TG1 Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Why is it that fathers are more overprotective of their daughters dating guys when fathers aren't as protective if not even protective at all when it comes to their sons dating girls? If anything how about mothers even? Mothers, can they even be considered as being overprotective when it comes to their sons dating girls? But when it comes to their daughters dating men, they aren't as protective Double standards if I ever encountered it 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Because people know what their own gender is capable of. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author TG1 Posted September 27, 2012 Author Share Posted September 27, 2012 Because people know what their own gender is capable of. That's true but at the same time you would think a father would trust his own daughter especially enough so that she can make her own decisions when it comes to dating Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 That's true but at the same time you would think a father would trust his own daughter especially enough so that she can make her own decisions when it comes to dating He doesn't trust the boys she is out alone with. Adolescents, by nature, are not fully trustworthy. They are still learning and developing high level reasoning and judgment. They make mistakes, with high stakes. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 He doesn't trust the boys she is out alone with. Adolescents, by nature, are not fully trustworthy. They are still learning and developing high level reasoning and judgment. They make mistakes, with high stakes. and to add to this great point, they have far less control over their hormones than a more mature male. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TG1 Posted September 27, 2012 Author Share Posted September 27, 2012 and to add to this great point, they have far less control over their hormones than a more mature male. That's true but I guess they just see their daughters as little girls still Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 That's true but I guess they just see their daughters as little girls still For me it would be more along the lines of her not having the physical capability to protect herself if she needed to. If or when the day comes that I have a teenage daughter I will strongly encourage her to take a self defense class. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 That's true but at the same time you would think a father would trust his own daughter especially enough so that she can make her own decisions when it comes to dating Some people make really stupid decisions when they are young and parents just want to keep kids out of those pitfalls. I wish I had a good mother who would have talked some sense into me before I married my first wife. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 That's true but I guess they just see their daughters as little girls still Are we talking about teen sons and daughters, or adults? Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 When talking to peers in my 20s, stories of date rape (or attempt thereof) were disturbingly commonplace. Link to post Share on other sites
Negative Nancy Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Because they know what kind of scumbags men are and that their own gender cannot be trusted. It's actually pretty pathetic. Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 (edited) The most calm, confident girls I knew in school, were those who were taking a martial arts class. Edited September 27, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 4 Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 For me it would be more along the lines of her not having the physical capability to protect herself if she needed to. If or when the day comes that I have a teenage daughter I will strongly encourage her to take a self defense class. i would too. and i'd probably also leave a shotgun just randomly laying on the coffee table when he comes over to pick her up. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 When talking to peers in my 20s, stories of date rape (or attempt thereof) were disturbingly commonplace. I remember that was one thing that put me off when I was in my late teens/early twenties. It seemed to be a common thing - sad, and scary. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TG1 Posted September 27, 2012 Author Share Posted September 27, 2012 i would too. and i'd probably also leave a shotgun just randomly laying on the coffee table when he comes over to pick her up. Wow old-school fathers if I ever saw any, LOL, but still realistically I think I would do the same, I can't even lie or laugh anymore Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 i would too. and i'd probably also leave a shotgun just randomly laying on the coffee table when he comes over to pick her up. That reminds me of one of my favourite lines from Clueless. "Anything happens to my daughter, I got a .45 and a shovel, I doubt anybody would miss you." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 (edited) Teen dating violence statistics I don't mean to be an alarmist, and I have hope that my own kids will have positive dating experiences. But the reality is that teen dating can be dangerous for girls. Edited September 27, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Response to deleted post Link to post Share on other sites
Author TG1 Posted September 27, 2012 Author Share Posted September 27, 2012 That reminds me of one of my favourite lines from Clueless. "Anything happens to my daughter, I got a .45 and a shovel, I doubt anybody would miss you." Yes I would probably say something along those lines but I would put the fear of God in him by telling him that if he even thinks about hurting my daughter in any way shape or form, not only would no one miss him, I would make sure no one would find his body either Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 That reminds me of one of my favourite lines from Clueless. "Anything happens to my daughter, I got a .45 and a shovel, I doubt anybody would miss you." this is how it plays out in my movie... horny boy: "oh hey cool shotgun" runner: "yea you know, just thought i'd clean it out and make sure it's in good working condition. cos you never know eh" horny boy: Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 this is how it plays out in my movie... horny boy: "oh hey cool shotgun" runner: "yea you know, just thought i'd clean it out and make sure it's in good working condition. cos you never know eh" horny boy: Have you heard the country song "Cleaning this Gun"? It describes a dad's approach, chatting with the boy before they leave, telling them to have a good time and he'll see them later, because he'll probably still be up cleaning this gun 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 (edited) Because they know what kind of scumbags men are and that their own gender cannot be trusted. It's actually pretty pathetic.Some men are scum bags, and some arent. If I had the chance to meet the guy my future daughter was dating, and he earned my trust, Id have no reason to take issue with her being alone with him. The great thing about me that was both of my exes fathers had no beef with me, and always trusted me with their daughters. Perceptive parents can peg a good guys character and I am a respectful guy who seeks to protect women. 1 in 6 women are victims of rape or attempted rape. Thats 15%...15 out of 100. Thats A LOT. Rape is a terrible thing. Watch the movie "KIDS" and see exactly what teenage hormones in males can do to wreak havoc on naive young womens lives and health. Edited September 27, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Response to deleted post 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 (edited) Men are greatly aware of what other men are capable of, especially those that have no scruples. I'm sort of surprised why you need to ask in the first place. Most men would be well aware of this kind of thing. Edited September 27, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Response to deleted post Link to post Share on other sites
Titanwolf Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I feel like men mostly want to protect their daughters bodies and women mostly want to protect their sons hearts. Don't ask me why I think that, but it's the impression I've gotten over the years. With that said 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I feel like men mostly want to protect their daughters bodies and women mostly want to protect their sons hearts. Don't ask me why I think that, but it's the impression I've gotten over the years. With that said I'm concerned about a daughter's heart, too. Very concerned. But I am not so concerned with a son getting physically hurt while dating. I'm more concerned with a son getting hurt when out with other boys, acting recklessly. No shortage of mother's worries to go around. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Minka333 Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Because dads were once young horny dogs.. and dogs can sniff other dogs. Link to post Share on other sites
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