Just read a sad article about height

[silicone]

Disclaimer: I'm 5'2", shorter than the guy in the following article - my own counsellors have now suggested that I undergo limb leg extension surgery, yet I am not convinced that the foregoing would sufficiently positively impact the suffering condition.

 

Article Would you spend £34,000 to be 3 INCHES taller? Thomas Keeper had his thigh bone sawn in half and spent months hobbling with a frame | Mail Online.

 

Summary:

 

At just over 5ft 7in, few people would have described Chris Johnson as short. But despite being just 2in under the average UK height for a man, the 25-year-old was so insecure about his stature that he wore built-up shoes.

 

Then, two years ago, he discovered that cosmetic surgery could make his legs longer and give him the extra height he craved.

 

Then at the bottom of the article, came the saddest thing that I had read:

 

 

‘When I told my wife about the operation she said she would never have been interested in a guy shorter than her,’ says Thomas.

 

 

#IDontWantToLiveOnThisPlanetAnymore

[suladas]

Can I make money by becoming shorter? I'm 6'5" i'd be ok with loosing a few inches

[Sun Devil]

I do not think that I would get that surgery even though I am only 5 feet tall. I never had problems making friends or getting respect. The only issue I have with height is attracting women. Hopefully there are many women out there who are not shallow. If not, then love really does not exist and I will use fear to scare a woman into submission.

[Negative Nancy]

Then at the bottom of the article, came the saddest thing that I had read:

 

 

‘When I told my wife about the operation she said she would never have been interested in a guy shorter than her,’ says Thomas.

 

 

#IDontWantToLiveOnThisPlanetAnymore

 

 

Yes I thought the same when I read the caption of the picture of him and his "wife" :

 

Thomas with his wife Maggie, who said she would not have dated him before the surgery

 

 

Why he even got with her is beyond me, that's like dating a man who wouldn't want a woman without augmentation

[silicone]

I feel for the kids if they inherit their father's natural height.. god forbid...

[SteveC80]

He must have read the article that said for a women to pick a short guy over a taller counterpart the tall guy would have to be a pedophile or a murderer:laugh:

 

I feel sorry for short dudes height is extremely important to most women

[Negative Nancy]

I feel sorry for short dudes height is extremely important to most women

 

I bet you don't feel sorry for women who do botox, undergo breast augmentation, nip tucks etc.

Edited September 29, 2012 by Negative Nancy

[Titanwolf]

But...OP.....didn't we tell you to stop seeking out things like this? or did you get curious?

[silicone]

But...OP.....didn't we tell you to stop seeking out things like this? or did you get curious?

 

Well, here's something which people will not like - my psychs and counsellors to help with my my insecurities etc pretty much advised me to get surgery - and I'm going to be facing an Multi Disciplinary Team next week.

 

Obviously, I don't want this as this isn't going to solve the damned core issues that exist.

 

I was looking for something else, when someone posted something on another forum about wanting to get the surgery and I googled for more information about the procedure.

[Titanwolf]

Well, here's something which people will not like - my psychs and counsellors to help with my my insecurities etc pretty much advised me to get surgery - and I'm going to be facing an Multi Disciplinary Team next week.

 

Obviously, I don't want this as this isn't going to solve the damned core issues that exist.

 

I was looking for something else, when someone posted something on another forum about wanting to get the surgery and I googled for more information about the procedure.

I'm surprised they would suggest such a thing, it's irresponsible. The patients of the procedure stressed the excruciating pain they endured for the duration of their recovery time. You also leave yourself more vulnerable to bone diseases like arthritis (from what I've gathered).

 

If you really needed to gather research on a topic like this, you should have asked me to do it for you. I'm quite good at research. You going off on a tangent, finding articles that will cause you to spiral into depression again, isn't helping you.

[silicone]

I'm surprised they would suggest such a thing, it's irresponsible. The patients of the procedure stressed the excruciating pain they endured for the duration of their recovery time. You also leave yourself more vulnerable to bone diseases like arthritis (from what I've gathered).

