RoadWarrior Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 Hello all again. I posted earlier today about a new interest I have (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t44250/). Well, there's an update. I asked her if she wanted to go to lunch today (we work together). She said she couldn't, she had business to take care of. That was cool. Well, I just happened be leaving for lunch at the same time she was (it really was purely coincidence) and she was leaving with the guy that I was wondering about it my other thread! She saw me and I could see the expression on her face change, but I'm not sure what the look was-- don't know if she felt like she was caught or maybe she felt like I was going to be hurt. The minute she got back, she e-mailed me asking how my lunch was. Am I just being paranoid? I'm not sure if I should confront her with this or just play it cool. I'm really cool with her having male friends and hanging out with them. But the fact that she didn't tell me who she was going with makes me really suspicious. How should I handle this. I need advice quickly, because if I don't answer her e-mail shortly, she'll probably come and see me. Link to post Share on other sites
Taken_Angel Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 is this your gf? I didn't read the other post...if it is then yes you have the right to ask her why she went out with him and not you. I think that's rude. If she is just someone you're interested in then you can't really say anything. Tell her you had a good lunch and ask her how her's was...if she is your gf i think that it is disrespectful to go out to lunch (assuming you two work together) with another man what will people think? It is a delicate situation I guess and since I don't know all the info I say be careful and be honest about how you feel about it. Link to post Share on other sites
RoadWarrior Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 We have been dating for a couple of months now, and she had called me her "boyfriend", but we've never talked and officially declared our status. She has told me that I'm the only one she's with, though. Link to post Share on other sites
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 Am I just being paranoid? I'm not sure if I should confront her with this or just play it cool. I'm really cool with her having male friends and hanging out with them. But the fact that she didn't tell me who she was going with makes me really suspicious. How should I handle this. I need advice quickly, because if I don't answer her e-mail shortly, she'll probably come and see me. Aren't you only dating? If you're only dating then to be completely honest it's none of your business who she went to lunch with and if I were her and you confronted me I'd tell you to back off a bit. I'd feel like you were treating me like I was a piece of property and we're not even in a relationship! Just play it off. Tell her lunch was great and ask her how her lunch was. Act like nothing happened. Link to post Share on other sites
tiger Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 Since you've been dating for a couple of months, and she's given you reason to believe that it's exclusive, then I think you have reason to simply ask her what was the business that she had to take care of? She could have been having lunch with that guy for a million reasons that have nothing to do with you, so you shouldn't jump to any conclusions, but you're obviously having some internal conflict about this and if you hold onto it it'll just stagnate and come up sometime in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
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