mlrills Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 I will try to make this as short as possible. I am 28 years old, married and have a seven year old son. My mom passed away when I was 21, so I decided to move south and get to reknow my dad (my mom and dad had been divorced since I was 2) and my step mother and sister. My stepmother and dad have been married for 26 years and my sister is a product of their marriage. My dad travels a lot and is rarely home. I think my step mother does not treat my son and me the way she does my sisters family. My sister is married with two kids. It is obvious she favors my sisters kids more that my son. ( My son is the oldest out of the three grandkids). Recently she took my son school shopping but did not give him the stuff right away. When she gave him the bag some of the stuff was missing out of it. I knew that it would happen, but it is like the icing on the cake. She used to charge me to babysit my son, but does not charge my sister. And it is to the point where she is basically raising my sisters kids. My sister and her husband work a lot and the kids are not the most important things on their list of stuff to do. She has a room set up in her house with stuff my nephews like completely, but nothing in the room is for my son. She promises my son stuff, like taking him on trips but then will leave without him, taking my nephews with her and not my son. She doesnt drive and most of the time either my sister or myself take her on her errands. Well when I take her to the store she will buy stuff for my nephews but nothing for my son. When she took my son school shopping she just had to buy stuff for my nephews too. Doesn't seem fair does it? I always feel guilty about feeling this way, but I am not going to let my son grow up with any bad feelings like I have. I have always felt like the step child, and I don't want my son to feel like that. I have a hard time with confrontation. What do you think I should do. When she was online a little while ago I asked her is she "found" the missing items and she said no. So I said, "well that is okay I will just will replace them with my money and my son and my nephews can have matching stuff. She acted like she didnt give it to them. Link to post Share on other sites
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 Have you considered talking to your father? Ask him if there is something that your stepmother is unhappy about. Do you live with your stepmother? Link to post Share on other sites
Author mlrills Posted July 26, 2004 Author Share Posted July 26, 2004 NO! I don't live with my family, Thank God. My dad is clueless as to what goes on. I mean he knows that my stepmother has my nephews all the time ....and makes little comments about my nephews being "their kids"...but I don't think he knows how I feel. I did let him know about my step mother leaving on the trip without my son...and it caused a lot more problems than it helped. I think once I tell them how I feel.....I won't hear from them anymore. I haven't figured out whether this is good or bad???....(kinda lol). I just feel like you should try to get along with your family no matter what, but not at the expense of my sons feelings or mine. See I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. So any advice? Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
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