danw Posted October 1, 2012 Share Posted October 1, 2012 Hello everyone, first post and the first time I've ever been on somewhere like here, and I've got quite a bit to write, so I apologise and I hope everything makes sense and this is in the right section... I have been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half now and things are getting a little difficult now. I really do love her and I always make sure she knows it and I make sure I always put her first, above any friends or myself, and I am always around when she wants to see me and I do anything I can to make her life easier. She is a few years younger than me and stays at college during the week and doesn't drive or work which I am completely understanding about, so I am responsible for the money and driving side of things, which I don't mind at all because I'd do anything for her, but this does stress me out a little sometimes when I'm low on cash with the current financial world how it is right now, but I can cope with that and I know everyone has these problems. What I am struggling to cope with is her attitude. After we started seeing each other, she slept with someone else, however we weren't really together and she was young and drunk so I let that go and we got together a while afterwards. When we were together, she went out with friends and got drunk and kissed a somebody. Again, I let this go and I forgave her and I try not to dig or bring it up. I don't drink or do drugs and since being with her I don't have many friends so it's rare that I go out, but when I do I am always completely straight with her about who I am with and where I am going and text her back all the time I am out so she knows what's going on. And I only go out if she's out or while she's staying at college. As the number of friends I have and the amount of time I ever go out without her is dwindling, she has become increasingly jealous and angry about the friends I do have left. She has my facebook password and isn't shy of going through my phone although I don't do this or have her password, and there is never anything to hide as she is the only one I am interested in, but if girls talk to me completely innocently or if girls I was friends with before I knew her talk to me to see how I am or anything -even if I don't reply because I know that would make her angry - she goes crazy and tells me it's them or her and gets really angry with me and wants to write back to them giving them a load of grief and stuff and threatens to leave me. I have never cheated or talked to anyone innapropriately or even seen any girl friends while I've been with her and I pretty much revolve my life around her now. Also with my male friends, she tells me they just use me for lifts and stuff, even when I'm out with them for an evening or they go to the same place as me so they aren't just using me, and this makes me feel really down and I don't think I have a lot of confidence left to be honest. She is a nice girl and when she's happy and there isn't anything making her mad we have a great time so I am not here to make her out to be a monster, I really love her, but her anger and jealousy is taking over now. How can I deal with this? I don't want to break up with her, and I especially don't want her to break up with me, but it feels like I have no life left outside of being with her... Link to post Share on other sites
WhatYouWantToHear Posted October 1, 2012 Share Posted October 1, 2012 For everyone who doesn't want to read the long post, let me quote the only thing you need to know about what he said: She is a nice girl and when she's happy...but her anger and jealousy is taking over now People do not change with time, in fact their characteristics get more prominent. Run do not walk to the nearest exit. Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 So basically you let her walk all over you and now you're surprised that she's acting like a brat? Link to post Share on other sites
Author danw Posted October 3, 2012 Author Share Posted October 3, 2012 (edited) I suppose that's it really yeah... you're right I finally put my foot down because it's getting ridiculous, and I said I have done more than anyone else would have to make her problems our problems and help her work through them and support her and basically let her get away with far too much already, but it is not in any way unreasonable to expect to simply be polite and civil with somebody if they talk to me regardless of how she feels about them. Anyway, she "dumped me" but of course is still talking to me to give out a combination of abuse and putting me down and why she thinks I should completely ignore somebody because she now doesn't like them and says that a simple "It's been a while, how are you?" is getting involved in our relationship. I know I'm just going to keep being told to walk away, but I was hoping someone had been in a similar situation and made it through still in the relationship or had some magic words for me haha Edited October 3, 2012 by danw Link to post Share on other sites
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