ThaWholigan Posted October 1, 2012 Share Posted October 1, 2012 I can't believe I'm making this thread ........ If as a man, your GF/wife said that she's giving you free reign to go and sleep with other women whom you find hot while you're in a relationship with her, what would you think? Would you do it? Any other thoughts? Opinions from women are more than welcome. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CaptJay Posted October 1, 2012 Share Posted October 1, 2012 I can't believe I'm making this thread ........ If as a man, your GF/wife said that she's giving you free reign to go and sleep with other women whom you find hot while you're in a relationship with her, what would you think? Would you do it? Any other thoughts? Opinions from women are more than welcome. I look at this as either "bait," to test your reaction to her offer, or as testing the waters to see if you're into something like this because she (maybe) is. cj Link to post Share on other sites
verhrzn Posted October 1, 2012 Share Posted October 1, 2012 You forgot to mention that she would continue to be monogamous, since it seems the ONLY reason men don't want this arrangement is because they want their women to continue being monogamous. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ThaWholigan Posted October 1, 2012 Author Share Posted October 1, 2012 You forgot to mention that she would continue to be monogamous, since it seems the ONLY reason men don't want this arrangement is because they want their women to continue being monogamous. It doesn't matter. A man will still draw that conclusion no matter what she says, but for the sake of the argument, let's add that. Link to post Share on other sites
Balzac Posted October 1, 2012 Share Posted October 1, 2012 (edited) Hah you had to complicate this! Exactly is my thought. Complications enter unless one believes that contraceptives are 100%. One sperm donor to 20 random women. Edited October 1, 2012 by Balzac Counting on my fingers and toes Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted October 1, 2012 Share Posted October 1, 2012 I really don't see why any one will offer this unless their swingers. I personal would never offer a guy this - he is more than welcome explore without my permission or my companionship. Plus if i an ok-ing this I am pretty sure it is so that I can explore as well. Plus the attractiveness of the girl will be his business.i don't know why you mentioned hot. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MrNate 2.0 Posted October 1, 2012 Share Posted October 1, 2012 You know, sometimes I wonder why the institution of marriage was ever invented. What is the goal exactly? I mean, If I'm married to someone, then that means I'm committed on all levels. If she let me explore, well, I guess that shows there's not that much commitment there. On the flip side... I guess if I was allowed to explore, the extend to me doing it would be on the status of our marriage. If it's going bad at times, then hell, I'm explorin' But, honestly, if she put a ring on it, I'd stay committed even if she did give me that freedom. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 1, 2012 Share Posted October 1, 2012 I never would. Link to post Share on other sites
CptObvious Posted October 1, 2012 Share Posted October 1, 2012 http://i0.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/000/001/384/Atrapitis.gif 2 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 Would you be somewhat offended that she didn't want you all to herself? Would you be worried about bringing home strains of HSV or HPV not easily prevented with condoms? Once you are in a mono relationship, with no STIs, picking up new partners sounds like Russian Roulette to me 1 Link to post Share on other sites
yongyong Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 her saying that first is pretty dumb. I would do the same thing to make it even. I would leave a solid evidence by either recording it or making a statement and have her sign it. I would emphasize it was by her own will and I didn't pressure her at all. (If someone offers you a load of cash, do you just take it? or would you make sure it's a clean money and have him agree he won't take it back?) After this process, yeah I will take the deal. Link to post Share on other sites
FryFish Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 I actually just fell madly in love with the girl I hope to marry(well, not just barely but that doesnt matter), she seems to be on the same page too <3.... If she offered this to me I would be heart broken... If she was even remotely serious I would break up with her... Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 No. If I've decided to be exclusive with a girl; it's because she possesses everything I look for in a mate. I wouldn't stray. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
verhrzn Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 I actually just fell madly in love with the girl I hope to marry(well, not just barely but that doesnt matter), she seems to be on the same page too <3.... If she offered this to me I would be heart broken... If she was even remotely serious I would break up with her... But why would you be heart-broken? Would you be heart-broken if being in an one-sided open relationship meant you got to have sex with your favorite porn star? Probably not. Link to post Share on other sites
