that's the case, and you are living at home, then I can sorta see her POV. I've had tuition reimbursement from my employer and in order for that to work I had to keep my grade at a certain level or above. If I went below, I would not receive the reimbursement. Your parents have the right to expect a certain grade level if they are paying for your tuition. If they see that your grades are falling below that level, instead of yanking the tuition, they are imposing another type of 'fine'. If you are meeting their requirements, however, then I agree that your mother should not try to manipulate you this way. She should not be able to dictate your social life---unless it interferes with your ability to get the good grades that she requires in return for her paying tuition. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 OK, it makes a little more sense now why you are living at home. However, unless you have a language barrier, I don't understand why you can't get a job. Are you going to summer school? It's the middle of July, what have you been doing all summer? Also, you could easily get a non-minumum wage job. Waiters can make over $100 a night. I don't know what kind of area you live in, but even in expensive places you could earn your rent by working 5-7 nights a month! Regardless, if you live at home and your parents pay for your home and your food and your school, I guess you just have to live with it... Link to post Share on other sites
Author joel Posted July 27, 2004 Author Share Posted July 27, 2004 ok then what mark is suppose to be at the certain level. i mean some ppl are like it gotta be A in everything and anything which i think in some courses are like impossible considering the avg mark in the course is like C+. i mean really what mark is to the barrier of good. i had courses which i busted my butt and got a low mark and courses i busted my butt and gotten high marks, and so forth Originally posted by HokeyReligions Are your parents paying for your college? If that's the case, and you are living at home, then I can sorta see her POV. I've had tuition reimbursement from my employer and in order for that to work I had to keep my grade at a certain level or above. If I went below, I would not receive the reimbursement. Your parents have the right to expect a certain grade level if they are paying for your tuition. If they see that your grades are falling below that level, instead of yanking the tuition, they are imposing another type of 'fine'. If you are meeting their requirements, however, then I agree that your mother should not try to manipulate you this way. She should not be able to dictate your social life---unless it interferes with your ability to get the good grades that she requires in return for her paying tuition. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 Originally posted by joel ok then what mark is suppose to be at the certain level. i mean some ppl are like it gotta be A in everything and anything which i think in some courses are like impossible considering the avg mark in the course is like C+. i mean really what mark is to the barrier of good. i had courses which i busted my butt and got a low mark and courses i busted my butt and gotten high marks, and so forth Did your parents give you a grade level? What grade level did they tell you to maintain? Perhaps you can talk with them about a compromise. Talk to the instructors in the courses where you receive a mid-level © grade and ask them what percentage of students get A's in their class. Take that information to your parents to discuss it with them. You will have some support in your argument if your instructor tells you that 95% of his students do not get over a B and that is expected. Maybe your parents are not realizing that you are in-line with other students and instructor expectations and fear you are at the bottom of your class. If you want things to change for you at home, then you need to approach your parents in a mature way and with good information/statistics to back up your argument. Ask for something that you know they will not agree with, but have in mind your own compromise level. If they take things away from you as a form of punishment, do they also give you things (material items or freedoms) as a reward for your achievements and successes? That might be something to discuss with them also. Link to post Share on other sites
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