Is it really all just a game?

[bob the brave]

I am a non-player, real, simple kind of guy. This leads me avoid game playing beyond flirting and not compete against other guys for a girl's affection. I figure I will simply be myself and she can decide for herself. I shouldn't have to sell myself and that kind of competition usually leads to rediculous postering, inflated egos and false prvado which only serves to further distort the situation. I like to be friends first, becuase, to me, that makes sex more fun and meaningful.

The problem is I have been runover by players more times than I care to remember. They swoop in, take my girl, have their way and dump them. This can takes weeks to months, but they usually return to me, sad as hell, complaining the player is a jerk and wanting to get together. Sad thing is at this point I have to decline, even if I still care because thay already made their choice.

Almost every girl I know are attracted to these guys, fawn over them and then stagger around completely heartbroken and confused when they drop them and run to the next pair of legs. As a guy, I can recognize these guys right off and it breaks my heart to watch them 'play' these girls with swauve ways and smooth words which are hollow and rehearsed. Some of these girls have dumped me for them knowing they are still in a relationship (cheat on the other girl) and then get really upset when it happens to them.

I have been told women actually know this and like these kind of guys and this kind of treatment. Is this true or is my lame game what women really want?

[karnak]

I have been told women actually know this and like these kind of guys and this kind of treatment. Is this true or is my lame game what women really want?

 

True. Many women are messed-up.

 

You can't help them. You can't fix them.

 

They're like emoional retards. They were born that way.

 

Stay away from them. Look for people who share similar views of the world as you.

[karnak]

The same applies to guys who cheat on decent girls with sluts or women of low morals.

 

Some men have a life-long innate tendency to fall for the "whore" types. The way many, many women fall for the "player" guys.

 

As I wrote in an earlier post, this is something that is part of their character.

 

That's why so many men and women settle for decent, faithful and caring partners, only to later ruin their marriages by getting involved with promiscuous men and women.

[Leigh 87]

Your attitude is great.

 

Some guys only care about getting laid and do so at all costs. It is only aided more when they are also very charismatic and "hot".

My partner also prefers to be friends with girls before he fornicates with them. He likes a genuine connection.

Guys would swoop and take allt he girls he wanted to have sex with too; he was too slow, and prefered friendship. He would only make a move on girls who were horny and made an obvious move on him first.

 

You will end up with a girl with your attitude. A lot of girls are on the lookout for a cool guy who is genuine and is confident enough in who he is to just be himself.

I prefer guys like you, and I have my pick of players and men who just want sex and want to impress me just to get into my pants:sick:

 

 

 

.....................Give me a guy who is into me and wants to be my friend first any day, over some guy who just wants sex and has no interest in being around me after the sex.