simplybrill Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 ok this is wierd...for the past 2 days...Ive been dreaming about my ex. Not fantasy like oooh I wish I was back with him...In all the dream's he's being really odd...but not out of character haha. In one, he was literally putting his fingers in his ears and talking loud, to drown out whatever it was I was trying to say to him. In another, I was sitting at a resturant, and there was this divider between me and him with a window cut in it, and I saw him through the divider, and I flicked him off! And for some reason, the friend he was with, was making fun of the way I flicked him off? Haha, the only problem was, there were little kids I couldnt see on the other side of the divider, and as soon as I did that, they flicked each other off? That one was funny. This last one, I was at a resturant, and I saw him, with some friends and a "new girl" which looked like me, and I stopped to say hello for some reason, and he started acting really childish, saying "nooo nooo take her away, make her go away" and I ended up walking outside of the resturant and talking with the "new girl" and trying to explain my side of the story and what a jerk he was to me. very odd. I guess this is my way of getting rid of my memories of him, in my dreams? Link to post Share on other sites
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 Stop worrying about what others think of you. You don't have to explain your side of the story to anyone. It wasn't their relationship...You're the only one that needs to feel you did the right thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author simplybrill Posted July 26, 2004 Author Share Posted July 26, 2004 It was a dream. Gimme some credit here...jeez. I know I did the right thing, because Im not trying to get back with him. I was just wondering if anyone else is havin dreams about their ex's. Link to post Share on other sites
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 It was a dream. Gimme some credit here...jeez. Yes it was a dream. I'll give you credit for recognizing that fact, but since you felt it was important enough to post about I don't give you credit for receiving comments based on a subconscious level, which is what I was responding to. Let me elaborate: Is it possible that you could still feel that you have to tell people your side of the story so you feel justified in what you did? Is it possible that your dreams are an interpretation of what is still in your subconscious? Do you feel like you have to justify yourself to other people? Even though you know what you did was right? Is your dream showing you what is still bothering you on a subconscious level? Link to post Share on other sites
dugs Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 AAAGH!!!! The dreams drive me crazy! ever since she left me a couple of months ago, I have been dreaming about her almost every night. Sometimes I dream like we are back together again, and somtimes I have dreams were she totally ignores me. I think the worst dreams are the one's where we are back together again and everything is perfect. Then all it takes is a couple of seconds after waking up for reality to creep its way back into my mind and its the saddest thing in the world to realize she is still gone. This is only the second girl I've ever loved and yet I still dream about my first love from time to time as well. I guess the subconcious can never really let us forget about the ones that we loved deeply. Link to post Share on other sites
memomma Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 Here's one for you...... It has been over 20 years since I even saw my old boyfriend let alone broke up with him......okay, we broke up in 1977........high school sweethearts. Would you believe I STILL dream about him? He was in my dreams last night. The dreams always seem so real to me that I often wonder does he ever dream about me as well. I know it sounds crazy but I do. I really think he was my true love and will remain in my heart for a long time if not forever. Weird, huh? Link to post Share on other sites
spaacjam Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 That's amazing memomma, I mean I was aware that those who have played important parts in our lives can literally never fade, but it is in some way uplifting for me to hear that many people on here think or dream of their ex's LONG after they leave. I was left by my ex about seven months ago, still think about AND dream about her constantly, which can be painful. The funny thing is that when I talked to her on the phone a month after breaking up, she snuck in the question "Do you have dreams about me?" , which I was every night then, and had to wonder if it was because she just wanted to know or because she was about me every once in a while. I know you said you broke up, but just out of curiosity, who broke it off. I think this might have a large effect on how much we turn to other person into a dreamlike ghost. Link to post Share on other sites
abfchgirlx Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 I actually stopped dreaming about my ex when I realized I was over him. Or well, that's how I realized. Even two years down the road, I'd dream about him here or there. Then, one day, I realized I completely had forgot about him for a while now, and it still continues. Who knows, maybe I'll dream about him again? I hope not! He doesn't need to be running around in my mind, that's all gone and over with! Link to post Share on other sites
mintjulep Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 I was just wondering if anyone else is havin dreams about their ex's.It's completely normal for me to have dreams about ex-boyfriends, ex-friends, and even people I haven't seen in many years. I don't think it has anything to do with my subconscious in the way that olivia was implying - only because they fit "profiles" that my dreams need to have to be complete - and because it happens every night (I vividly remember all of my dreams, which is something that people are jealous of, but only because they don't know the science behind it. It's actually bad if you can remember your dreams because of the timing of your waking up, but anyway...). I did, however, dream a lot about one ex to justify the breakup. I kept being able to put him in his place and it did help in the end because I was able to do things in my dreams that I was not able to do in real life. This lasted a few months after the break up. Now, if I dream about him, it's more that he's a character in the dream because I once knew him and the person in my dream needs to act like he did in real life - no biggie, usually. There is this one guy from school that I keep dreaming about, recently. Once, he kissed me, and I thought he was my boyfriend. Another time, I threw his shoe in the river. Neither dream had anything to do with real life, but only occured because he is a guy in my life who fit a profile in the dream - not for any deep subconscious reason Hope this helps! Link to post Share on other sites
memomma Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 I think our breakup was a mutual decision. Can't be sure cause this happened way over 20 years ago. One thing that keeps me thinking about him is just wondering how he looks at this time. I picture him as the 18 year old I knew when in reality he's almost 45. I would love to see him and put the memory to rest. Maybe when I've lost these extra 30 pounds, I'll run into him at Walmart..... Link to post Share on other sites
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