depressedinbama Posted September 28, 2012 Share Posted September 28, 2012 Hello everyone. I'm a newbie here. I was searching on Google for someplace to go to talk about this, and found this forum. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 1/2 years and 3 months ago I moved in with him. I've never been suspicious of him cheating on me in our entire relationship...until now. See, there's this woman at his work and he's talked about how "cool" she is and how much they have in common and they also became friends on Facebook and have posted on each others' walls. He even told her on FB how much he appreciates her and how much her checking on him when he had to miss a day of work meant to him. He's also been acting "different" and now he's turning down sex, but one night he turned it down I saw him on the computer when he thought I was asleep "doing something" while looking at internet porn. I don't know what to do...on the outside everything seems fine between us (except no sex) but this is driving me crazy. In fact, I'm posting this because I can't sleep! What does everyone think? Am I just being paranoid or what? Thanks so much! Link to post Share on other sites
Author depressedinbama Posted September 28, 2012 Author Share Posted September 28, 2012 Is this guy like 16 years old? Who gushes about stupid stuff like how MUCH it means to someone just because their co-worker checked in on them when they were out from work? He sounds like a teenager with a crush. Yuck. I don't know if she's joining in on the flirtation and giving it right back to him or if she's managing to side-step his juvenile puppydog adoration and keeping it strictly on a friendly level - you didn't say in your post. But he definitely sounds like he's putting a little too much effort into this 'friendship' with his coworker. Yeah, I do think she is "after him." She's posted videos and stuff on his FB page. I wish I knew what went on at his work! Link to post Share on other sites
Hawaii50 Posted September 28, 2012 Share Posted September 28, 2012 Drop in, bring him lunch, watch his reaction. Link to post Share on other sites
Author depressedinbama Posted September 28, 2012 Author Share Posted September 28, 2012 Drop in, bring him lunch, watch his reaction. That's not an option...only employees are allowed in the building. Plus he eats before he starts his shift. Link to post Share on other sites
TG1 Posted September 30, 2012 Share Posted September 30, 2012 Go with your gut Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted September 30, 2012 Share Posted September 30, 2012 could he be cheating on me? Maybe, but also quite possibly not. The evidence you have presented here is nothing much. The fact that he has gone off sex is not a good sign in a healthy relationship, but it can easily be due to other factors. It sounds like he could have attraction for the other woman at work (who could actually be married or have a bf). It is possible to find others outside of your relationship attractive, but never act on it while in relationship, but at the same time he could see things in her that makes him have stronger feelings for her than you now...but we don't know. (he hasn't cheated, but you still don't want this) How long has he been knocking back the sex for, and what is his reason each time? Link to post Share on other sites
Author depressedinbama Posted October 3, 2012 Author Share Posted October 3, 2012 Well, he was in a good mood the other night and home from work, so we talked. I didn't confront him about the computer thing and I didn't mention the woman in question by name. He assured me that "there's not anyone else" and that he hasn't been having sex because he's just been tired. He did scold me though, for being so insecure. I don't know, it didn't seem like he was lying to me, but I still can't shake this feeling I have. Link to post Share on other sites
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