how long is too long to wait for him to leave her

[promises]

Attracted to him becausr I didnt think he was dishonest and I didnt intentionaly fall for him

And because I dont know how much of it is true, how much im making up in my head because of the origional situation and my past experiences and if there is a logical explanation but I guess im just trying to convince myself

 

 

I loved my guy too until one day this broke me down so terribly it cost me my job,my,reputation ,my dignity. I have a post on my forehead now that reminds me of the meaning of the term gumption. Trust me, i still cry often.. It's just not debilitating anymore. One thing i wish i would have maintained from beginning to end was more gumption. I loved him too..unintentionally ..but it nearly destroyed me.

[Brit]

Attracted to him becausr I didnt think he was dishonest and I didnt intentionaly fall for him

And because I dont know how much of it is true, how much im making up in my head because of the origional situation and my past experiences and if there is a logical explanation but I guess im just trying to convince myself

 

A flurry of Conjunctions= a relationship that reeks of present and a sure future of hell on earth.

[The other women]

Thank you everyone it really does help having non objevtive responses from people with no connection..... just one thing! how do I start the conversation to say why I cant do this?

[Brit]

Think to yourself, if you were treating an individual like this man is treating you, it would mean................?

[promises]

• Open mouth
  
• Utter words
  
• "I can't do this"
  

 

I said I can't do this approx. six times. Walk away for awhile and love yourself with more power than you are giving him. He's one person.

[Cali408]

Thank you everyone it really does help having non objevtive responses from people with no connection..... just one thing! how do I start the conversation to say why I cant do this?

You don't have a conversation, just stop answering his texts, calls, facebook. Change your number. Done. If not, as stated above. We're through, I'm not playing second fiddle to anyone and it's wrong. Good bye forever. Hang up, cry.

[veryhappy]

I only read the last page.

 

If you've never had the discussion of having to end, do have the discussion. Otherwise, just stop contact. He'll know. He's not stupid and he knows nothing changed.

 

You say "I can't cope with having an A anymore, it is not an option to continue in any way, we can't be friends and if you love me you'll respect my wish and help me move on."

[2sunny]

So now you know he lies.

 

Now you KNOW you are his secret!

 

Why are you settling for so little?

[neveragain34]

One day is too long. If he wants you, he would have left her by now since they aren't even married! Even if he was married, one day is still too long. Learning that lesson now, wishing I never met my exMM. Take everyone's advice and move on...

[Survivor12]

You do realize that even if he says that he wants to be with you now, it wouldn't mean that you were his first choice, but the fact that he hasn't, PROVES that he's been stringing you along.

 

As far as telling him it's over, what do you mean you "CAN'T do this anymore"? Unless you can tell yourself--and him--that you "WON'T", you are leaving yourself open to his attempts to change your mind. Frankly, I don't believe that you owe him an explanation, but by simply walking away, you will likely have to resist his attempts to keep you on his back burner so I suggest a firm, "I am done. Leave me alone".

 

Oh, and when he starts contacting you again, after he gives up all hope on getting his gf back, remember what I said in the first paragraph.