inlove77 Posted October 8, 2012 Share Posted October 8, 2012 I am ending a long term relationship, and we are in couples counseling not to fix the relationship but to develop a new relationship for raising our children. He still has some feelings for me but I have made it very clear this relationship is done. There is another guy who recently has caught my attention completely by surprise. I am intrigued by him, and everytime we are in the same space people think we are dating or something is going on because we flirt. If I text him he does not hesitate to get back to me. I have launched my own online companies and he offers to do everything for me. When we text he always writes responses like I always have time for you, or anything for you. At the same time he is so quiet when we are near each other and shy or something so different than the person I remember before. I have had friends tell me that they think he likes me but I have been out of the dating scene for so long I have NO clue what is what. I am very direct and would like to ask him about it but I also don't want to risk making our friendship uncomfortable. So can someone tell me what the typical behavior is of a shy guy? does it seem like he likes me. There was a time I was at his fathers house and he asked him what was wrong with him and why he was so quiet which raised an eyebrow for me...so I don't know...I am in no rush to move on I haven't closed one door and not rushing to open another at the same time I know I only have one life to live and do not want to miss a happy moment in my life. So what is your take everyone? Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 I am ending a long term relationship, and we are in couples counseling not to fix the relationship but to develop a new relationship for raising our children. He still has some feelings for me but I have made it very clear this relationship is done. There is another guy who recently has caught my attention completely by surprise. I am intrigued by him, and everytime we are in the same space people think we are dating or something is going on because we flirt. If I text him he does not hesitate to get back to me. I have launched my own online companies and he offers to do everything for me. When we text he always writes responses like I always have time for you, or anything for you. At the same time he is so quiet when we are near each other and shy or something so different than the person I remember before. I have had friends tell me that they think he likes me but I have been out of the dating scene for so long I have NO clue what is what. I am very direct and would like to ask him about it but I also don't want to risk making our friendship uncomfortable. So can someone tell me what the typical behavior is of a shy guy? does it seem like he likes me. There was a time I was at his fathers house and he asked him what was wrong with him and why he was so quiet which raised an eyebrow for me...so I don't know...I am in no rush to move on I haven't closed one door and not rushing to open another at the same time I know I only have one life to live and do not want to miss a happy moment in my life. So what is your take everyone? is this guy married? Maybe that explains why he is shy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author inlove77 Posted October 10, 2012 Author Share Posted October 10, 2012 No he isn't married, but he is very clueless when it comes to woman. He misses all the cues. Sometimes I think maybe his self esteem isnt that high he gets depressed alot. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 I am ending a long term relationship, and we are in couples counseling not to fix the relationship but to develop a new relationship for raising our children. He still has some feelings for me but I have made it very clear this relationship is done. There is another guy who recently has caught my attention completely by surprise. I am intrigued by him, and everytime we are in the same space people think we are dating or something is going on because we flirt. If I text him he does not hesitate to get back to me. I have launched my own online companies and he offers to do everything for me. When we text he always writes responses like I always have time for you, or anything for you. At the same time he is so quiet when we are near each other and shy or something so different than the person I remember before. I have had friends tell me that they think he likes me but I have been out of the dating scene for so long I have NO clue what is what. I am very direct and would like to ask him about it but I also don't want to risk making our friendship uncomfortable. So can someone tell me what the typical behavior is of a shy guy? does it seem like he likes me. There was a time I was at his fathers house and he asked him what was wrong with him and why he was so quiet which raised an eyebrow for me...so I don't know...I am in no rush to move on I haven't closed one door and not rushing to open another at the same time I know I only have one life to live and do not want to miss a happy moment in my life. So what is your take everyone? I dont know with shy guys....because....they are freaking shy ....smilin......your guess is as good as mine you need a shy guy to answer this one.....i know ask your guy to get on love shack and answer this post then he will know you like him an dmaybe pass on the mystery that is the elusive shy guy and how to know anything......until then its probably a crickets chirping moment.....silence....bar the crickets....and maybe a shy guy will answer you hopefully......best wishes.....deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NateC Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 I dont know with shy guys....because....they are freaking shy ....smilin......your guess is as good as mine you need a shy guy to answer this one.....i know ask your guy to get on love shack and answer this post then he will know you like him an dmaybe pass on the mystery that is the elusive shy guy and how to know anything......until then its probably a crickets chirping moment.....silence....bar the crickets....and maybe a shy guy will answer you hopefully......best wishes.....deb You rang? When you're with him, the best way to get him to warm up to you is just to seem interested and push a bit to get a conversation started. If he misses even those cues then well...nothing much else you can do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 You rang? When you're with him, the best way to get him to warm up to you is just to seem interested and push a bit to get a conversation started. If he misses even those cues then well...nothing much else you can do. lol ok so the crickets stopped for a moment.....thanks nate..Do you ever approach?..deb Link to post Share on other sites
