My husband is going bald and I'm not physically attracted to him anymore?

[Mme. Chaucer]

In any case, it doesn't belong in the "dating" department.

[todreaminblue]

He's only 27 and already losing his hair. i don't mind when guys shave their heads but i dont like natural baldness. its a turn off. worse than wrinkles or grey hair or a beer belly. my husband is 6'0" and in great shape but he looked so much hotter when he had hair. its weird because i think his dad looks great for his age, he's 51, still has all his hair, and its not even totally grey. to be honest, im more attracted to him than to my husband. and when we were having sex i couldn't help thinking about someone from my work.

 

i'm so confused.

 

 

 

oh dear........

 

 

i dont want to judge you......

 

your husband is you husband hair or no hair.....legless, armless, in a wheel chair horribly disfigured ...blind deaf....whatever..... for better or worse....some women lose their husbands through horrible tragedy.....how would you feel if tomorrow was your last day with your husband would you remember you posted this.....think........what would you say to him if tomorrow was your last day to speak to him on earth.......would the hair thing matter then....no....it shouldn't matter now......consider counseling for the sake of your marriage and your fidelity....i wish you happiness....adn i wish happiness for yoru husband also with a wife who loves him like you do....dont you?.....deb

[ScreamingTrees]

Hes 27 though. People age, but hes 27.

 

Look, attraction is not a choice....and if someone becomes unattractive to you, you cannot force yourself to feel desire for them. OP is not a bad person for feeling the way she does. Fact of the matter is youth is attractive to both men and women, and balding is a sign of aging and its not attractive and is hard to overlook during the prime years of your 20s.

 

People like you who will complain about attraction being a factor in partnering, seem to think we should all date people solely on personality. Physical appeal is part of why we mate. Theres no way around it.

 

Do people expect me to date and sleep with someone whos gained weight, and that I find unattractive, all because we have a personality that clicks?

 

I think she should try to work things out. But if she cant flip the attraction around, she doesnt waste her or his time.

 

PS - I am partly thinking this may be a troll thread, because who gets attracted to a guys father whos twice his age, all because of some head hair?

 

Even if this wasn't a troll thread, what would this person be asking of us if they already know they can't help it? In the end, they have to end it. Doesn't make them the bad guy, it's just how it has to be for them, no?

[kalaslsl]

I don't think I'd ever want to get married anymore if women in my generation think this way...

 

Same here o_0

[TaraMaiden]

Oooh, I had such a good response prepared....

I'm not going to bother.

 

This is just so stupid.

[phineas]

Sorry but I beg to differ, male pattern baldness is NOT a pre-cursor to aging, it is genetic.

 

Male pattern baldness is related to your genes and male sex hormones. It usually follows a pattern of receding hairline and hair thinning on the crown, and is caused by hormones and genetic predisposition.

 

Each strand of hair you have sits in a tiny hole (cavity) in the skin called a follicle. Baldness in general occurs when the hair follicle shrinks over time, resulting in shorter and finer hair.

 

Eventually, the follicle does not grow a new hair. However, the follicles remain alive, which suggest that it's possible to grow new hair.

 

Or there is a variety of medical reasons why a man can start losing his hair.

 

And yes Kaylan, this is a troll thread.

 

Pen. University may of discovered the true reason for baldness. And a possible cure. For reals. And not some better form of diluted prostrate medicine either. A form of Asthma medicine. LOL!

 

A lotion that targets the guilty enzyme could be on shelves in two yrs they say.

 

I'll believe it when I see I see it though.

[phineas]

I don't think I'd ever want to get married anymore if women in my generation think this way...

 

 

Try dating at 40.

It isn't any different because the women like this are still single & make up the majority of the dating pool.

[xxoo]

Anyone who thinks the OP is reasonable simply should not marry.

[TaraMaiden]

I'd like to know how many of these so called trichologists and scientists doing research on cures for baldness - are bald themselves.

 

"Oh guys....it's not working....!"

[silicone]

my husband is 6'0"

 

Surprised someone didn't pick up on this earlier.

 

OP sounds immature and feels like she needs validation etc, using his lack of hair to justify her lust towards others.

[Imported]

Pen. University may of discovered the true reason for baldness. And a possible cure. For reals. And not some better form of diluted prostrate medicine either. A form of Asthma medicine. LOL!

 

A lotion that targets the guilty enzyme could be on shelves in two yrs they say.

 

I'll believe it when I see I see it though.

 

On the one hand, a little disappointed, I already don't go bald at all, nor grey so that's a + for me. On the other hand, good for the guys that do go bald, I can only imagine how bad that must feel. Wouldn't wish stuff like that on anybody.

