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well heres the story....

 

when i was younger, i was best friends with this girl sam. this girl to me was so beautiful and attractive. I met her when i was about 11. Well, as corny as it sounds...we had the whole bf/gf thing going. Well, i dated her from fourth grade, until the summer after sixth, which was three years ago. i broke up with her because i moved away to the farther suburbs, but i mainly broke up with her because i was a kid and thats how my mind was working. As a small kid, i didnt know what to expect. Well, one day around my birthday i called her. it was when i turned thirteen. i broke up with her about then and hadnt talked to her until two days ago. between the time i broke up with her and now i have thought about this girl and had dreams that made me depressed. all i could think was i wanted to see her. Well when i went to see her the other day, she was the most beautiful girl i have ever seen. I think i was so impacted by seeing her and feeling her hug again, that my mind has been set to getting her back. Well her ma asked me if i had a gf, and i said no, because i dont. then i turned to her and asked her if she had a boyfriend, and she said yes...thats when my gut dropped...now its not that im not happy she has a boyfriend that she has been with for only a week, but its the idea in my head that says i may not ever ever ever have another chance with her. ive been asking friends what to say when i call her, because she gave me her number again. i want to ask her if she can ever see us dating again. my friends say to be straight up, and just ask. she has literally been all i can think about in the last two days. yesterday i was kind of depressed because of the thought of not ever being able to be with her again. one of my friends said this to me...here is our small little convo...

 

me: i should just be dead up front

me: dont even think about it?

her: yep

her: if it goes wrong you have permission to torch me

me: ok

her: well,

me: well, i dont think it will go wrong, ill just get an answer to the question

her: just be honest with her and ask her what she feels too

her: you can also be like "well, if ur b.f ever treats you bad, i'll be here for ya" girls like that kinda

stuff

me: yea....

me: god...like seeing her...

me: i realized what i had

me: and now that i really think...i want to just have one itty bitty chance with her...becuase i know there is something there...my friend said she even kept looking at me...but im not sure, being in her presence had me shocked in a way because i cant believe i let her go...

 

the her in that sentence is my friend...me, well thats me...i need a 14-17 year old girl or any girl at all to kind of give me some advice...im dead serious...should i be upfront with her and just ask?...i mean, i dont think it could hurt me, but i dont want to seem like im barging in on her and the bf she just started dating...u know?

 

well, ill read later

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I'm 17 and I agree with your friend. If you really like her and you want to have a relationship with her, you have to be upfront about how you feel. But don't expect her to drop her new boyfriend just because you have feelings for her again. Afterall, you did break up with her once, and she did move on. But then again, they've only been together a week, maybe she isn't that serious about him. Don't get too caught up in this, though. If she says she doesn't like you the same way you like her, don't dwell on it. Show her you're still her friend, and maybe the two of you will grow closer as time goes by. Let her see what kind of guy you are, and maybe she'll start to get feelings for you, too. Don't hang on her, if she says no, move on, if you meet someone else you like and want to date, go ahead. No need to put your life on hold for someone who doesn't feel the same way about you.

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anybody else...i just need to make sure i know what im gonna say and stuff...im going to call her tomorrow because i think that if i call two days in a row...it seems like im just tryin to barge back into her life...anymore help would be great...pllllllllleeeassse just gimme some small things to say to make it obvious what i want...or u can actually help me rephrase what i wanna say..."THIS MIGHT COME OFF WIERD AFTER ALL OF THIS TIME, BUT DO YOU EVER SEE US DATING AGAIN?"

 

well thats what i plan to say....and its gonna take me a while to get the courage, but i can do it....i know it...plz help to make saying that as easy as possible...thank you

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