Sun Devil Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 One of the things I desire most in life is to have a girlfriend. When my family went to church, I would always pray for the same thing. This went on for 10 years and nothing happened. If there is a god, I believe that he is probably cruel and sadistic. I constantly am surrounded by girls but none of them will date me. All of my friends have no problem getting girls, yet I still am the only one with no luck. If god plans on me being single for life, I would renounce him. Over the past few months, I am starting to believe that there is no god or afterlife. If there is a god, why would he torture me like this? Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 One of the things I desire most in life is to have a girlfriend. When my family went to church, I would always pray for the same thing. This went on for 10 years and nothing happened. If there is a god, I believe that he is probably cruel and sadistic. I constantly am surrounded by girls but none of them will date me. All of my friends have no problem getting girls, yet I still am the only one with no luck. If god plans on me being single for life, I would renounce him. Over the past few months, I am starting to believe that there is no god or afterlife. If there is a god, why would he torture me like this? One way that you know God might be in the process of choosing you, is that you begin to find that certain things which you are basing your life around begin to fall through, not work, or get taken away. I know this sounds strange, especially compared to the words of Joel Osteen, but it's true and Biblical. If God loves you, he will slowly and gently give you hints that you were made for him, and that nothing else in this life will give you contentment and happiness other than him and living in his will. It's the people that God hasn't chosen (at least currently) who he allows to reach all their goals, dreams, and ambitions which are not related to him or his perfect will. Life is not what is seems, my friend. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 One of the things I desire most in life is to have a girlfriend. When my family went to church, I would always pray for the same thing. This went on for 10 years and nothing happened. If there is a god, I believe that he is probably cruel and sadistic. I constantly am surrounded by girls but none of them will date me. All of my friends have no problem getting girls, yet I still am the only one with no luck. If god plans on me being single for life, I would renounce him. Over the past few months, I am starting to believe that there is no god or afterlife. If there is a god, why would he torture me like this? God doesn't torture.We torture ourselves.We have free choice and often the decisions we make are not the right ones......cant blame god for giving us free choice now can we.God isn't vindictive or cruel people are that,God doesn't chuck tantrums and deny people their hearts desire we do that.We make the choices that precipitate our life.God is there to mend our broken hearts to give us hope to help us cope when everything is dark to forgive us when no one else will he always will if we say sorry.......You dont have to be single all your life you can make the choice not to be ......get out there and date pray that god will help light the way for you to find your life partner.In saying this, if you are wanting a relationship just so that you just aren't single then that is the problem you face..that isnt what finding a life partner is about.just not being single......not God's fault.....being in a relationship should only be for love of that person and that person returning that love a mirror image if you dont have that....it isnt a relationship....that relationship based on love and commitment then grows to incorporate a family based on love ....for me personally i adore God.......he is my rock and jesus died to forgive my multitude of sins as he did for you too....there is no greater love than that.......i would rather be single for the rest of my days if i have to than to be in a relationship that does not express God's true design....which is love....i wish you love and hope in life....as God always does for all of us.God is love and compassion......even a sinner like me can have that hope single or not..stick with your faith in God no matter how hard it gets.....even if it gets worse for you...bets wishes.......deb 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted October 9, 2012 Author Share Posted October 9, 2012 Thanks for the replies. I hate being single and although I do my hobbies and studies to distract me as best as I can, it still does not work well. If god really cares about me, then he will find a girl for me soon. I already decided to lose virginity this December if I am unable to get any dates by then. The way I see it, using a hooker is sending the message to god that I am not waiting any longer and that he is failing at finding me love. If I have no relationships by my thirties, I will simply buy a girl from a third world country. At that point, I will know for sure that god does not exist or is very cruel and does not deserve worship. By then I also would lose faith in humanity itself and would see humans as selfish and ignorant animals. Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 If god really cares about me, then he will find a girl for me soon. Hi Sun Devil, I'm not religious at all, but I do have an opinion. The only way to find a girlfriend is if you actively look for one. Do you really believe that your god will find you a girl, I mean, is that what he's there for? My understanding of faith is that we learn from deities. That we mold ourselves after them in order to be loving and compassionate people. We don't expect them to snap a finger and produce a girl. You need to get out there, and figure out why it's not working for you, then make the appropriate changes. I was alone nearly 20 years. I haven't had sex since I was 26 years old, I'm 44 now. I only started to realize lately that I need to play a 100% active role in finding my mate. Nothing is handed to us in life, we have to work for it and find it. I hope I didn't insult your religion, like I said, I'm not religious. But I truly believe that life is what WE make it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted October 9, 2012 Author Share Posted October 9, 2012 I am activly looking for girls. i have been improving myself for the past year. I have become more confident and I am building muscle. I am also improving my comunication skills. However, i have not gotten any luck. Every time it is the same. I get a number and either she does not respond or tells me that she has a boyfriend. This has happened dozens of times. I will not allow myself to be single and have no relationship expierences when I am in my 30's or 40's. Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 Maybe you need to find new places to meet women? I don't know how you're meeting them now. Link to post Share on other sites
Hawaii50 Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 Maybe you need to find new places to meet women? I don't know how you're meeting them now. He needs to >LOG OFF< First and foremost. >>>taps Screen<<< This isn't real Sun-devil.. And yes "god" very much like to torture, just depends on what testament you read You need to get out more, and stop asking girls for their numbers the first time you meet 'em. Guaranteed you're not the type that women fawn over so it will take a few meetings before they even get luke-warm around you. By overstepping the first time you meet someone, you throw up an "I'm desperate" flag.. And no women wants a seemingly desperate man. wait till like the 4th or 5th time you cross paths.. and be nice, witty, and charming the 1st, 2nd, 3rd time... All of which are things are qualities gained, not given. So even THAT will take some time. In my experience/opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 (edited) Thanks for the replies. I hate being single and although I do my hobbies and studies to distract me as best as I can, it still does not work well. If god really cares about me, then he will find a girl for me soon. I already decided to lose virginity this December if I am unable to get any dates by then. The way I see it, using a hooker is sending the message to god that I am not waiting any longer and that he is failing at finding me love. If I have no relationships by my thirties, I will simply buy a girl from a third world country. At that point, I will know for sure that god does not exist or is very cruel and does not deserve worship. By then I also would lose faith in humanity itself and would see humans as selfish and ignorant animals. The way I see it, using a hooker is sending the message to god that I am not waiting any longer and that he is failing at finding me love. If I have no relationships by my thirties, I will simply buy a girl from a third world country. Do you honestly think this will bring you happiness using a hooker for sex is not sending any message to God....It shows that you resent women and that you are not respecting them......women were not put on earth to sexually gratify you or to be in a relationship with you.God didn't plan for women to be used this way.....key word used..... you are exhibiting what god does not appreciate.....i have met a few guys like you more than a few.........STOP IT....is that clear.....You dont love women to think like this you would not treat a woman in a relationship with respect because you feel she is serving a purpose for you....nothing that you have said shows that you have love fro women or faith at all......Don't blame god for your inadequacies.....learn how to be a lover before you love a woman....Those guys I knew I gave the same advice and hopefully they took it....and now are happily married and in love with their wives...have faith real faith....God doesn't need your devotion through all your successes he needs your devotion when you are desolate and alone......thats faith......take my advice it comes from my heart...God is not your problem you are your own worst enemy....as a woman I tell you this..I am not judging you I am however telling you your attitude needs adjustment towards using women for sex....deb Edited October 10, 2012 by todreaminblue 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted October 10, 2012 Author Share Posted October 10, 2012 Online dating does not work since my height of 5 feet even is way below the height requirement of mearly all women. I do not act desperate around women. I only ask for a number after I have talked to her for at least several minutes and established some kind of connection such as interests. Since I am on a large college campus, meeting the same girl that is not in my class will be next to impossible. There are less than a few girls in all my classes since I am an engineering student. When I get a job, I am sure that there will hardly be any women coworkers. I also have lost some respect for women since I see a lot of them fall for guys that are droputs or treat them like crap. It is almost like women want to be treated like crap. I had a crush and she rejected me for 2 different guys. One chose to smoke weed instead of taking car of her and the other harassed her. Every day, I I lose more faith in god and love. I am starting to see that religion is just another scam created by selfish people to spread false hope and get their money. Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 Thanks for the replies. I hate being single and although I do my hobbies and studies to distract me as best as I can, it still does not work well. If god really cares about me, then he will find a girl for me soon. I already decided to lose virginity this December if I am unable to get any dates by then. The way I see it, using a hooker is sending the message to god that I am not waiting any longer and that he is failing at finding me love. If I have no relationships by my thirties, I will simply buy a girl from a third world country. At that point, I will know for sure that god does not exist or is very cruel and does not deserve worship. By then I also would lose faith in humanity itself and would see humans as selfish and ignorant animals. Friend, Hurting yourself or someone else (buying someone) isn't going to change anything. Acting out a temper tantrum, "I'll show you" is childish; whether it's a human being or God. You exhibit a very destructive psychology and God is doing some other girl a major favor by not opening them up to you. What do you expect to happen, "oh there is sun devil, he is buying girls so I guess I better give him what he wants, a nice, Christian girl so he can abuse her and manipulate her like he does to me". Think about what you are saying on here. Have you talked to a pastor in real life? This is just an Internet forum; it's not a way to get your primary spiritual guidance. Joel Osteen - Both Death and Life are in the Power of the Tongue - JTmor - YouTube With the short guy mind set, didn't stop Nick Vijoek! You probably have him beat by 3 feet! I Love Living Life. I Am Happy. - YouTube 3 Link to post Share on other sites
kae Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 Your surrounded by women??? God is answering your prays... He wont do the work for you!!!!!!! He gives opportunities! i would suggest praying for discernment.. for chosing wisely and for discerning how to engage the woman of choice. "God helps those who help themselves" Link to post Share on other sites
kae Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 i feel like maybe you put too much importance on women.. 10 years of prayers is intimidating. may be you need to become more well rounded.. i dont know.. its a lot of pressure.. Eeeep 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted October 10, 2012 Author Share Posted October 10, 2012 I am surrounded by women, but none of them want to date me. They eaither not respond or they tell me that they have a boyfriend. It is always been the same for the past several dozen rejections. This is just making me more frustrated. It is as though god is tormenting me. I talk to at least one girl as day and soometimes I will talk to several. I still am not getting results. Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 I am surrounded by women, but none of them want to date me. They eaither not respond or they tell me that they have a boyfriend. It is always been the same for the past several dozen rejections. This is just making me more frustrated. It is as though god is tormenting me. I talk to at least one girl as day and soometimes I will talk to several. I still am not getting results. Women are strange, dude. The second you stop giving a crap about them, they're all over you. The second you don't need them, they have spiked interest. It's like you have to want them without wanting them. Wishing and not wanting. Very delicate, complicated balance...which they can change at any moment in any way they want. Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 Women are strange, dude. The second you stop giving a crap about them, they're all over you. The second you don't need them, they have spiked interest. It's like you have to want them without wanting them. Wishing and not wanting. Very delicate, complicated balance...which they can change at any moment in any way they want. Yeah, I hear you. A spiritual woman with the mind of Christ won't do that. I've dated a few Christian women, and while we both decided the relationship was not meant for marriage, there was never any games. In the same way, a man with the mind of Christ won't lead a woman into moral compromise. But if you're dating unequally yoked (that doesn't just apply to Christian/non-Christian but also Christians with different intensities of seeking the Lord) you will deal with all kinds of carnal "power game" issues. Instead of submitting to one anther to determine if the relationship is ideal for covenant marriage, it will be a power struggle. If they continually renew their mind in Christ, they won't have these emotions: "he doesn't need me so that makes me want him more". That's a sign of insecurity, and a woman that is secure in Christ won't allow herself to make any man her idol. And while it may be a struggle, she will know if it is not healthy due to a lack of peace from the Holy Spirit and will cut it off (even if it is hard). A man with the mind of Christ will realize that he has to answer to Christ for playing games with a woman's heart (a sister in Christ) and won't do things like lead her on, manipulate her emotions or play with her heart, withdraw to show he has the power, etc. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Fugu Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 If there is a god, why would he torture me like this? Your question assumes that there is a God that is "just" and "fair" and so individualized and human-like that it can respond to your request to have a romantic partner. God could still exist. It just might not be the God that you want to believe in. Maybe God just created stuff and left you (and us) to figure it out. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 The first thing you need to realize is that God doesn't give a damn if you are happy or not. He simply does not care. With that in mind, understand that God will do nothing to help you. Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 God answers prayers for those who are His followers, who show faith in Him, and whose heart is right with Him. He answers in His own time, when He feels you are ready for it. You have shown Him that you are not that person. Your faith is fickle and conditional upon Him granting your desires. When your heart is right with God, and your faith and belief is not conditional upon getting something from Him, that is when you will be blessed. God knows your needs, but He also knows your heart, and by that He will judge whether you are ready to receive what you ask for. