a tale of love, lies and deceit

[devyna]

I have a tale to tell. My life has been very interesting for the last couple of years. I suppose I should start at the beginning. September of '98 I had been living with my Cousin for the previous 5 years in various parts of Oklahoma and then in Texas. My sister was getting married though, and I came up to be here for the wedding. My sister got me a Job at U of M working as a kind of secretarial clerk. Not a great job, but for a 22/yo who dropped out of high school in the 9th grade and didn't have a diploma under her belt it was a great job. When that job was over (it was supposed to be a temporary job), my manager told one of his colleagues about me, and I was offered another temporary position. With this position came a $3 raise and more security. So I stayed in MI (my Home state) to continue with my career. From U of M came the training I would need for where life had planned for me to go next, SBC. At this point in my life, making more than anyone with my qualifications ever should have, I thought I was happy. There was something missing though, I had no one to share my happiness with.

 

Then Dan started contacting me through an internet dating service. We hit it off, and started avidly e-mailing each other. The question came of meeting. I was nervous, but I said to myself, "What the hell, ya only live once!" So he came to my place and we spent the next 8 hours talking about everything and nothing at all. He was a complete gentleman, and I was struck with cupids arrow. The relationship had but one crutch, the distance between us. So he moved in with me, my Uncle and Brother. Things were going great, then I lost my job due to consolidation within he company. I had been offered a transfer to Texas, and Dan was all for it, but I didn't want to leave my Uncle alone with my Brother. (that is a whole other story) So I didn't take the Job, and Dan started resenting me for it. Then, he got into a wreck while driving at work and broke 7 ribs. He couldn't work and was on Workman's comp. I was unemployed and on unemployment. Times were tough all around. Then when he was able to go back to work he just didn't. I began resenting him for that. For a couple months he was jobless, and didn't seem to be looking. I was paying for everything, and becoming more and more resentful.

 

Then his Mom got him a job where she works. He decided to take it and move us both up to live with his parents. My Father and his wife moved in with my Uncle to help with my Brother, and Dan and I moved in with his parents. I was in troubled waters, no job, no friends and living in an area I didn't know. I did eventually find a job though, after a couple months of hunting. I ended up back with SBC. I was excited! Things started to look up again. Life was good!

 

Then Dan was acting weird, and the night before I started my new job I finally got it out of him. He had been meeting with an ex of his for coffee. He missed her and wanted to try giving his failed relationship with her another try. Just like that, my world came crashing in on me. I had no where to go, no one to turn to. I was stuck, 80 miles from my Family, starting a new job in less than 8 hours. I decided to stay at his parents and start that job. I met some nice people the next day, shared my story and was offered a place to stay with one of my new friends. 13 days later, I moved in with her and her BF.

 

Then I started receiving calls from Dan, asking if he can visit. At first I saw him, only to get my mail. He always tried kissing me, but I wouldn't allow it at first. Then I though, "what the hell, I may as well get some pleasure out of this!" So we started fooling around. Things didn't work out with his ex and we decided to get into an apartment as friends w/benefits. Things were starting to look up again, but then he started dating another girl. He told me about her and how he felt and I took it in stride. Then his tune started changing, telling me he was going to dump her and telling her he loved her. He finally got her in the sack and got her pregnant. She tried to trap him into the relationship as soon as he tried to break up with her. He finally broke it off and decided to try working things out with me again. Now there was another factor to worry about though, the baby.

 

Things were good once again, or so I thought. Dan still harbored resentment towards me, and to be honest I had a lot of anger and resentment towards him. I had a few friends online that I talked dirty to, all innocent and in fun. I didn't know that Dan was accessing my account and reading everything I had written. He used this as his ammunition to break up with me...shortly after getting me the ring of my dreams . I had stopped talking to those friends in that manner as soon as he got me a ring, I thought things were getting serious at that point. Well, he took the ring away from me and ended it once again.

 

What I then found out was that he had been contacted by another one of his ex's through his website. My ring went to her. He is now dating her, even though she lives about 1000 miles away. However, even after our third break-up we never stopped having sex. I was using him for my satisfaction and he was using me for an output of sex from not being able to have it with her. I got a hold of some things he had said about me to her and was very hurt, but I kept our relations a secret. He moved back in with his parents and I got my own place. Up until last Friday he was still coming over rather regularly for sex. He stayed the night Friday and deleted all kinds of stuff off of my computer. Needless to say I was not happy. When he left it was not on good terms. Now I find that he has informed his new GF of things from my past that are VERY secret to me. So I have blown up completely and shared everything with her. She doesn't believe me of course, but I have come clean.

 

So, how do you convince someone that the person they are with is a lying, cheating a**h*** from hell that will only hurt them if they are not willing to hear it? The funny thing is that this same GF tried to break Dan and I up previously...funny how the world turns.

[dudesomewhere]

dude peeks into a room...sees everybody wearing the same feathers and bickering

 

funny room