FryFish Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 But why would you be heart-broken? Because it would mean she is willing to share me... It would mean she isnt jealous when I talk to other girls... It would mean she doesnt care... Look at it from the other way around... If I am OK with my girlfriend sleeping around it means I really dont give a **** about her... Would you be heart-broken if being in an one-sided open relationship meant you got to have sex with your favorite porn star? Probably not. That would mean I was heartless... incapable of being heartbroken... I couldnt do that to someone I love... Especially not this girl... Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 But why would you be heart-broken? Would you be heart-broken if being in an one-sided open relationship meant you got to have sex with your favorite porn star? Probably not. Get over this.. why don't ya? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 I really don't see why any one will offer this unless their swingers. I personal would never offer a guy this - he is more than welcome explore without my permission or my companionship. Plus if i an ok-ing this I am pretty sure it is so that I can explore as well. Plus the attractiveness of the girl will be his business.i don't know why you mentioned hot. I AM a swinger and I've never been offered that nor have I ever offered it to my wife. I agree that if this actually happens it is some kind of 'bait' or $h!t test. Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 I AM a swinger and I've never been offered that nor have I ever offered it to my wife. I agree that if this actually happens it is some kind of 'bait' or $h!t test. I probably worded that wrong but I wouldn't see no reason to seek sex outside of a relationship unless you are a swinger. However I am not sure how that works - so I hope I didn't offend. I have no problems with the swinger life style. Link to post Share on other sites
TheBigQuestion Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 I wouldn't be into it. I did "sleep around" to some extent when I was single. Entering a relationship is a conscious choice to leave that lifestyle behind. I haven't really looked back since. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 I would assume that she's already "checked out" of the relationship, or already cheated on me, or is incapable of forming long term monogamous relationships due to having "issues" (perhaps of the kind that can be treated by a medical professional, but perhaps she's just ducked up). (my phone auto corrected to "ducked", so I'm leaving it) Did you have any specific person in mind? Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 It's always been my experience that with a good woman, the sex keeps getting better. So to go from random to random, would be like repeating the driving around the same block 50 times for me. My guys says essentially the same, but that is so uncommon to hear from men. I can definitely relate, and feel the same about sex with a new partner vs. sex with my partner. A fantasy is different, because in my fantasy, the sex is always great 2 Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 If my girlfriend told me something along those lines I'd question how seriously she cared about me and would have a serious think about possibly leaving her. Link to post Share on other sites
verhrzn Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 You guys continue to confuse me. So, girls shouldn't be jealous and needy, and shouldn't freak out if you're flirting with other girls, or fantasizing about other girls, or watching porn... but shouldn't make the logical leap that an open relationship would serve you both best, otherwise she's "checked out" of the relationship. So, by giving you guys want you want (she remains monogamous while you get to flirt/sleep around to your heart's contentment), she's somehow the bad guy?? Geez, make up your minds. Link to post Share on other sites
angie2443 Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 But why would you be heart-broken? Would you be heart-broken if being in an one-sided open relationship meant you got to have sex with your favorite porn star? Probably not. My first thought when I read the opening post, was that a person who told their partner to go have sex with other people, has fallen out of love with their partner and wants to disconect from them. This would be a way of letting them go, without having to be direct about it. I did tell a boyfriend this once. It was because I was interested in someone else, but didn't have the guts to just end it. This was a looooooooooong time ago, and if I ever were back in the dating game, I would just be honest and direct. Of course, there are other reasons why a girl might say that to her boyfriend. Maybe she's testing him. Maybe she thinks he'll do it anyways, so might as well get it over with. Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 You guys continue to confuse me. So, girls shouldn't be jealous and needy, and shouldn't freak out if you're flirting with other girls, or fantasizing about other girls, or watching porn... but shouldn't make the logical leap that an open relationship would serve you both best, otherwise she's "checked out" of the relationship. So, by giving you guys want you want (she remains monogamous while you get to flirt/sleep around to your heart's contentment), she's somehow the bad guy?? Geez, make up your minds. Your really think it terms of black and white....... Yes, many guys look at beautiful women, over over strangers or porn stars. But that does NOT mean they want to actually have sex or hook up with them. Link to post Share on other sites
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