Stripe Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 Hello guys, It has been such a long time but I decided to come back for to get some advice on what to do. I recently graduated and I find it really hard to get a job. The unemployment is very real in the United States. I have been having problems with low energy and trying to go out. I haven't had a job since 2009 and it is stressing me out about how physically draining it is, even going back to school working on projects in the library is draining to me. Anyways, I have been depressed this passed couple of months after I graduated. When I graduated I only felt good for about a week until reality hit me on the realism of me finding a job. I have not felt successful about my love life and I think I need to improve on myself but I feel like that is going to take a long time. I still have yet to find a woman. I feel more unattractive than I used to which is odd because I thought I was attractive but there is something about me that I am finding unattractive. I met this girl that I like and was surprised that she would even want to talk to me and I really felt that I could possibly have her, but the problem is that I don't know if she notices that we mesh amazingly well. I think that she is out of my league because she goes out to all these places and travels with other people, sometimes guys show up with her and I don't know what they are doing but it isn't my place to confront her about anything because we are not even dating. However, I am at the brink of giving up completely. I tried online dating (again) and after 2 days I deleted it. I had a bad conversation with a girl on the online part I only said a few words and somehow it offended her and the conversation ended in less than a minute. I didn't realize what I say can be so bad and offensive that not even girls on the internet are interested in me. I don't know what to do in my life. I have been to counseling before for 2 years straight during my tenure at my local University. However, describing these things makes it seem like I have to start over and seek counseling. But I don't have a job nor money and nobody is considering me for hire. I guess my question is how to keep my motivation up and have high energy so I can work out things? How do I go back into the workforce feeling good and confident about myself? Also, why do I feel like I lost my attractiveness to women? Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 Generally when I feel overwhelmed by various problems, it's because I'm not focusing on and tackling them one at a time. Shelve the love life for now, and concentrate on finding a job. What's your degree in? Do you do any volunteer work? Is grad school an option? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stripe Posted October 10, 2012 Author Share Posted October 10, 2012 (edited) Generally when I feel overwhelmed by various problems, it's because I'm not focusing on and tackling them one at a time. Shelve the love life for now, and concentrate on finding a job. What's your degree in? Do you do any volunteer work? Is grad school an option? It's Film and Media. I don't volunteer and grad school I need certain qualifications to get into it for example I need to show my best written work, my best video work and a couple of others. I actually wanted to a job for some sort of experience first and get into grad school later. My parents won't pay for grad school. I have been in school too long but somehow managed to finish. I know I have been getting a lot of doubts from people about my degree and it only makes things worse. I believe that I am good at it thought and I have been working with techniques, learning how to produce and I also made my own soundtrack as well as edit, all of which is not that easy. Edited October 10, 2012 by Stripe Link to post Share on other sites
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