Marpessa Posted October 1, 2012 Share Posted October 1, 2012 Allow me to preface this by saying that I am no good at flirting, I can't tell when a guy is flirting with me, and I have trouble getting into relationships. The -very- few boyfriends I have had have all told me that I'm a good girlfriend, but I can't make the first move. Especially not anymore, because this one guy sort of ruined it...I'm moving past it but I'm not there yet. That's a problem, since there is this guy I like and I want to find a way of telling him. To make something already difficult even harder, he is 10 years older than I am. I'm 18 and I know that I don't act like most girls my age, or I try not to at least, but I still will probably have to convince him that I'm not just some child. He is former Army, which is something I greatly admire, and I would be lying if I didn't admit that the military service and him being dead sexy are the primary reasons I want to go out with him. I am a very visual person. But what I know of his personality I like, and we seem to have similar humor. To be honest I thought he was a little stuck up when we first met, but now I understand that he's one of those guys who is casually -not cruelly- arrogant, but without being a jerk. If that makes sense.... We have one class together, public speaking, and the only time I see him is during that class and sometimes in the hall when I'm leaving one class and he's going into another. I think he may be flirting with me, or maybe he's just being friendly. I can't honestly tell. I need to figure out how to flirt with him without seeming like a lovestruck little girl. So far the best thing I have come up with is asking if he would be willing to let me interview him for my next speech. I plan on doing it on the Army (I'm an Army brat and he knows it, so it wouldn't be strange) and getting an "expert" interview would actually go over very well with our teacher. I think it would be a good way of being with him one on one to see if it would be reasonable for us to date. I suppose my main questions are as follows: 1. Would the average 28 year old ever really consider dating an 18 year old, no matter how mentally mature? 2. How the heck is a shy girl supposed to flirt? 3. How do I know if he is flirting with me? 4. Is there a non-prying way of finding out if he is already in a relationship? (He doesn't wear a ring, but that means nothing these days.) If anyone could help me (especially a guy, as I tend to believe men understand men better than women do) I would greatly appreciate it. I see him again tomorrow, then once more this week, so I want to do something soon. Especially under the guise of my speech, since I need to get that witten. Thank you! ~ Essa ((Yes this is CP'ed. I'll get results faster that way.)) Link to post Share on other sites
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