lisap1971 Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 Im a 40 year old woman, recently divorced (april), and I have two children. I have had 2 extremely long crappy relationships in the past 22 years and this whole "dating" thing is really new to me. Ive been dating a man that I met on Plenty of Fish for just over 2 months, we text/talk daily, we see each other once or twice a week. I have never had a man treat me the way he does, make me smile the way he does, wine & dine me the way he does, and even kiss me the way he does. We have a great time together and we really enjoy spending time with each other. He has met my sister & her bf, my cousin, and some of my close friends, but I have yet to meet any of his........I know there is definitely a connection here, but we haven't really had "the talk" about where we are in the relationship. I have since canceled my POF acct (not because of him, for other personal reasons) and sadly **hanging my head in shame** I do search on POF to see if he is online and YES he is online DAILY! After 2 months I want to know where we stand, as a couple, if we are a couple, or what is going on. I did start to mention my feelings for him, and I do feel a lot for him, I think im actually falling in love with him, he didnt say much back to me, but he did smile and caressed my face and then passionately kissed me.........I guess I just need to know if im wasting my time or if there is a potential for something to be of us. Im scared to ask because im not sure if its "too soon" and im more terrified that he will get freaked out and not see me anymore. Any thoughts?? Id love to hear from Men as well as this may help me understand the mind of a man a little more clearly.......lol Link to post Share on other sites
Divasu Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 There is no "next step": I do search on POF to see if he is online and YES he is online DAILY! Link to post Share on other sites
Author lisap1971 Posted October 6, 2012 Author Share Posted October 6, 2012 no next step?? Meaning let him go?? We arent exclusive neither of us discussed that, we are simply just "dating" but I want more........just not sure if its too soon or not. Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 Well, I'm a woman, but I have an opinion. Two months isn't too soon to want to know if your relationship is going somewhere. Personally, if I'm starting to have deep feelings for a guy, falling in love, then I don't want to be strung along wondering. I think that you need to just have that talk, but be prepared that he's not on the same page. That's the risk in dating and opening up your heart. He might respond really well and want to be exclusive, but then he might just want to be dating you, and perhaps other women. Just don't settle, but I wouldn't suffer in silence either, I'd have the conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 Im a 40 year old woman, recently divorced (april), and I have two children. I have had 2 extremely long crappy relationships in the past 22 years and this whole "dating" thing is really new to me. Ive been dating a man that I met on Plenty of Fish for just over 2 months, we text/talk daily, we see each other once or twice a week. I have never had a man treat me the way he does, make me smile the way he does, wine & dine me the way he does, and even kiss me the way he does. We have a great time together and we really enjoy spending time with each other. He has met my sister & her bf, my cousin, and some of my close friends, but I have yet to meet any of his........I know there is definitely a connection here, but we haven't really had "the talk" about where we are in the relationship. I have since canceled my POF acct (not because of him, for other personal reasons) and sadly **hanging my head in shame** I do search on POF to see if he is online and YES he is online DAILY! After 2 months I want to know where we stand, as a couple, if we are a couple, or what is going on. I did start to mention my feelings for him, and I do feel a lot for him, I think im actually falling in love with him, he didnt say much back to me, but he did smile and caressed my face and then passionately kissed me.........I guess I just need to know if im wasting my time or if there is a potential for something to be of us. Im scared to ask because im not sure if its "too soon" and im more terrified that he will get freaked out and not see me anymore. Any thoughts?? Id love to hear from Men as well as this may help me understand the mind of a man a little more clearly.......lol If you are sharing saliva i think the conversation can be had about where you stand.....saliva is a very personal body by product.....i think where you put your insides in someone elses insides....yep you can speak......i am trying to make you smile....have the talk.....at least you know then good or bad.....if you can kiss passionately and he is returning that passion...speak or forever play tonsil hockey.....seriously talk to him.....i wish you luck ......deb.... Link to post Share on other sites
Caryopteris Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 Men take a while to feel a deeper connection, but so far it sounds like you are just one of many for him ... that he has not settled down. Consider how long he has been divorced. If he is still separated, then it could be years before he's ready to settle down. What did his PoF profile say he was looking for in a relationship? If it just says dating, he probably means he just wants to play the field for a while. If he is looking for more, then I would say he hasn't chosen you for that role yet. This may seem very normal for him. If he is still dating others, you should probably try not to get too attached. Link to post Share on other sites
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