Camron Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 ...Its been a long time, thanks if you have taken the time to read this. After two years, my g/f has decided after a month and a half of living with me that she wants to take a break my heart is broken, because after two years of ups and downs, in which I met her while I was with another woman, after over a year of dishonesty, I've turned my life around and commited myself to her, 100%. I'm heart broken, and don't know quite what to do..please help me...someone.. Link to post Share on other sites
ValentinesForMe Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 Don't know your entire situation other than from what you posted but it sounds like you were playing the field then got caught and decided to leave one girl for another? Then later on you decided to be faithful but now she wants out? Sounds like the relationship didn't have much to go on to begin with. What have you done to show her your committed to her? Why did she leave or want space? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Camron Posted July 27, 2004 Author Share Posted July 27, 2004 ..thanks for responding....well I first met my g/f while with another woman. The other woman was my good friend, and we fell in love. But there is a diffrence with bieng in love and loving someone. I did'nt know the diffrence. I saw both woman at the same time for over a year, bieng totally didhonest to botyh of them. They both found out, and I swore to change my life around. My current g/f forgave me in September, and I began to turn my life completely around, saving money, not abusing drugs or booze. We moved in together a month ago, and I cleaned, cooked and payed all the bills while she got herself back on her feet. But a few weeks ago she broke up with me based on some rumor that her sister, who has trust issues that she projects apon other people, started. I tried to be myself around her and her family more, because I was finally bieng honest with myself..but now she needs space to process all that I did to her almost a year ago....I don't know what to do I went away this weekend and stayed with friends and when we did speak on the phoneshe would ask me when I wanted to come home, I got home Sunday and we made love--we hug each other every day and kiss but this is killing me she is the one for me...I'm lost. Link to post Share on other sites
ValentinesForMe Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 Maybe she needs a stronger sign of committment. Do you want to marry her? If she's "the one" maybe her doubts and trust is based on your lack of committment? Relationships that started off based on lies and deceit rarely last. How do you know you really love this girl? Are you just afraid of losing her and being alone or do you really love her? Sometimes the thought of losing someone makes us crazy and we become obsessed - mistaking that obsession for love. Ask yourself this - if you two got back together and worked things out would you constantly have to jump thru hoops and walk on eggshells for this girl to trust you? No matter what you do and how loyal you remain is she always going to second guess you? If it doesn't work out you need to realize you were at fault here. Juggling two women and lying to both - it's amazing one stuck around. Does she love you but just can't trust you? If this is the case then you need to tell her it will take time but you'll prove yourself. Can you honestly be faithful to her? What if she agrees to stay - how long will you value her and stay faithful before you get the itch to chase another woman? Link to post Share on other sites
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