georgiee Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 im 19 and i've been with my partner for 3 years, he is 40, he lives with his ex girlfriend, i've caught him out on alot of lies. he buys her things (makeup, clothes, perfume...etc...) and i recieve nothing, although thats not why im with him. shes got him wrapped round her finger, he does EVERYTHING for her, i've recently caught him buying her fags as he has now admitted that hes been buying them for ages. which really did hurt, ive also caught him buying her other things which i have asked him about and he lies, hes also on his phone a hell of alot, hides things, very very secritive, i found out he had cheated when i was pregnant with my twins. i can see right threw him tho because hes a rubbish lier, he says he loves me but our relationships suffering, to the point i want to leave him. we lost twins last year and we've just lost our son as still birth, when i was having my son he was sat with her and he said he was not going to see his son. which my father delt with the situation as he dumped me when i got pregnant, we got back together, our intamacy dropped dramatically, infact i havent slept with him since i concieved our son, which was october 2011. he doesnt even seem interested, yet hes always with his ex and has admitted when drunk that he prefers her company. we have both said we would like to try again for a baby but he will not come forward, i feel like im his ex and shes his fiance, we are ment to be getting married in 3 months. i dont know what to do anymore. please help Link to post Share on other sites
Later82012 Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 What are you doing with someone your father's age and you have a baby with him? He is a pedophile and needs to go to jail. Link to post Share on other sites
Author georgiee Posted October 5, 2012 Author Share Posted October 5, 2012 i lost all my twins and i lost my son Link to post Share on other sites
Later82012 Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 I am so sad for you that I do not even know what to say. Please leave him and find someone your own age and someone who is a human being. Why is your family not more protective of you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author georgiee Posted October 5, 2012 Author Share Posted October 5, 2012 i dont know feel so broken and alone. i thought he was the one for me </3 suposed be getting married soon and hes not even interested Link to post Share on other sites
Later82012 Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 i thought he was the one for me </3 suposed be getting married soon and hes not even interested He is not 'the one' for anyone and needs to be in prison. He is doing you a huge favor by not being interested in you. Cancel the marriage plans and get him out of your life asap. Link to post Share on other sites
Author georgiee Posted October 5, 2012 Author Share Posted October 5, 2012 i just dont know anymore </3 Link to post Share on other sites
venusianx13 Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 The truth is, you DO know. This is no longer a relationship. I honestly, from your post, cannot even see how you can find any good in what you have with him (there just isn't anything there!) Words are empty; if he does not put actions behind them, they mean nothing. It seems to me, he's stringing you along, albeit, not doing a very good job of it. Do NOT settle for this. You are young. I'm so sorry for your losses... you have your whole life ahead of you. Do not continue to make mistakes with this despicable excuse for a man... take time to heal, rebuild your confidence, and then open your heart for someone who TRULY deserves it! Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 VenusianX13 is correct you don't have a relationship. You are just there and being used anyway he wants you. I am so sorry for the loss of your children. Now that you don't have any reason to stay and put up with him you need to make plans to leave. Go to school so you can get a good job to raise your self esteem. This guy will steal your youth and you will look around 10 years from now and wonder why you gave your youth to this old creep. You have the power to save yourself, just do it. Link to post Share on other sites
venusianx13 Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 (edited) And I agree with other posters here who say he's a sicko who belongs in jail, by the way. If you've been with him for 3 years, that means you got together when you were 16 and he was 37. There is something wrong with a man who pursues a child (I'm not saying you are NOW, but you were then), 21 years his junior. Also, I want to point something else out - pregnancy is very hard on a woman's body, and you were carrying twins. I do not wish to be insensitive here, and I feel so sorry for your loss, but a woman simply cannot endure a tremendous amount of emotional stress during a pregnancy, as the pregnancy is likely to become complicated/ have problems and possibly miscarry. For your health's sake, do not go through this again (pregnancy) with this awful man. Edited October 5, 2012 by venusianx13 Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 Georgiee, you need to start somewhere in dealing with this. You know this scenario is wrong for you. Even if you don't agree with some of these posts, you must accept that this is not a healthy situation. How can you begin? You don't live with him, is that right? So if you guys took a break you don't end up homeless? If you don't make changes now it will become harder and harder and harder. To the point it will feel impossible. You are far too young, my love, to settle down for 30 or 40 years more of what you've been tolerating. In fact, it's very probable his treatment of you will simply worsen. Please, tell me you're ready to make some changes? Postpone the wedding even if you don't feel ready to end everything? Don't let this trap you for ever. Link to post Share on other sites
strongnrelaxed Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 (edited) Post removed. Edited October 9, 2012 by strongnrelaxed Misread Link to post Share on other sites
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 On the next.....Jerry Springer! This is truly tragic georgiee, this guy should be put in jail for being a major twat IMO and you should be given an education on common sense. I can't even give you any advice because It's too frustrating, and you're only 19 and just couldn't be more clueless, I hope another woman takes you under her wing who's older and wiser because you need a lot of help. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author georgiee Posted October 12, 2012 Author Share Posted October 12, 2012 Thankyou for the comments. Thankfully I don't live with him. I've cancelled the wedding although he doesn't know, yeah I'm 19 but I have an extremely high paid job and wud be able to afford and suport a child. I'd got everything for my son and I was renting a flat, I've not got many gcses as I was very unwell at the time. I just long for a child, I can't go out drinking with friends(what I have left thanks to my partner) due to health reasons, I just want to be a mum again and provide for a child of my own, but there's no intamacy and I'm not the type to cheat but there's a guy I've met (as friends) and he says he fancys me he's exactly the same age as me. He's really nice but I feel extremely guilty every time he texts me. Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted October 16, 2012 Share Posted October 16, 2012 Maybe this is a troll..? I know I lack basic spelling and grammar, I am not painting myself as a role model for intellegence here, But the OP does not sound as though she has an extremely high paying job, based on the way her posts sound.... being 19, having a son already, and having being able to go to college to GET an extremely well paid job, is really not freasible..... Moreover, it tends to take a while after you finish college to get a job and move up on the career ladder, so as to HAVE a "well paid" job. Link to post Share on other sites
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