bigboydsgirl Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 im scared now for two things i told my counselor what my grandpa did to me when i wa thirteen and i might be taken away but recent is i reported the man who was talking to me on the internet and im scared,it happen last year and i dont knw if i should have reported him.Everybody on my topic about my relationship with him told me i should.This is a major step up in my life i always keep things in now i can let things out,i was physically abused my uncle and my grandpa use to touch on me and palces i didnt like.mY COUNSELOR SAID ITS GOOD I TOLD HER BUT I DNT THINK SO.Sorry about the captial letters.I dnt want atention im just scared about reporting him and my grandpa and she also ask for my uncle name.Im scared Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 It is normal to feel scared. But you did the right thing! Sometimes the right thing is very scary--but you will get through it and you won't always feel scared. There will come a time when you can look back and be PROUD of how you handled everything. Talking to your counselor is the right thing. Let your counselor help you. I'm proud of you! You did something very difficult that a lot of people are not brave enough to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Firegirl04 Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 YOU DID THE RIGHT THING. Yes, it can be scary. However, it you didn't report it things could become worse. Be proud that you stood up for yourself. Courage comes from a reserve of mind more powerful than the outside circumstances. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 So, the truth comes out. Sorry about this happening to you. Do you see any connection between your previous abuse and your hankering for a 29-year-old married man? Link to post Share on other sites
ICantStopLovinHim Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 Thats a very courageous thing you did. Don't be afriad just talk to your counselor that is what she is there for to help you get through this difficult time. Sorry you had to go through it. Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 You did the best thing for the situation. I've been in your situation - and I know how hard it is to tell. It's the first step IMO to getting over the abuse somehow. The older man you talked to online is better off out of the picture - and reporting him was a good idea. You may never know if he would do this to someone else and much worse - you never know the potential lives you may impact by making that first step in your "recovery". I am so sorry to hear about your uncle and grandpa. That's horrible and they should be locked up. Child Molestation is a sick sickness that I don't believe can ever be cured. Can you prosecute them? Why do you think you will be taken away? What is your mother's position on everything? I remember telling my mom about my step-dad, she immediately called the police. He tried to say I was lying and tried to commit suicide in front of me (I was 12). I was not taken away from my family although there were a few instances my teacher would call child protective services because I would show up to school with tape marks....another story. Let us all know how you are doing okay? Link to post Share on other sites
miz_barby Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 I'm very proud of you too! I was sexually abused also by a neighbor and regret not telling someone sooner! Please take advantage of whatever help they offer you, allow yourself to heal while you're still young enough not to ruin your life! You DID DO THE RIGHT thing!! In BOTH cases! Link to post Share on other sites
Author bigboydsgirl Posted July 27, 2004 Author Share Posted July 27, 2004 Hi everybody thanks for your support it really put a big smile on my face.Im sorry of what happened to all of you.Why men or women have to do that i have no clue maybe they are just perverted little aliens from planet pluto who dont knw how to live and not touch people who dnt want them to touch them.Im visting my dad hawaii and they said they are gonna file my case for my grandpa.The lady about the guy i was talking to on the net wanted more info so i sent her that.Well my mom always sends me over to my grandpa and grandma house so thats why im scared they may take me.The counselor ask did i tell my mom and i did tell her,but not right when it happen.My mom believed me but then she was like dnt tell grandma so my grandma still doesnt knw after two years.My mom wanted to just keep me at home so it wouldnt happen but i was too scared to stay home so i ended up back at my grandparents.It only happened one time i tried to stay out of his way my counselor said i shouldnt have to do that.My dad was very mad about what happend he was mad about when my uncle tried to kill me and my grand touching me and also my uncle i didnt tell on him.One time my mom told me when iwa cryijg one time i shouldnt wear the clothes i wear and my clothes are regular teen clothes and no matter waht i wear you shouldnt touch on your granddaughter or look at her in a nasty way,Well ill keep yall updated much love! Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 My dad was very mad about what happend he was mad about when my uncle tried to kill me What happened? Can you still prosecute your uncle? Link to post Share on other sites
Author bigboydsgirl Posted July 28, 2004 Author Share Posted July 28, 2004 my uncle had got into a fight with me about a stupid phone he is on drugs though and he started beating on me and choking me saying he was gonna kill me,my counselor is looking into that case too. Link to post Share on other sites
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