[Mint Sauce]

now I know why my gf of 6 years just dumped me, it's because I'm going bald (really)

 

Must admit I'd feel more comfortable having to find someone new had I not lost one my key selling points. Then again, at least I 'm not a confused teenager anymore now

[Disenchantedly Yours]

Anna, you could just do what a lot of guys do and look at porn of guys with amazing hair and tell him how that's just your "fantasy" but how he is your "reality". And then when you ahve sex with him, you can pretend he is a guy with hair but since he won't know, that's apparently okay in most guy's mind. Infact, why don't you suggest watching porn with men with amazing how together. That would be a lot of fun for both of you and you could get excited seeing the kind of men you really want and he could have the benefit of you using his body to orgasm.

[strongnrelaxed]

I must concur with others. You should leave this guy now. You deserve better. Bald men are A$$ holes with a capital $!

 

How dare he!

 

Oh, and btw re bald asian men - see below.

 

http://us.123rf.com/400wm/400/400/inspirestock/inspirestock1112/inspirestock111203052/11416192-bald-man-in-business-suit-looking-smart-with-sunglass.jpg

[waterwoman]

What a fuss! it's quite simple. But him a wig for when you have sex <shrugs>

 

You could get a variety.

[Eve]

Glad this got moved from the dating section. That was a bit weird..

 

Ok, I will admit that my Hubby going grey was a bit off a turn off for me. Especially when he cut his hair short. He dyed it for a while but eventually I sort of got used to it and now don't notice.

 

I think it is important that each side is attractive to the other, so if a person changes greatly that sexual spark could diminish and be the start of a downward spiral.

 

My Hubby was initially offended when I told him what I was thinking. I think this is why he cut his hair really short... but we got through it. Change is a funny thing. I have grown to see him more clearly as time has gone on and love his grey bits now.

 

I hope you can move past this OP.

 

Take care,

Eve x

Edited October 5, 2012 by Eve

[Woggle]

This is why I roll my eyes when women complain about men being shallow. They complain that men only want models but then they support the OP. Be as shallow as you want but don't be hypocrites about it.

[TaraMaiden]

This is why I roll my eyes when SOME women complain about SOME men being shallow. They complain that men only want models but then they support the OP. Be as shallow as you want but don't be hypocrites about it.

 

(fixed that for you... as you'll see from posts in this thread from some 'other' women, not ALL women are shallow. )

Edited October 5, 2012 by TaraMaiden

[Woggle]

(fixed that for you... as you'll see from posts in this thread from some 'other' women, not ALL women are shallow. )

 

Of course some but in this thread many of the same female posters are the ones who complain about men being shallow. My friend dumped his GF because she got her hair cut too short and the women around us thought he was stupid and shallow but the OP isn't because of this?

[TaraMaiden]

Of course some but in this thread many of the same female posters are the ones who complain about men being shallow.

 

And many of them don't. 'Some' is appropriate here...

 

My friend dumped his GF because she got her hair cut too short and the women around us thought he was stupid and shallow but the OP isn't because of this?

 

Who knew anything about your friend?

 

Did you not think he was stupid and shallow?

 

Are any of those 'women around you' here posting on this thread?

 

I consider the OP to be extremely 'stupid and shallow'... so - you see my point?

I think her attitude is ludicrous.

but it's made all the more superficial by the fact that actually, some other stud caught her eye, so this baldness crap is just an excuse...

 

see my point?

 

(I'm trying to help you here, Wogs.....)

[Woggle]

I think my friend is shallow because she is actually a nice and attractive woman and sometimes women just need to play with their hair like I told him but after reading this thread I want to give him a high five.

 

I actually didn't read any of the pages in between this and the first post because it will just make me angry.

[TaraMaiden]

Well then you're still quite blinkered, aren't you?

[2sunny]

He's only 27 and already losing his hair. i don't mind when guys shave their heads but i dont like natural baldness. its a turn off. worse than wrinkles or grey hair or a beer belly. my husband is 6'0" and in great shape but he looked so much hotter when he had hair. its weird because i think his dad looks great for his age, he's 51, still has all his hair, and its not even totally grey. to be honest, im more attracted to him than to my husband. and when we were having sex i couldn't help thinking about someone from my work.

 

i'm so confused.

 

You're confused?

 

Well let me explain it to you.

 

YOU ARE SHALLOW AND SELFISH...

 

 

The problem is you - and you should divorce him so some other gal might appreciate the beauty of him.

 

I haven't read anything her so absurd and selfish in a longtime.

 

Get help - you seem to only think of yourself - no one should be married if they think only of THEMSELF.

[Woggle]

Okay I did read the two other pages and it is not what I thought. I expected a bunch of why should she settle for an unattractive man kind of comments.

[Woggle]

So you judged us on what you expected to find without actually reading it. Hmm.

 

Honestly yeah I did. I though I knew what I was going to read.