getting fed up

[memomma]

I have a younger sister who is driving me crazy.

For the past two years....at least.....she has made irresponsible choices that has caused havoc in her life. She is in the process of losing her husband, probably her home and quite possibly her children. I didn't mention she is unemployed. She is an alcoholic who went through an inpatient treatment plan yet has decided it's "okay for her to drink" now.

She was recently diagnosed with breast cancer. Now she tells me she is pregnant by her boyfried. The same day she made this discovery she also made the decison to take a Xanax and to have a rum and coke.

The chaos that is in her life makes me nuts. When I tried to explain the damage that could occur to the child she is carrying by the drinking and the drugs, she got very defensive and told me "f....... point is taken". Then told me she didn't know she was being defensive.

She already has three children. Her oldest has had such a hard time and hasn't received the support he needed to help him through his struggles. Basically he has lived on his own for the last two years or so...he just turned 19.

I really love my sister but am angry with her. She is 34 and has been given many opportunities to make the necessary changes in her life. My mom helps her all the time with financial issues and watching her kids. She just can't seem to see past herself to the damage she is doing to other people....mainly her kids and to my mom who is not in the best of health. She is the baby of the family but I think it is time for her to grow up.

[Firegirl04]

Maybe its time for the family to stop helping her so much. She is an adult, shes making adult choices, let her do it on her own. I understand its hard when its family. Let her fall on her butt, face, or whatever.... hopefully she will learn. By your mom helping her financially she's enabling her.