 

If you really needed to gather research on a topic like this, you should have asked me to do it for you. I'm quite good at research. You going off on a tangent, finding articles that will cause you to spiral into depression again, isn't helping you.

 

Either way - having the operation is not something I will consider - it just doesn't fix the self esteem issues - that and I'm look out of proportion as well.

 

Would you mind doing some research on the emotional effects this has on people? I can't see this resolving it, just putting a band aid on it, really :/

[Titanwolf]

Would you mind doing some research on the emotional effects this has on people? I can't see this resolving it, just putting a band aid on it, really :/

 

Height overall? or the specific surgery?

[silicone]

Height overall? or the specific surgery?

 

It would be the specific surgery thanks:)

[sweetheart5381]

This a really saddening thread to read.

 

I dated a man, he was 5'2", I am 5'7" or so never really measured... with heels I can look a 6 foot tall person in the eye comfortably.

 

The man I dated was so self-conscious about his height that he hated me wearing high heels when we went out. I personally love heels on a night out, it is part of the foreplay for me I suppose. It means that romance is in the air... I mean, I wear heels so a man will see my legs, curves and such. He exerted power, got upset and I stopped wearing them. Buzz killer for me.

 

His obsession over his height eventually made me want to break up. He was really insecure about other parts of himself too which bothered me. I want a man that cares about himself and wont feel bad about what he was born with. Hell, I have a huge birthmark on my left leg... but it doesn't change how I feel about myself!

 

Low self-esteem is a serious relationship killer.

[MrCastle]

5'7 and I'm a pussy slayer.

[silicone]

This a really saddening thread to read.

 

I dated a man, he was 5'2", I am 5'7" or so never really measured... with heels I can look a 6 foot tall person in the eye comfortably.

 

The man I dated was so self-conscious about his height that he hated me wearing high heels when we went out. I personally love heels on a night out, it is part of the foreplay for me I suppose. It means that romance is in the air... I mean, I wear heels so a man will see my legs, curves and such. He exerted power, got upset and I stopped wearing them. Buzz killer for me.

 

His obsession over his height eventually made me want to break up. He was really insecure about other parts of himself too which bothered me. I want a man that cares about himself and wont feel bad about what he was born with. Hell, I have a huge birthmark on my left leg... but it doesn't change how I feel about myself!

 

Low self-esteem is a serious relationship killer.

 

You got that right, but I'm the type of person to internalise it, and that's exactly what I've done.

[sweetheart5381]

I do not think that I would get that surgery even though I am only 5 feet tall. I never had problems making friends or getting respect. The only issue I have with height is attracting women. Hopefully there are many women out there who are not shallow. If not, then love really does not exist and I will use fear to scare a woman into submission.

 

Using fear .... not very effective... and I certainly hope you were trying to be funny.

 

If not, you should watch the movie "Girl with the Dragon Tattoo". Might change your mind bout using "power". When the rapist gets a big fat steel dildo shoved up his ass and tattooed... well that's just priceless Women can be scared momentarily... but we do have a way of paying it back

[sweetheart5381]

5'7 and I'm a pussy slayer.

 

Haha, Pussy Slayer... I like that.... hmm, might make a nice license plate.

 

PSY SLYR

 

That would really make the ladies come running I bet

[sweetheart5381]

You got that right, but I'm the type of person to internalise it, and that's exactly what I've done.

 

Well don't.

 

Forget what society expects from you and start thinking about what you expect from yourself.

 

Do not internalize what you cannot change in a reasonable manner.

 

I once would have done anything for a boob job... I felt so bad after breast-feeding my kids, they changed. I would hide them afterward. I felt awful about them. Media tells women they need to have double D globes on their chest to have a chance at attracting a man. I am a natural C-cup.

 

After a lot of thought I decided to stop hiding them. I actually displayed them in an effort to rid me of the fear of my own self-perpetuated inadequacy. Low and behold every man I know enjoys the view and thinks I was silly for ever not being proud of them. I wear low-cut tops all the time now and don't feel even slightly self-conscious.

