EasyHeart Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 A lot of it is instinctive and not rational. We are instinctively protective of young girls. Plus, we know how teenaged boys think and women don't. Whenever I see a boy with one of my teenage nieces, my immediate thought is, "I know what you're thinking, you low-life piece of ****. I'm watching you." Their mom is perfectly calm and says idiotic things like "Oh, he's a nice boy". I know better. There's no such thing as a nice teenage boy. Some of it is more practical. One of my friends has 3 boys and 1 girl, who's the youngest. When his daughter started dating he said, "I used to only have three penises to worry about. Now I've got to worry about thousands. . ." Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Plus, we know how teenaged boys think and women don't. Whenever I see a boy with one of my teenage nieces, my immediate thought is, "I know what you're thinking, you low-life piece of ****. I'm watching you." Their mom is perfectly calm and says idiotic things like "Oh, he's a nice boy". I know better. There's no such thing as a nice teenage boy. We aren't idiots. We know! We dated teenage boys. Part of it is Good Cop, Bad Cop. Part of it is, we aren't as upset by the idea of our daughter having sexual experiences. We might even talk to them about their experiences, if the relationship is very close (reason to be the Good Cop). Link to post Share on other sites
Titania22 Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Well I actually have a teenage daughter, and the reality is nothing like the fantasy you guys are creating in this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Why is it that fathers are more overprotective of their daughters dating guys when fathers aren't as protective if not even protective at all when it comes to their sons dating girls? If anything how about mothers even? Mothers, can they even be considered as being overprotective when it comes to their sons dating girls? But when it comes to their daughters dating men, they aren't as protective Double standards if I ever encountered it I worry more about my daughters as a single mother and as far as my sons goes I try to teach them to respect the girls they date.....I treat the young woman my son dates as a daughter he is engaged to her now and I am pushing for him to make a commitment.......i fhe doesnt and they end up breaking up she is now part of my family ....my tribe....she has my grandchildren i will be there to support her no matter what, married or seperate and my son better do the same or ill tie him to the ceiling fan....have to install one first then ill tie him to it put it on rotate till he begs to be nice to her..smiling im kidding i do expect him to respect her though...deb Link to post Share on other sites
EasyHeart Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 We aren't idiots. We know! We dated teenage boys. Part of it is Good Cop, Bad Cop. Part of it is, we aren't as upset by the idea of our daughter having sexual experiences. We might even talk to them about their experiences, if the relationship is very close (reason to be the Good Cop).No, you really don't. You may know what teenage boys said and did, but you have no idea what they thought about. We do. Now I know why the dads of all the girls I dated looked at me the way they did. They knew. . . . Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 (edited) My daughter was raped by a "boyfriend". Pyro's point is very well taken. Edited September 27, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 My daughter was raped by a "boyfriend". Pyro's point is very well taken. I didn't know this, this is terrible GT, I'm very sorry Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I didn't know this, this is terrible GT, I'm very sorry Thanks. It was devastating for all of us, and was made all the worse by the fact that she waited over a month before telling anybody, which made criminal action very tough. But that's not the only action which can be taken, and one day his ass WILL be mine. I make no apologies for trying to protect my daughters as best I can. If someone thinks I'm being somehow "inappropriate" by doing so, so be it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Disenchantedly Yours Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I feel like men mostly want to protect their daughters bodies and women mostly want to protect their sons hearts. Don't ask me why I think that, but it's the impression I've gotten over the years. With that said Geez TitanWolf lol at that clip. There might be some truth to what you say about that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Thanks. It was devastating for all of us, and was made all the worse by the fact that she waited over a month before telling anybody, which made criminal action very tough. But that's not the only action which can be taken, and one day his ass WILL be mine. Yes I can imagine that month would have been the difference in many ways. Those cases are notoriously difficult to prosecute. Poor girl. At least she told you eventually. I make no apologies for trying to protect my daughters as best I can. If someone thinks I'm being somehow "inappropriate" by doing so, so be it. Absolutely Link to post Share on other sites
Disenchantedly Yours Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I think if I had a boy and a girl, I would want to protect both. I would of course want them to make healthy choices regarding sex, I am sure they won't wait until marriage, but I would hope they would wait for someone special to them at least. I think I would be most concerned with how they deal with things emotionally. I would also want to teach both how to respect the other gender. Which is why "protection" for your children needs to come from both parents since both parents offer something unique in their own experience as a man or woman. Too often, people only think about how their child is being treated. They fail to teach their kids how to treat others. Which is why men slap each other on the back, and their sons, for "banging" girls but then expect their girls to be respected by other boys. A man's daughter will never be respected by other boys if men don't teach boys to respect themselves and girls too. And that works the other way around. This isn't just a matter of making sure your kid is safe. This is also a matter of making sure your kid knows how to respect others too. Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 (edited) ^Its kind of a live and learn type of thing. Yes, rapes happen. But if they had been more aware of the individual they were going to go out with. Bad things wouldn't happen....as often. So, the man or boy isn't responsible for what they do, it's the girls' fault for not seeing them as a ****ty person right away? Edited September 27, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Response to deleted post 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 On another site, there was a woman asking how other parents deal with their teenage boys - how to raise them right. I was surprised that she, of all people, asked, because her son seems to be a good kid, but he's surrounded by less positive influences, and she's trying to keep them as minor as possible. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 On another site, there was a woman asking how other parents deal with their teenage boys - how to raise them right. I was surprised that she, of all people, asked, because her son seems to be a good kid, but he's surrounded by less positive influences, and she's trying to keep them as minor as possible. I think it must be really hard for mothers. I'm guessing a few of them must struggle to relate to their boys as those boys mature. They also aren't tough enough on them often. Can't be easy Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 (edited) Due to multiple reports, thread closed for moderator review. Expect disposition update within 24 hours. Edit: Reopened at Stage Two. Why is it that fathers are more overprotective when it comes to their daughter dating? Edited September 27, 2012 by William Processed thread Link to post Share on other sites
LauraP Posted September 29, 2012 Share Posted September 29, 2012 (edited) Because they have this unrealistic dream that their little girl will wait till marriage and how they want us to be innocent, naivee dolls forever yet the men can fool around whenever they want to. Or maybe they just don't trust their daughters' intuition. I'm not stupid. I can tell when if a guy is giving a bad vibe or has no good intentions. If only my father knew how I'm wayyyyyyyyy past virgin status and definitely not the wholesome, good girl (I lost count and do not have self-esteem issues... I just like it), he would seriously faint and probably not talk to me for a long while. Edited September 29, 2012 by LauraP Link to post Share on other sites
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