TheCollector Posted October 1, 2012 Share Posted October 1, 2012 What do you guys think is a drinking problem? I LOVE craft beer and rare beer. I am striving to learn how to home brew and already know how I just can't seem to get a kit thanks to my wife... I drink about 3 times a month give or take. When I drink I drink about 5 beers in about 2 and 1/2 to 3 hrs. I don't see anything wrong with that but somehow my wife does.. we have a 4 month old baby but like I said I never get drunk. But I also don't see the point in drinking if your not even gonna get a buzz. I'm not a drunk....right? I know tons of people that drink more than me and see no problem with it. Is my wife being ridiculous or what? Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted October 1, 2012 Share Posted October 1, 2012 But I also don't see the point in drinking if your not even gonna get a buzz. I'm not a drunk....right? Not necessarily. As the advertisement says, "Buzzed driving is drunk driving." You like artisinal and craft beers but are drinking them for the buzz and not the flavor? I live in wine country = Napa. I drink wine for the flavor and especially the combinations of the flavors with food. I stop drinking when I get buzzed because I am no longer at 100% Just say'n... Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheCollector Posted October 1, 2012 Author Share Posted October 1, 2012 Well I never ever drive it is always at my house. I drink craft beer cause I love the flavor but I do like a little feeling too. Like I said I never get drunk nor do I ever drink over 5 beers and I always pace myself over a few hours. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 what do YOU consider a drinking problem? Some examples: When the pace accelerates over a session. I have a few friends who are functional alcoholics and have noticed a number of common behaviors over the decades with them but this one is nearly universal. The more they drink, the more and faster they drink. OTOH, I'll have a couple mixed drinks or beers, then grab a bottle of water or some ginger ale and be done for the night. It isn't a cognitive, decisive act, rather I just feel like something different. I don't have the brain chemistry which responds to alcohol in an excessive way. In addition to more and faster, inappropriate behaviors crop up, like making distasteful comments about their wives, playing with firearms (I ask them to teach me how to take them apart, then keep an important part), wanting to drive (I resist that and collect their keys), etc, etc. These are behaviors they would never exhibit when sober and vary from simply rude to dangerous. Overwhelmingly, in my experience with problem drinkers, there is something they are seeking to self-medicate. I hear it in their words, both sober and UI. I don't see that as a 'reason', but it does seem evident as part of the whole picture. I would not want to be in an intimate relationship with a problem drinker. I've loved a couple (women who were/are) and it was really heartbreaking. Don't recommend it. Link to post Share on other sites
marriedman321 Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 In my opinion you have no problem at all.. I had a similar situation with the wife.. I also like different beers, enjoy the taste, and the buzz.. We also have a baby at home. Some people will say it is bad, but they live alone and unloved, which is bad.. Some people smoke pot instead.. Some people take anti depressants etc etc. Your wife is probably more worried as you have a new baby and she is worried about you becoming an alcoholic or having an accident with the baby.. I chose to quit drinking for a while and see how I feel.. You are an alcoholic if you get buzzed everyday, cannot stop, and have withdrawal symptoms..just my opinion.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheCollector Posted October 2, 2012 Author Share Posted October 2, 2012 Thank you married man.... And I do not accelerate from beer #1 to #5 I keep a casual pace because I like the taste. I don't chug. You can't enjoy beer when chugging. I am striving to make a career change into professional brewing one day but gotta get practice first obviously. Like I said I never drink too much and I'm very careful with my daughter... I honestly think its a perception issue more than anything. It's just like when someone sees someone buying beer at 8:00 in the morning they think its bad but what if that guy just got off work? What's the difference there? And while my wife was pregnant I proved to her I didn't have a problem by stopping for well over 3 months. I agree that if you NEED it every day than its a problem but if you just enjoy it somewhat often then your fine. Link to post Share on other sites
Hawaii50 Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 (edited) I'd suck a beer out of a dirty carpet right now, but I don't have a drinking problem... Edit: Cause I'd do the same for an Iced coffee. Edited October 2, 2012 by Hawaii50 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheCollector Posted October 2, 2012 Author Share Posted October 2, 2012 Well that made me laugh Hawaii50 lol Link to post Share on other sites
Hawaii50 Posted October 2, 2012 Share Posted October 2, 2012 I wish I was lying!! but happy to spread some smiles Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Z Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 What do you guys think is a drinking problem? I LOVE craft beer and rare beer. I am striving to learn how to home brew and already know how I just can't seem to get a kit thanks to my wife... I drink about 3 times a month give or take. When I drink I drink about 5 beers in about 2 and 1/2 to 3 hrs. I don't see anything wrong with that but somehow my wife does.. we have a 4 month old baby but like I said I never get drunk. But I also don't see the point in drinking if your not even gonna get a buzz. I'm not a drunk....right? I know tons of people that drink more than me and see no problem with it. Is my wife being ridiculous or what? Your problem is a wife who is seeking to take control your life, not alcohol. Don't fall for it. I did for years and it only gets worse. Link to post Share on other sites
marriedman321 Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 As for me my wife watches the kid all day while I work. So me having a few beers took away from her attention. Which made her say I have an alcohol problem. I was having fun and she was kind of excluded. I understand her point of view but that does not mean I or you have a problem. To be honest i didnt drink anything for 10 days and could not care less. I have a friend who drinks liquor and if she takes one drink she will not stop drinking for 2 days. No sleep..No food etc. Until she blacks out. That is a problem. Link to post Share on other sites
Hawaii50 Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 As for me my wife watches the kid all day while I work. So me having a few beers took away from her attention. Which made her say I have an alcohol problem. I was having fun and she was kind of excluded. I understand her point of view but that does not mean I or you have a problem. To be honest i didnt drink anything for 10 days and could not care less. I have a friend who drinks liquor and if she takes one drink she will not stop drinking for 2 days. No sleep..No food etc. Until she blacks out. That is a problem. We in the industry call that "polarization." Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 'Alcoholism is the only disease that tells you you're all right' 1 Link to post Share on other sites
marriedman321 Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 'Alcoholism is the only disease that tells you you're all right' Do you think it is possible for someone to drink moderately and not be an alcoholic? Or perhaps even get drunk on occasion and not be one? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 Do you think it is possible for someone to drink moderately and not be an alcoholic? Or perhaps even get drunk on occasion and not be one? I know I can not.. I'm an Alcoholic. Not sure what you are defining as moderate but sure.. as long as it doesn't impact other areas of a persons life in a negative fashion.. such as a marriage or a job. I understand you are wrestling with whether you are or not an Alcoholic and that is yours to do.. it isn't up to me to decide if you are... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 Do you think it is possible for someone to drink moderately and not be an alcoholic? Or perhaps even get drunk on occasion and not be one? Many real alcoholics are 'binge drinkers'... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
marriedman321 Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 Many real alcoholics are 'binge drinkers'... I know I can not.. I'm an Alcoholic. Not sure what you are defining as moderate but sure.. as long as it doesn't impact other areas of a persons life in a negative fashion.. such as a marriage or a job. I understand you are wrestling with whether you are or not an Alcoholic and that is yours to do.. it isn't up to me to decide if you are... I hear you. I never thought of it before or read about it until my wife called me one when ahe was angry. I would say reading about it was quite scary. I am now informed..However I also know I am not an alcoholic. (I know denial).. I guesa anything in excess can harm a marriage. If I watched soccer games on Goltv all weekwnd my wife would be really pissed and that would interfere with our marriage for sure. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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