 

Just be yourself.

[silicone]

Well don't.

 

Forget what society expects from you and start thinking about what you expect from yourself.

 

Do not internalize what you cannot change in a reasonable manner.

 

I once would have done anything for a boob job... I felt so bad after breast-feeding my kids, they changed. I would hide them afterward. I felt awful about them. Media tells women they need to have double D globes on their chest to have a chance at attracting a man. I am a natural C-cup.

 

After a lot of thought I decided to stop hiding them. I actually displayed them in an effort to rid me of the fear of my own self-perpetuated inadequacy. Low and behold every man I know enjoys the view and thinks I was silly for ever not being proud of them. I wear low-cut tops all the time now and don't feel even slightly self-conscious.

 

Just be yourself.

 

I'm really trying to - the only reason I internalise it is because the last time I spoke about it to my gf, it didn't really end well in that I don't think it resolved anything on my side. I'm sort of ashamed that I see it as a big thing. I don't let it affect me, no one would be able to tell that I beat myself up about it.

[SmileFace]

6'8" reporting in.

Too tall don't want

 

See even tall guys get discriminated..teehee

[MrCastle]

Haha, Pussy Slayer... I like that.... hmm, might make a nice license plate.

 

PSY SLYR

 

That would really make the ladies come running I bet

 

Damn. Now I'm gonna drive around upset that my plate doesn't read PSY SLYR

[tori0001]

don't do it

[sweetheart5381]

Damn. Now I'm gonna drive around upset that my plate doesn't read PSY SLYR

 

Sorry, couldn't help but think of the "Pussy Wagon" from Kill Bill when I wrote that comment, sorry

[bob the brave]

"I live alone in a swamp, not because I have a problem with the world but because it has a problem with me." - Shrek

 

 

This is pathetic...not your height...but freak'n mankind. I've already posted here after having a height issue myself and seen two councelors. Both told me there is nothing wrong with me, it's the world! And I'm freak'n 5'9"! I can only imagine your pain. Did you know only 13% of American men are 6' or taller? That means women are throwing away almost 90% of guys!

 

Like you I am a well adjusted, college educated professional, well travelled and active in sports and other hobbies. A girl that origianlly hit on me, dumped me after she came right out and asked my height! Then she picked up with a married playa that would make fun of my height, has no education or skills, makes minimum wage and drinks a six pack a day! After months of abuse she comes back to me! I showed her the door and won't even talk to her now. I mean I work with this girl and I walk right past like she ain't there!

 

You can read all the articles you want, see all the couselors you want, post all you want and finish off pint after pint of JD, but it won't change the truth. THERE AIN'T A **** THING WRONG WITH YOU. You don't have a self-esteem problem, you like yourself and you should. The problem women don't like you. Women are genetically tuned this way. It's not logical. It's not fair. It sucks. And not just for you, but the women who have missed out on your company!

 

But there is another truth. Although b***** exist, there are plenty of angles to go around. Look at Michal J. Fox. Tracy Pallord suck with him through his shortness and Parkinson's disease. My landlords are a wonderful couple that have been married for 40 years and raised two tall strong boys. Both are 5'2" tall! Everybody in the neighborhood loves these people. He is one of the people I respect most and go to for advice. I see his shortness, but I when I see it doesn't bother him, it no longer bothers me and I truly see a guy who is 10' tall. This is no BS.

 

So, I would forget the couceling (except it does help to vent), articles, posts and what not. Leg extension surgery when done correctly ($80,000) does work. Some people have done it twice. That is a decision you will have to make, but you would just end up with the shallow type of girl you don't want anyway. Just man up, respect yourself and ignore the BS. I know that is easier said than done, but it is true, you'll have to do it some day and it will get easier with practice.

 

Take note as my landlord proves we are not doomed to wander the earth alone. Being short is a b**** filter, that removes all the human seweage from the ranks and will leave you with that one sparkling gem that will love you and not see your height at all.