when you feel a spark, but situation is complicated?

[Serendipity1122]

I had to move out of state for work, right as I was developing feelings for him. I plan on moving back eventually (a couple months-a year). I let him know about my feelings, but he hasn't done anything about it yet. Is his silence the answer? Or can I contact him first while we're apart without seeming desperate?

 

We're old high school classmates/acquaintances. We were in different states for college, but reconnected through mutual friends and got closer after hanging out for a couple months. We flirted casually, ate dinner, watched a movie, hiked, just us two. Saw it as just having fun with a friend at first, but started thinking it could be something more. We had good chemistry, similar interests, thoughtful conversation, etc.

 

Too soon to pursue anything serious, but I decided to be straightforward about my feelings. I gave him a bday card encouraging him with his career goals, telling him I was glad we'd gotten closer, I'd miss him, and I'd see him during the holidays. I ended with the confession: I knew there were a lot of factors that'd come into play, but I wanted to keep it simple, and I liked him. Pretty lighthearted.

 

He can be passive and not as aggressive/forward with girls, so I thought I could initiate as long as he gives something as well. He seemed enthusiastic about keeping up the conversation the one time I initiated. I don't want to play games, but supposedly if a guy's interested, he'll do something about it. So is it okay for me to keep initiating (and how often), or should I wait for him to take the next step? Should I cut off communication until I actually see him again, or is innocent chatting okay and helpful at this point?

[River Rain]

Maybe I'm jaded, but silence speaks more than words. My ex did the silent treatment with me and it drove me to insecurity. I wouldn't pursue it if I were you.

[gamman]

Agreed. I'd let this one fade away. Move on.