FLStacey Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 I only have a few minutes, so I apologize for this being a short. This is hard to think about but, I am afraid my dh might be having an affair. I've been married to my dh for 10 yrs. No significant probs. Last year I felt like something might be going on between him and a female friend. Nothing in particular happened to make me feel this way with regards to her. Just that feeling when I'm around them. KWIM? Now dh on the other hand! Some days he's rather hateful. Just like it unnerves him for me to speak to him. Then he is very-very loving to me. It goes from extremes! Then on Thursday, last week, I was washing clothes and found (what looks like) lipstick on his underwear. I've dwelled on it all weekend and cannot imagine what else it would be. I mean lipstick looks like lipstick! What else could it be? BTW, it's not my shade! Any advise on how to bring this up? Should I mention this or am I over-reacting? Thanks! Stacey Link to post Share on other sites
wattsie Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 I would have saved the garment, shoved it under his nose and asked for an explanation at the first opportunity. You aren't overreacting, you have every right to know but sounds to me like you may not want to ask in case your suspicions are true. Link to post Share on other sites
FLStacey Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 I do want to know. Just don't want him to turn this on me. KWIM? Stacey Link to post Share on other sites
Butterfly_Queen Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 Hi, chances are if he is doing something he shouldn't, then yes he WILL turn it around on you. Most of the time when someone is doing something they shouldn't they will do that out of guilt. They will transfer onto you what it is they have done. I think you have 2 opitions, one you either confront him about the underwear/lipstick thing, pay close attention to his reaction. Or two you could lay low with it for awhile and see if you have any other eviedence as to what may be going on and call him on everything you find at one time. However, sounds like the underwear/lipstick could be enough right there. Its up to you. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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