amore21 Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 Sorry this is a bit long : So my girlfriend and i work together. We've been dating for around 4 months. During the initial early days period we had discussed cheating and fooling around and she had told me that no matter what, she was into me and wouldn't do so (we've had deep chats etc). Anyway around 5 weeks ago she had been really drunk and had blurted out that she had (around 4 weeks before) sent topless pictures to her ex. She cried that night and i threatened to go but eventually stayed, under the promise that she'd not lie to me again and she'd be serious. 3 weeks ago we agreed to become 'actual boyfriend and girlfriend' (i'm 28 and using these terms....!) anyway, it was on the notion that everything previous we'd draw a line under. Anyway that night she looked very distant and eventually i said to her that just by her demeanor i could see something was up, after a 20 min argument she finally told me that she'd kissed a guy at work about 5 weeks in and was in a cab going back to his, when she'd backed out and eventually met myself that night. She didn't tell me that night and we even went back to hers and slept together. I asked her if there was anything else and she said that 2 weeks beforehand she'd met up with a guy who she'd been dating a few months before us as a little 'test' to see if she could meet someone and not do anything silly. She swears to me that she didn't and we even spoke that night and she'd lashed out at me about nothing (turns out she'd been feeling guilty about meeting this guy). Anyway. After ALL this. We'd agreed that she'd stop the BS and we'd go out together. She again swears that she's never cheated on a 'boyfriend' and said the reason for the previous rubbish is that she didn't know how she felt about me and wasn't taking things seriously. She is now. She's stated that she's in love and hasn't felt this way before. She claims that we're meant to be and she feels really bad about the past. I'm with her as i feel stronger towards her than i've felt towards anyone else before. We get on SO well and we're a great couple when we're good. My reasons for writing. Is a past experience thing... would you all say this girl can be trusted? I'm trying very hard to but it's tough knowing she's lied to my face before (her response to this is that it was when she wasn't serious etc)... Just wondering if i could get thoughts please!? Link to post Share on other sites
WhatYouWantToHear Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 (edited) would you all say this girl can be trusted? Did you read the story you wrote? The answer is pretty obvious. "I swear I won't cheat. I swear I won't lie about cheating. Ok, this time I double swear I won't cheat and I double-double swear if I do cheat I won't lie about cheating." At some point its alright to blame the victim. You're getting close to that point. Edited October 3, 2012 by WhatYouWantToHear Link to post Share on other sites
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