cp_tan Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 I was the same way when I met my wife. I always felt that she liked me - she always spoke and kinda flirted and this went on for quite a while. I'd speak back, but never said a whole lot. I was leery of saying to much to her or asking her out because I didn't want to just be rejected for something I thought was was there, but would end up not being. My wife worked at a fast food place that I frequented while on lunch break and one day another girl that worked there wrote my now wife's number on the back of the receipt and slipped it to me when she gave me my order. I didn't notice it until later, and ended up calling her that night. We have now been happily married for a couple of years and have a child together. I just wish I would have loosened up long before, but it was kinda hard to. Maybe he feels the same way I did. My wife had come from a bad abusive relationship not long before she started speaking to me. I don't really have much for suggestions, but thought I'd share my story as it kinda relates to this in a way. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
NateC Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 lol ok so the crickets stopped for a moment.....thanks nate..Do you ever approach?..deb For me it almost always starts as being friends and moving from there. Being in college meant a lot of mutual friends so it was easier. The hardest part is admitting your feelings to the other person... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author inlove77 Posted October 11, 2012 Author Share Posted October 11, 2012 (edited) Thank you everyone for your responses!...I am ususally an assertive person and say what i think and with him it is so different I fumble my words and get nervous which is very unfamiliar for me....lol...He is a very traditional person he was close with his grandfather. I recently got the key to my place so I don't have to live with my ex anymore...and I had a phone conversation with him tonight and we scheduled a meeting as we are partners on a business I am about to launch and he wanted me to come over so he can cook dinner so that raised an eyebrow, he never hinted to do anything extra outside of business but now that i am moving on finally he asks for me to come places, i think it is weird that I have met damn near his whole family already,...and I noticed a hint of curiosity when i mention another guy friend so I am beginning to think my friends may be right about some things. What is you guys/girls opinion? Edited October 11, 2012 by inlove77 Link to post Share on other sites
NateC Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 Thank you everyone for your responses!...I am ususally an assertive person and say what i think and with him it is so different I fumble my words and get nervous which is very unfamiliar for me....lol...He is a very traditional person he was close with his grandfather. I recently got the key to my place so I don't have to live with my ex anymore...and I had a phone conversation with him tonight and we scheduled a meeting as we are partners on a business I am about to launch and he wanted me to come over so he can cook dinner so that raised an eyebrow, he never hinted to do anything extra outside of business but now that i am moving on finally he asks for me to come places, i think it is weird that I have met damn near his whole family already,...and I noticed a hint of curiosity when i mention another guy friend so I am beginning to think my friends may be right about some things. What is you guys/girls opinion? Those are very strong signs he's beginning to warm up to you. I know I'm very reserved with other women especially since my past hasn't been all sparkly (if you're curious check out my old threads ...oi...) but having those potential worries removed (going back to your ex, etc etc) is a signal to him that maybe he can let down his guard again. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 Thank you everyone for your responses!...I am ususally an assertive person and say what i think and with him it is so different I fumble my words and get nervous which is very unfamiliar for me....lol...He is a very traditional person he was close with his grandfather. I recently got the key to my place so I don't have to live with my ex anymore...and I had a phone conversation with him tonight and we scheduled a meeting as we are partners on a business I am about to launch and he wanted me to come over so he can cook dinner so that raised an eyebrow, he never hinted to do anything extra outside of business but now that i am moving on finally he asks for me to come places, i think it is weird that I have met damn near his whole family already,...and I noticed a hint of curiosity when i mention another guy friend so I am beginning to think my friends may be right about some things. What is you guys/girls opinion? i think he may just be interested in you.....maybe....i'm hoping for you....;0)...i should shut up....lol...i am like you hopeless at reading signs...normally for me when a man likes me i could tell....i cant anymore...not with the one that i like ...how askew is that....good luck to ya..... if you take it as friendship and go from there I am sure eventually you will know...he is cooking dinner for you ..i wish you much hope for a positive answer to your question from him showing you the answer....deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author inlove77 Posted October 12, 2012 Author Share Posted October 12, 2012 (edited) So since I have gotten my own place official move date in a couple weeks he has opened up a bit more and we have flirted a bit more than usual which gives me reason to believe their may be something there...During one of our phone calls it sounded like he was selling himself to me telling he wanted to make dinner for us, and how he does everything cleans, laundry etc...and he was working overtime to make me laugh...distraction of how bad things are currently. @ToDreaminblue thank you for words of encouragement and @NateC I would love to read your threads I am new to this so you kinda have to tell me how to get there...lol... Edited October 12, 2012 by inlove77 Link to post Share on other sites
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