joseph Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 Ok here's the situation: my friend of about 6-7 yrs has become very antisocial in our age of having fun, we're both 21. He has an xbox, a PS2 and a gamecube...and the only human interaction he has (if you want to call it that) is the chatting on the headset of this game called Socom Navy Seals. I pop in to his place every once in a while, to see what's up..and he's all pale from sitting inside wasting away, rather than enjoying the nice summer weather. When I invite him out to do something, I find he always has an excuse why he cant go. Im getting sick of trying here. Im on the verge of just never calling again, but for some reason, when Im doing something, I find myself inviting him, even though he most likely wont go. He has met a girl on that game he has, and she lives in florida..we live in canada.. im baffled by this, but the whole situation is weird, it's like taboo, we never discuss the fact that he's completely antisocial and the only way I found out about this girl is through his dad...it's like he's embarassed. Anyways, the summers wasting away, and so is he, any thoughts/help/suggestions on this guy? Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 If he doesn't want to go, you can't force him. Why is the subject taboo? If you have been friends that long it seems like you should be able to tell him that you are worried about his health and would like to see him get out and have some fun with you sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
simplybrill Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 its ok dude, im sure you're not the only guy who's good friend's turned into a nerdy gamer overnight... tell him that while you understand his anti-social tendencies, and you are really glad he's dating a girl over a headset, that he needs to "unplug" and hang out once in a while, cuz he's being shady- pardon the pun. My bro is the same way, just shuts himself up in his room all the time playing. Hokey is right, if he doesnt want to, you cant make him go anywhere. But the tough love might be worth a shot. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Haunani Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 It sure can get pretty tiring trying to lure someone out of the house that is just stuck inside. My son is like that and I literally had to unplug the computer and take the cords away, also his xbox, and have some ground rules. So he started playing outside, I was so happy. Then I discovered they opened some computer place around the corner where you pay for membership to sit on the computer and play games with each other.......I'm like, no way. But since you're friend is an adult. If you talk to him like your bro, and he waves you off, then before you give him the ax, I'd try to send an email, maybe then he will hear you, and if not, so be it. Link to post Share on other sites
bookworm Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 I'm in the same situation, only It's not my friend, It's my girlfriend. She never wants to go out with mutual friends. She's too scared. She never wants to see me perform with my Guitar ensemble, Cuz she's too afraid to mingle with my friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author joseph Posted July 29, 2004 Author Share Posted July 29, 2004 Originally posted by HokeyReligions If he doesn't want to go, you can't force him. Why is the subject taboo? If you have been friends that long it seems like you should be able to tell him that you are worried about his health and would like to see him get out and have some fun with you sometimes. I say that we've been friends for 6 yrs or so, but for the past 2 yrs Ive been out of our original home town going to school. Our friendship has definitely taken a turn for the worse. The subject is taboo, well, because I don't know, lol, I just never bring it up... I just feel wierd saying, hey yo, why are you so antisocial? come out with me and some buds., I wouldnt put it that way, but I think either way thats the way he'd take it. Tell ya what though, Im actually gonna email him (he doesnt have a phone) tonight and see if he wants to go out with me and some other guys for a bit. A little experiment lol , ill let you guys know what he excuse he says. Link to post Share on other sites
Author joseph Posted July 31, 2004 Author Share Posted July 31, 2004 well, its friday night, and im showered. Ill be heading out with some freinds shortly, and well, I can call him up if I want. But he never did respond to that email I sent a couple days ago. Its funny, cause he doesnt have a phone, so I stop by his place, all cleaned up to go out or whatever, and he's lying on his bed playing video games, I just feel plain sorry for the guy, he should be out having fun..,but anyways, let me know if you guys think I should axe this slug or what? or should I invite him to my cottage tomorrow night, (those are my plans..) thanks people, you rock Link to post Share on other sites
simplybrill Posted August 1, 2004 Share Posted August 1, 2004 Well, I would invite, but dont be too broken up if he cant seem to pull himself away from his beloved games...he's digging himself into a social hole here... Have you talked to him about all of this yet? He may not even realize he's being so antisocial. Link to post Share on other sites
Dork Posted August 6, 2004 Share Posted August 6, 2004 You can't help him, look for another friend if you want someone that's more active. Link to post Share on other sites
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