Internet use-what do men & women think"not crossing the emotional & pysical line"

[littleflowerpot]

Originally posted by dyermaker

Obviously, which is why the first thing I said was that it's good they're not married.

 

She asked for opinions from both men and women. My opinion is that the ends don't justify the means, and one should never read things that don't belong to you.

 

yes, it's a good thing they aren't married so i guess it's a good thing she trusted her gut instinct and found out that he was trolling for sex with unsuspecting women before they got married. he would have married her had she not found out and confronted her with it. she was wrong too but i think this is one case where the ends do justify the means. if not, they would have gotten married and he would then have been cheating on his wife.

[sally1530]

Thanks for your opinions on this.. its been 3 months now since the cancellation of our marriage, and I struggle with it every day. I really didnt think much of it at the time because i was just looking to see about the bachlor party info.. I wasnt interested in reading all of his emails.. but there was only one email from a gal and two girl email addresses saved on the favorites -contact area. I trusted him until then, I never thought in a million years he would be doing what he was doing. It was a complete shock to me and then when I confronted him with it , he lied to me 7 more times in a row, exposing more info each time he was caught in a lie, finally I said I dont want to know anymore, I dont think I can take much more. So I stopped questioning him. I was completly honest with him and faithful, never wanted not contacted or even talked with anyone I found attractive. He was the only one in my eyes... I loved him with all my heart.. I guess that is why I have such a hard time getting on with my life and feeling good about what has happened. Im not sure why he said outloud his private email address and password on the phone in front of me.... I will never know... maybe in some twisted way he wanted to get caught so he could get out of the marriage... I would have never known he had a private email address or his password if he didnt expose it out loud in front of me while he was on the phone with his sister... its almost as if god wanted me to know what was going on. My gut was telling me something was wrong but I ignored it for months... because I wanted to marry him so much and didnt want to loose him. But I think it was fate that I found out , because that is not in my nature to snoop.. and I did it... but once I did I never thought I would find what I found. I am still devistated to this day, its been three months and my heart keeps breaking each new day. The hurt he has caused me .... I fear I will never recover from. I never expected him to abondon me the first time I goofed up. Is that love? What about forgiveness? What about working on things?

 

Anyway, it helps me to talk about it. and I appriciate you all for your support through this extremely difficult time im my life.