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted October 10, 2012 Author Share Posted October 10, 2012 Seeing what shape the world is in now, it seems like that if there is a god, that he does not care about humanity. So far, no one has proven god exists. At this rate, I will certainly become an atheist in a short amount of time. Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 God wants you to believe through faith. Anyone and everyone would believe if they were shown absolute, undeniable proof of God's existence. As for the shape of the world, this world is temporary and fallen. God's perfect world is in heaven. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 The parameters you have set are so dodgy that realistically God would be doing any woman a disservice by linking them to you via His majestic love. You do sound right next to atheism already mate. Take care, Eve x 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 This isn't what God is "for". It really drives me insane when I see athletes cross themselves when they score a goal, or get ready to compete, then if they win, say that God was with them that day, watching them.... God doesn't give a flying fig whether they score the winning goal for Luton FC or cut a second off their 400m lap time. I think, if God exists, he has more pressing matters on his noodle, than such trivia - including you getting a girl. Man up - this is your problem, and your doing. If you're failing in the dating stakes - it's all your fault. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Z Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 (edited) One way that you know God might be in the process of choosing you, is that you begin to find that certain things which you are basing your life around begin to fall through, not work, or get taken away. I know this sounds strange, especially compared to the words of Joel Osteen, but it's true and Biblical. If God loves you, he will slowly and gently give you hints that you were made for him, and that nothing else in this life will give you contentment and happiness other than him and living in his will. It's the people that God hasn't chosen (at least currently) who he allows to reach all their goals, dreams, and ambitions which are not related to him or his perfect will. Life is not what is seems, my friend. That is a losers attitude. You reach goals because you set them and work hard to achieve them. All that you have done is justify being a failure in life with a bunch of mumbo jumbo. I have seen this pattern time and time again. Some of the laziest people I've ever met use religion as an excuse for failure. The number one cause of failure is a lack of effort, not God. Edited October 10, 2012 by Robert Z 1 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 (edited) Online dating does not work since my height of 5 feet even is way below the height requirement of mearly all women. I do not act desperate around women. I only ask for a number after I have talked to her for at least several minutes and established some kind of connection such as interests. Since I am on a large college campus, meeting the same girl that is not in my class will be next to impossible. There are less than a few girls in all my classes since I am an engineering student. When I get a job, I am sure that there will hardly be any women coworkers. I also have lost some respect for women since I see a lot of them fall for guys that are droputs or treat them like crap. It is almost like women want to be treated like crap. I had a crush and she rejected me for 2 different guys. One chose to smoke weed instead of taking car of her and the other harassed her. Every day, I I lose more faith in god and love. I am starting to see that religion is just another scam created by selfish people to spread false hope and get their money. Look what you are saying is a crock.......i went out with a five footer have two kids to him actually......dont think i went out with him because i couldn't get another I had exactly three chasing me at the time....I chose him because i thought he was kind hearted and he was actively interested in helping street kids....i later found out he was disrespectful of women in general and still has a chip on his shoulder the size of a small planet.....he could have had me, but he liked to think that he could have any woman he was permanently on the hunt so our relationship ended...and retarded me still tries to help him out however i can........dont be like that with a chip on your shoulder the size of pluto...... a poster said become more well rounded(i agree) if you do you will find what you seek......height is not a factor for some women....kind heart caring compassionate respectful loving and a smile that touches people are characteristics that will get you a loving woman work on that smile.........those characteristics are actually sexy......so is sincerity......add that smile you will be working on.....you might be surprised....keep the faith.....I have been praying for answers to circumstances in my life......you know what i figured out after praying for 38 years for answers...this is what i got to my heart......everything happens for a reason....gods design is love.......and that no matter what you go through your life has a purpose......as does mine....ten years i have twenty eight on you so keep praying soldier.....chin up...some people have tragedies you could not grasp with all the intelligence and understanding the world has to offer....god grasps everything in capable hands that hold up a world that is full of despair....he is there among the despair and the hatred and the cruelty he cries for us he is there when we cry out.....he loves you....remember that..i am out now to check out the night see gods plan in that beauty..doesnt cost a cent....good luck......deb Edited October 10, 2012 by todreaminblue 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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