rainfall Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 It is NORMAL for men to be excited about seeing tits. Get over it. He is not ONLY going to think about your tits for your entire lives together:rolleyes: Also - I think ditching your friend is a little harsh, but I would probably keep her more at arms length, and keep her as a friend you have " good times with" rather than as a "bestfriend". QUOTE] It is normal for a guy to be excited about tits, but a boyfriend should have more respect than to get excited over his girlfriend's bestfriend's titties. Even if he thought they were hot, he should have kept that to himself and never let his girlfriend know. A guy thinking about angelina jolie's tits or some random porn stars tits is way different than him getting excited over a best friend's tits. Ditching her isn't harsh. She can't be trused and people shouldn't be friends with someone they can't trust. Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 It is NORMAL for men to be excited about seeing tits. Get over it. He is not ONLY going to think about your tits for your entire lives together:rolleyes: Also - I think ditching your friend is a little harsh, but I would probably keep her more at arms length, and keep her as a friend you have " good times with" rather than as a "bestfriend". QUOTE] It is normal for a guy to be excited about tits, but a boyfriend should have more respect than to get excited over his girlfriend's bestfriend's titties. Even if he thought they were hot, he should have kept that to himself and never let his girlfriend know. A guy thinking about angelina jolie's tits or some random porn stars tits is way different than him getting excited over a best friend's tits. Ditching her isn't harsh. She can't be trused and people shouldn't be friends with someone they can't trust. I guess your right. But I do not think she has to re asses his love over it. He was surely just as surprised his fiance! Agreed though; that strangers and porn is acceptable, rather than a person he knows. Link to post Share on other sites
rainfall Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 I guess your right. But I do not think she has to re asses his love over it. He was surely just as surprised his fiance! Agreed though; that strangers and porn is acceptable, rather than a person he knows. I actually agree that she doesn't need to question his love over this. He didn't ask her friend to do this and has no fault in what her "friend" decided to do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 the friend must not be given any chances to be in your life, let the friendship fade, just don't answer her calls in a hurry, phase her out of your life into nothing (say "i'm busy" alot if need be) don't try to discuss it she's already made trouble for you two men notice any female flesh, kiss and make up ffs Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 That's what I want to believe but he said he was fast asleep so he wouldn't have known I was there. All he is saying is that he must have done it from shock but it didn't sound like that to me Truthfully, I think you're being a bit harsh on him. He didn't ask her to do it..he saw tits..he reacted..big deal. I think she's the one you should cut out of your life. She sounds like a pig..and I still think you should tell her husband. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
shayla Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 If I had a friend that did this,she would no longer be my friend. That's it. Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 I will say it again: I am one to run naked around when I am ... on something and having a rather " crazy" time... Yet I would NEVER flash my tits at a taken man... As it shows disrespect! And I want to ask this "women who flashed" a question: how would she feel about her husband flashing his d*ck to her female "best friend"????/ ................I try to actively treat my partner how I would like to be treated. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusled3 Posted October 10, 2012 Author Share Posted October 10, 2012 You're in your 30's and something ridiculous like THIS sends you to bed for 3 freakin' days? A random drunken flash is the least of your problems. Get to a therapist. Thanks Leigh87 and all the other people that have offered genuine advice. Just a poster. I hope you are never put in my position and feel betrayed by the 2 people closest to you. I unlike you would ask if you are ok. Not slate you!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 The other night I had some girls over for a night in, we drunk loads of alcohol. My fiancé went to the pub and when he got back had a drink with us and went to bed. Later that night there was only me and my bestfriend left, I went for a wee and she came to talk to me, which is the norm. Suddenly she pulled her top up and walked into my bedroom telling my fella to look at her boobs, she then walked out and he said 'come back, I didn't see them!' now she is saying she did it to make me laugh and his response is to get angry with me. He doesn't remember and so recons he must have said it to shock her. The only problem is that I heard it and know him and he defo is not the type o come out with that. I am soo hurt right now, it feels like they have cheated on me. Please tell me I'm not crazy. Can I also say we aren't teenagers we are in our 30s. Did you tell your best friend how this made you feel? What did she say? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusled3 Posted October 10, 2012 Author Share Posted October 10, 2012 I was too drunk and shocked to say anything that night and just sort of laughed it of (not good I know!!) she tryed to talk to me in my room the next day all apologetic but I didn't want to speak to anyone. I haven't seen her since. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 But yet you come to a forum to discuss this. If she is your best friend you should be able to tell her how that made you feel. If he is your soon to be husband you should be able to tell him how that made you feel. You are talking to the wrong people. You need to confront them and not be afraid. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusled3 Posted October 10, 2012 Author Share Posted October 10, 2012 I didn't want to talk to anyone at the time and needed to know I wasn't crazy in being upset. Infact you guys were the only people I have spoke to till today. (apart from rowing with him) It was my first time on a site like this and not sure if it was my best ever move. Ive had a long chat with sister today and feel a lot stronger and ready to deal with this head on. Thanks thou stillafool. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 I am soo hurt right now, it feels like they have cheated on me. Please tell me I'm not crazy. Can I also say we aren't teenagers we are in our 30s. Well its definitely disrespectful that she flashed him and he wanted her to come back in the room so he could see them. I'd make sure he knows how pissed of you are about it. As far as your friend, tell her the next time she flashes your fiance, you'll cut her tits off. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 Hey, I have an idea.... Why not just give them both a warning? Tell your partner that you would prefer he looked away and at least not encourage the next women who flirts with him or .... flashes their tits at him! As for your friend, I would tell her that what she did was really disrespectful and innappropriate, but because you like enough about her FOR her to be your best friend int he first place, that if she does not pull that sh*t again, you may forgive her in time, but still need a little space initially. You know, rather than just cut her off altogether with no explanation. People get drunk and do things that are silly. I am sure she was not hinking, and if you ask her to not do it again she wouldn;t. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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